Dec 182012

“Nothing tastes as good as pushing for one hour less feels!” – Midwife to mother who started out at a higher weight than normal.  Midwife was suggesting that the mother was eating too much.

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 December 18, 2012  Big Baby, Fatness, Midwife, prenatal  Add comments

  37 Responses to ““Nothing Tastes As Good As Pushing For One Hour Less Feels!””

  1. The original of this line is one of the things that makes me fume. Because telling me that the only way to “Health ” is denial and starvation is going to inspire me.

    Also… My fat body pushed out two babies… One in under 15 minutes, one in under a minute.

    • But just think… one less twinkie and you could have pushed for negative 59 minutes! Now that would have been something to see.

    • I always gain enough weight in my pregnancies to hit 200. I’m 5’7″ and usually start pregnancy at 150. So that is a full 50lbs (it freaks obs out) but my most recent baby was born with 6 hours of labor and TWO pushes. I didn’t watch what I ate at all and rarely excercised. This whole fat phobia people have about pregnant women is sickening. I’ve known women who only gained 10lbs in pregnancy and had a much rougher l&d than I did!

  2. My nine-pounder came out in one push. I wonder what foods I wasn’t eating in order to accomplish that. **eyeroll**

  3. Does weight have ANYTHING to do with pushing?

    • The only thing that I can come up with is that this midwife is implying that people who are overweight are not athletic (and yes, I do know that this is not necessarily true for several reasons). Pushing can be hard, physical work, therefore a non-athletic person might have a harder, longer pushing stage. So if you’re skinny pushing will be easy and fast because skinny equals healthy/athletic. I think it’s stupid, false, and mean, but that’s the only explanation I’ve come up with…

    • I thought she may have been implying that fewer calories = smaller baby = less time pushing. Which is also BS…

    • I think the midwife is referring to the concept of soft tissue dystocia, in which the presence of or pressure from excess soft tissue prevents/complicates a vaginal delivery.

  4. Yes, also, the fat in the vagina makes it virtually impos—-
    Sorry, can’t do it with a straight face.
    Position and letting mom eat and drink at will during labor will do more for her pushing ability than denying herself during pregnancy.

    And then, if mom starves herself and still pushes for two hours, and is pissed at the midwife, then what? Sounds like the midwife is promising an easy 2nd stage. Never a good idea to promise something you can’t deliver. (‘Scuse the pun.)

  5. The only appropriate response to this kind of nitwittery is a loud and hearty laugh right in the face of the professional who proclaims in. Preferably before witnesses.

  6. Pretty disturbing that a nurse would use a pro-ana quote for a pregnant woman…


    I’m sure there is a search party by now.

  8. I was 230 when I gave birth to my third baby, (gained 37 lbs with that pregnancy) and pushed her out in TWO PUSHES! Weight has nothing to do with pushing!

    • Yep, weighed over 200 lbs with each of my births. Pushed out my first, 9 lb 12 oz, after about an hour of pushing. My second, who weighed in at 10 lb, 3 oz, came out in 2.5 pushes (the .5 is one that I didn’t time to a contraction!). So, there, lady!

      Hmmm, maybe all my FAT pushed the baby out. ha ha ha ha

  9. Now, having spent 4 hours pushing a baby out, I do fall on the side of nothing being quite as nice as shaving an hour or 3 off the pushing time. That said, I don’t think what I ate or how much weight I gained contributed to my son’s nuchal arm.

  10. I’m one of those skinny bitches who was athletic and ate healthy during pregnancy, and I pushed for 2.5 hours. So there goes that theory.

  11. I’m one of the ‘skinny’ ones too who couldn’t gain the recommended amount of weight. Baby #1 took 1.5 hours to push out, flat on my back. Baby #2 was 10 minutes of me insisting I was not going to push or have a baby, and them trying to convince me baby was coming either way. That one was 0 pushes with me on my side because I refused to stand up, get on my knees, or roll over. So obviously weight doesn’t matter. More the number of babies, and positioning.

  12. Midwife- may I suggest you try some different recipes or dining establishments? Obviously the food you’ve been eating hasn’t been as well prepared as it could be. . .

  13. I, too, was threatened with not getting to attempt a VBAC if my prepregnancy BMI put me in the “obese” category. At 180, I was 30.0–the cutoff for obesity. They found another reason to not “allow” me to VBAC at that hospital and I ended up going to another.

    When all was said and done, I gained 35 pounds and was 215 when I went into labor. I had my first big contraction at 8 am, checked into the hospital at 8:54, and gave birth, vaginally, no medication, to my daughter four hours later.

    So much for my “fat vagina.” It’s really the boobs and the stomach that are the problem.

    And again dispelling the myth that skinny = healthy: when I was 20 years old, I weighed probably 110 pounds. I was smoking a pack a day and eating about one meal a day, which came from where I was working–McDonald’s. As I type this, I am still hovering around 200 pounds, but I have been working out virtually since I was cleared after delivering my daughter. I began working out five and a half weeks ago and work out for at least 45 minutes every single day, and have only missed four days since I started working out again. So…I wonder during which phase in my life I would be considered healthier.

  14. Ugh. Big fat me (close to 300 by term) has VERY short pushing times. We’re talking under an hour, every time. The range is 15 min to 40 min.

    Stick that in your pipe and smoke it, fat-phobic midwife. :/

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