Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
Holiday Sweets! “…That’s The Right Answer.”
Midwife: ”Would you like to be checked?”
Mother: ”I would rather not.”
Midwife: ”Good, that’s the right answer.”
Conversation at 36 week appointment.
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Mama Wrench had this to say,
Dec 31, 2012 @ 7:32 pm (Quote)
Hmmm… I’m pretty sure whichever Mom wanted is the right answer 
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Kristin Reply:
December 31st, 2012 at 8:07 pm (Quote)
Why would a pelvic exam/cervical check be needed in a low-risk, complication-free pregnancy?
Doesn’t sticking things in there raise the risk of infection and/or early labor, as well as giving a naughty OB the change to do something against your wishes?
(Actually asking, not trying to be snarky.)
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Kristy Reply:
December 31st, 2012 at 9:33 pm (Quote)
She didn’t say it was a great choice to do it… she said it was *mom’s* choice to make. If the midwife told her that it wasn’t truely needed and did carry some risk but mom still wanted to do it… then that would be the right answer for her.
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Carrie Reply:
January 1st, 2013 at 6:47 am (Quote)
I can give you my personal experience, if you like. I asked for a cervical check during my 36 week checkup, and my midwife refused. I’d been feeling like something was “wrong” and needed some reassurance that everything was ok. Come to find out at my 38 week checkup, there really was something wrong (footling breach, polyhydramnios, 3 cm dilation, and daughter born by section that day, later diagnosed with a serious birth defect)!
Now, I don’t know if checking me at 36 weeks would have told us anything at all, but it would have reassured me somewhat, or given me a “head’s up!” instead of being blindsided a couple weeks later.
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Mama Wrench Reply:
January 1st, 2013 at 9:34 am (Quote)
Yup, this is exactly the type of situation I was referring to. I requested a c/e at my 36-week because I was feeling “different” from usual; my OB checked and said I was at 3 cm and his head was way low. Sure enough, he was born 2 days later. I don’t know whether dilation or station had much or anything to do with it, but it put me at ease knowing that what I was feeling was due to things moving along rather than because something was wrong.
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Steph in Lex Reply:
January 2nd, 2013 at 12:08 pm (Quote)
I’m with you. Actually, if this had happened to me I would’ve kind of been thinking, uh, would I have gotten myself onto some kind of undesirable list if I had accepted?
I liked the fact that during my last pregnancy my provider always asked if I’d like to be checked and didn’t comment one way or another whether I said yes or no.
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This was the only appointment with my midwives I was asked to be checked. I think she only asked at this appointment since I was getting the group b strep test.
Having read so much on here before about overbearing medical professionals I was relieved when said I didn’t want to get checked & that was okay with her too.
I loved my midwives!
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Where is this midwife and how can I hire her for my next pregnancy?
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