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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
Thoughtful Thursday! “…You’ll Be More Comfortable In Your Own Clothes.”
I’m going to step out to let you get dressed. You’ll be more comfortable in your own clothes.” – OB to mother after a vaginal ultrasound that confirmed a pregnancy loss. The OB then returned to answer any questions.
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As nice as I’m sure this was for this OP… hesitates… Wouldn’t it be nice if they would stop telling us how we feel.
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Jane Reply:
June 8th, 2012 at 8:30 am (Quote)
I see what you’re saying, but I wonder if the doctor wasn’t giving the mother space to break down if she didn’t feel comfortable crying in front of a doctor…?
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Kathy Reply:
June 11th, 2012 at 5:41 am (Quote)
OP here – full story below.
I have no doubt that was part of it Jane. And he was absolutely right, I *was* more comfortable in my own clothes. I had never met this OB before, but I imagine after 20 years as an OB he’s figured out that discussing something like that half-naked is not how women would like to be. I certainly did not have the presence of mind to ask to get dressed. When I remember that conversation, I know the memory would be more triggering for me if I had still been undressed.
To be honest, it’s a bit irritating that even with the TT posts, somebody has to find something negative to say. 
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I think this would be really nice for every exam. It’s so awkward to discuss things with your doctor while you’re naked from the waist down after an exam. I’d like it if my doctor always let me get dressed before coming back for questions about my health.
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This is mine. I’m going to preface this by saying I don’t like doctors, and I due to experiences in prior pregnancies and births, OBs make my skin crawl. I think the vast majority of them need to be retrained in natural birth or at minimum ought to be sent to The Farm and forced to watch a few dozen births while sitting on their hands and gagged.
That being said, I cannot say enough positive things about this OB. I was not his patient, but the client of a HB midwife he backed up. When she couldn’t find heart tones at my 12 week appointment, he double-booked me into his schedule first thing the next morning for an u/s. He did it himself and found I had a blighted ovum. He was understanding, compassionate, and took as much time as we needed to get all our questions answered…and I wasn’t even his patient.
Three days later, I was in the hospital from heavily bleeding and passing large clots for a total of 25 hours. He left his clinic practice (during a regular office day for him) and came to the hospital to check on me because my nurse told him something was really wrong. He got there right as a couple residents were doing a pelvic, sort of moved them aside, checked me out for about 15 seconds and then called down to book an OR for an immediate D&C…and I wasn’t even his patient.
I had three units of blood before I went home, and even after his “job” was done he was readily available by phone for more questions I had, and when I needed some sleeping pills.
Wonderful, wonderful doc.
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Aron Reply:
June 10th, 2012 at 2:55 am (Quote)
I am so glad you had someone so proactively thoughtful to care for you during such a difficult time. If you are up for it, I bet he would love to get a note from you in the future letting him know the difference he made compared to your other experiences. I am so sorry for your loss.
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That was very nice and thoughtful. It is hard for a doctor or nurse to tell a patient they had a miscarriage, but this doctor sounded very understanding and professional.
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