Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
Jan
11
Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“Well, I Can Get You Dilated, But That Doesn’t Mean A Baby.”
“Well, I can get you dilated, but that doesn’t mean a baby.” - OB to mother when the mother expressed excitement after reaching 9cm.
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What a strange thing for the OB to say – he/she ‘got’ her dilated? Didn’t her own body do that? And surely, if she’s 9 cm then it won’t be more than an hour or two before the baby should appear?
I’m guessing the OB is taking the credit for the dilation because he/she induced the lady but even so, strange comment.
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Dear goodness, I hope this OB is not talking about manual dilation. That is abuse in my book!
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Sarah Reply:
January 12th, 2013 at 9:48 am (Quote)
In all fairness, not all manual dilation is abusive. I had extensive scarring from two LEEPs and several biopsies when I was pregnant with my youngest, #8. My longest pregnancy was 39+3, I always start dilating by about 35 weeks and my Osborn with #7 was 20 minutes. At my 38 week appointment I want even staying to dilate, and doc said we could schedule induction the following week (he doesn’t like to do them before then and prefers to wait until at least 41) or we could wait. I was afraid I’d hit pushing, still not be dilated and end up with a section. I agreed top the induction. Every step of the way, doc made suggestions and asked what I wanted. I did have a lot of things that I wouldn’t have chosen otherwise, but under the circumstances, nothing was done that I didn’t agree to. That said, I would definitely agree that without a very good medical reason AND full consent, it would be abusive.
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What an arrogant, narcissistic jerk! Way to shoot down someone’s accomplishment too. Even if the OB did induce, it was the woman’s body that still had to do the work. I hate it when OBs take away all the credit for women’s achievements, like getting pregnant, dialating, and giving birth. It grinds my nerves when they say that they “delivered” a baby, when what they did was actually “attend” a birth or “assist” a woman in giving birth. When I hear the former, I have to resist the urge to say, “Oh, you mean you pushed that baby out of your OWN vagina?? How nice of you to do that for your patient!” Makes it all the more amusing when the OB is male. 
I can’t wait to see the pink link of this one.
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AmyW Reply:
January 11th, 2013 at 7:41 am (Quote)
Oh, and to add to that, OBs technically do “deliver” some babies. The ones they deliver via c-section. THOSE they can take credit for, since technically they do all the work of getting the baby out. Had to be fair, there.
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Jane Reply:
January 11th, 2013 at 8:39 am (Quote)
The laboring mom had the gall to be excited at her progress, you see. We can’t have women feeling powerful and positive during labor. They might not return to the hospital.
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genniemom Reply:
January 11th, 2013 at 6:16 pm (Quote)
Lol. I met a woman once who was raving about her OB because he “got her pregnant.” I told her she should call the police immediately. She didn’t enjoy the joke, though.
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Kate Reply:
January 14th, 2013 at 4:13 pm (Quote)
Was it because she was coping with possible infertility? In that case, I find nothing wrong with the woman celebrating that her OB “got her pregnant”. To say that she should call the police is a bad joke–something that we’d rip apart if it was posted on here. Insensitive, wrong.
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Samantha W had this to say,
Jan 11, 2013 @ 9:25 am (Quote)
This is mine.
Where to start. This was said to me during my VBAC-TOL with my second child. I had gone to the hospital two days prior and was told I was in prodromal labor. I had gone to the hospital because my contractions were every 2-3 minutes lasting a minute long and my doula looked at me and said “we need to go now”. I was not dilated and they sent me home and said “come back when you can’t deal anymore”. I refused to go back, labor that night and the entire following day until I had my Chiropractor adjust me and that send me flying into labor. I had arrived exhausted but dilating. Got in the tub for awhile, it was amazing and allowed me to relax and dilate. Then they made me get out because they had to monitor, since I was a vbac and refused to let me go back to the tub. At that point I agreed to an epidural, which I knew would lead to pit. I was okay with this because I wanted my vbac! So I was laboring and dilating with the pit, the doctor comes in and checks me and I was 9cm (much further than I had made it with my first born. I was thrilled and said so, then she threw this gem out there. Insinuating that I would not be successful at pushing and would end up with another c-section. I am happy to say that after 65 hours of labor and 2.5 hours of pushing I got my VBAC! Another doctor (the one I love) was the one that actually delivered me and after he was born I said “Dr____ can suck it!” she laughed.
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Jane Reply:
January 11th, 2013 at 9:57 am (Quote)
Congrats on your VBAC! It sounds like the doctor wanted to undermine you, but I’m glad you didn’t let it get to you.
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AmyW Reply:
January 11th, 2013 at 12:38 pm (Quote)
“Dr. ___ can suck it!”
I’m unable to stop giggling at that one. I can actually envision this, and it’s priceless. I’m so happy you got what you and your baby needed, despite ol’ Debbie Downer trying to psych you out. You’re one determined woman and you deserve an in-person apology from Dr. ___.
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“Paging Doctor Debbie Downer to L&D….Paging Doctor Debbie Downer to L&D….oh, wait, my mistake, you’re already here.”
Hey, Doc? You didn’t get her dilated. She got herself dilated. Just a little note there.
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Hannah Reply:
January 11th, 2013 at 7:31 am Hannah(Quote)
Ha ha – I like it!
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Steph in Lex Reply:
January 11th, 2013 at 9:53 am Steph in Lex(Quote)
SERIOUSLY! Debbie Downer was my FIRST THOUGHT.
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Goldilocks Reply:
January 12th, 2013 at 10:31 am Goldilocks(Quote)
I have to admit that doesn’t even make sense to me, women kind of do the dilating bit. Sometimes we augment the contractions, with meds, but I can’t see how we can be said to have dilated someone.
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