“You’re causing this by continuing to nurse your toddler.” – OB to mother being seen for her third recurrent miscarriage.
“No, you don’t understand. Because you had a past miscarriage you WILL have postpartum depression and won’t be able to bond with your son properly. If you’d like, I can refer you to a psychiatrist to prescribe you medication when you get discharged.” – Midwife to mother who had lost a previous baby.
“Tell her to suck it up.” – OB anesthesiologist regarding a mother who asked for an epidural near the end of her incredibly painful induction to deliver her stillborn baby.
“Babies know when they’re not wanted. Once you’re really ready, it’ll work.” – OB to mother experiencing her second miscarriage.
“So, you are here to follow-up on your miscarriage?” – OB Clinic Nurse while looking at the HcG levels of the mother at 14 weeks who was there for a follow up appointment for spotting.
“I’m so sorry for the bad news. Nothing you did caused this and there was nothing you could have done to prevent it. What questions do you have for me?” – OB to mother who had just been diagnosed with a pregnancy loss.
“Next time you have a big baby, just opt for the cesarean section and you can be over with and done a lot sooner. They’re not as bad as you think.” – L&D Nurse to mother who had labored for a long time to birth a baby that had passed away during the labor.
“So, what do you think made this one stick?” – OB to mother at 6 month prenatal appointment, referring to the mother’s three previous miscarriages.
“Are you sure she’s pregnant?” – OB to nurse, talking over mother worried about possible symptoms of miscarriage
“There might be some tissue stuck and I can get it out, then your bleeding will lessen.” – OB/Gyn to mother who was miscarrying. After the mother saw the tissue in a specimen jar, she realized it was her baby that the doctor was referring to as tissue.