Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“…You’ve Got To Hurry Up & Focus On That Baby.”
“Hey listen, you’ve got to hurry up and focus on that baby.” – L&D nurse to mother who was pushing.
Yeah, push faster! Because no birth is complete without broken blood vessels in yer face and something prolapsed down in yer nethers, amirite?
It’s a labor room, not an assembly line!
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I was told to stop focusing on my baby and that I wouldn’t be allowed to hold her until I pushed out the placenta. THAT’S what broke the blood vessels in my face bc I wanted to hold my baby so I was purple pushing the placenta.
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Baby!?! What baby? OH! THAT baby! What exactly did you think I was focusing on nurse idiot!?!
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Oh, sorry! I thought I was here to watch the game. We don’t have cable at home!
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paula Reply:
November 13th, 2012 at 2:50 pm (Quote)
This comment puts me in mind of the Futurama episode where we see a flashback to Fry’s birth. Fry’s mom is far more interested in who is winning the lastg game of the World Series than the impending birth. When her team wins, she calls it the happiest day of her life. When Fry puts in his appearance right after the game ends, she’s all ‘meh’. Maybe the nurse thought the OP was too wrapped up in the game. (sarcasm intended)
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I’ve worked with a whole lot of pregnant woman but I’ve never had a baby myself, so let me ask this to all of you that actually have children. Was there any point during active labor that you were NOT focused on your baby?
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Proginoskes Reply:
November 12th, 2012 at 4:33 pm (Quote)
There were, but most of those moments were “Owwwwww this huuuurts!!!”
With my first pregnancy (my daughter), I was loopy on demerol for most of my labor. I only got it because they had flat on my back after the OB broke my water artificially without permission. And of course once I was nice and out of it, they gave pitocin without consent or indication, which added quite a few more of those moments, I’d bet.
*sigh* If only I had found this site before then!
With my sons, I had a fast yet entirely bearable labor, and everything was lovely until they saw the position of Twin B and recommended a section. I consented and within 20 minutes they were out. I was much more focused on them during that labor, it was actually a better experience!
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Jane Reply:
November 12th, 2012 at 5:47 pm (Quote)
Actually, I almost never focused on the baby during labor. When I was in active labor, I went deep inside myself and was focused on the way my body was working, on the sensations, and my own processing. The baby wasn’t a part of it. Neither were my surroundings, to be honest. When I pushed, I thought about pushing. When I had contractions, I thought about contracting. When I was resting between contractions, I thought about resting.
It was the most here-and-now I’ve ever been in my life, what I imagine a hypnotic state to be like (and I was not doing hypnobirthing, although I’d read the book.)
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SculptorAlison Reply:
November 13th, 2012 at 1:19 pm (Quote)
I do the same thing. With my first birth there were times that I was too distracted to be able to and that’s when things were painful and distressing. It is a form of self-hypnosis that some people are capable of doing without being taught. My second birth was awesome because I knew that’s what was going to happen and prepared everything so that I could remain focused.
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Nobody addresse the hurry up part. Why does mom have to hurry up? If mo is pushing then she is pushing. What does this nurse want a cannon ball blasting through and leaving a horrible tear? And why the heck does she have to listen to you. Maybe she is in labor land where nursie-poo doesn’t even exist. Leave the woman alone! Nursie-poo is not the center of attention nor should she be!
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She’s pushing, what more do you want?
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