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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“…I Must’ve Been A Seamstress In Another Life…”
“Wow, I must’ve been a seamstress in another life to be able to put you back together.” - OB as tears on the perineum and at the clitoris were repaired.
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Dana had this to say,
May 15, 2012 @ 9:36 am (Quote)
This is mine, but I can’t Pink the Link on the mobile version.
I was in labor with my daughter for 4 hours, and pushed for only 20 minutes before she was born. My OB was instructing me to push hard through every contraction and I was just so excited to meet my baby I didn’t even think to slow down so I wouldn’t tear. My mom said one second my daughter wasn’t there and the next she was, covered in blood – mine. It took 45 minutes to stitch up the tears, abd the whole time I kept asking to see my baby. 
It took over 4 months to heal, thankfully without any permanent damage, but sex was painful for nearly 2 years afterward.
My daughter just turned 4, I’m 33 weeks pregnant with our second baby, and I am NOT seeing that OB any more! I have a wonderful midwife and support team this time around to avoid this problem. 
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Jenny Islander had this to say,
May 15, 2012 @ 1:56 pm (Quote)
Hey, OB, on the off chance you ever read this:
“Wow, I’m so good, go me, go me,” is the kind of thing you should have learned not to say out loud when you were in grade school. Your clients are not there to give you ego strokes. Your clients are there because you are providing a service. So shush up and provide the service.
Not to mention that your failure to wait caused the tearing (into the clitoris sweet holy mother Mary what were you THINKING) in the first place!
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And I’m thinking stop insulting seamstresses. I can’t quite put it in words, but something about a seamstress having a seam and when a doctor sews someone up they aren’t supposed to be folding a 1/4″ to 5/8″ under they are just supposed to be making the flesh meet up again. It should be closer to weaving really. Or maybe knitting. In any event this doctor needs to shut his or her mouth and get some training on perinal support.
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Jane Reply:
May 16th, 2012 at 7:51 am (Quote)
And considering that many things doctors do actually create tears (like the OP said, in this case the doctor instructed her to push far harder than she would have on her own) it’s as if the seamstress came up to you, ripped a big hole in your blouse, and then sat there stitching it up while saying, “I’m doing a GREAT job stitching, aren’t I!”
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Details Reply:
May 16th, 2012 at 11:36 am (Quote)
Oh thank you. Exactly, that is how they are insulting the seamstress. A seamstress would never rip your dress and then brag about how well she fixed it. Never ever ever would a seamstress rip your clothing! That would be so far beneath her!
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Well, doctor, if you wouldn’t cause tears by being so dang impatient, you wouldn’t have to practice sewing them up, would you.
What always astonishes me is how the doctors don’t seem to realize that if they slowed down and waited for baby to come in baby’s own time, they might actually save time in the long run! A massive tear can take awhile to sew up properly!
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Jenny Islander Reply:
May 16th, 2012 at 10:41 am (Quote)
Again we run into the basic problem that OBs are trained to perform procedures upon patients, not to practice patience while the client performs a physical function.
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This is really sad. Stupid OB has no business making light of a woman’s genital damage, even moreso when it’s that extensive. I really hope the OP is okay after the healing process.
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