“You deserve a trophy, momma! You are a rock star!” – Midwife to mother who birthed a 10 pound 10 ounce, 24 inch baby at home.
“I still think you’re in very early labor and the first thing you will want to do is get an epidural.” – Midwife coordinating a transfer from home to hospital. The mother was checked 5 minutes later in the hospital and was in transition.
‘This isn’t vacation, honey. It’s labor!”- L&D nurse to mother on arrival, who was vocalizing through contractions. The mother had transferred from a home birth and already had a long and hard labor prior to being admitted.
“I don’t even know why they let her in here.” – Birth Center Midwife to Hospital Midwife, during a phone conversation, while arranging a transfer to the hospital. The mother had epilepsy, but her transfer had nothing to do with her well-managed and symptom free disease.
“You have an anterior lip. I just got a call from another family, don’t push until I get back.” – Midwife called to the homebirth of her client who had been in labor and was involuntarily pushing.
“The doctor had discontinued care with you.” – OB office staff to mother who called when she was showing symptoms of miscarrying. The mother had mentioned the idea of a homebirth at her previous appointment but had not made any firm decision or discontinued care yet.
“She got this from you, because she was born at home.” Doctor to mother when the mother took the newborn in for a suspected eye infection. It was a blocked tear duct.
“I’m sure everything will go just fine, but know if anything does go wrong you can always come here for any reason.” – OB to mother who was planning a home birth.
“If you need to transfer to a hospital for your birth, you are no longer under the control of your midwife. You become our patient at that point and then WE have the control.” – Hospital midwife to mother when discussing if or when a transfer became necessary.
“You give her the baby, you were the one who she wanted to have catch it.” – L&D Nurse to the home birth midwife after a home birth transfer. The nurse gave the midwife the baby to give to the mother.