Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
Apr
18
Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“Now Tell Me Again…Why You Don’t Want An Epidural?”
“Now tell me again… why don’t you want an epidural?” – Certified Nurse Midwife to mother struggling during transition.
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I couldn’t have told you my middle name during transition.
Hey, CNM? How about you rub her back or bring her some water or work with her rather than working against her? Just a thought.
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If she’s in transition she’s almost at the end. No reason to pressure her into an epidural now. Even if she says yes, the baby will most likely be there by the time the anesthesiologist gets there and gets set up.
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Koyomi Reply:
April 18th, 2012 at 7:49 pm (Quote)
And yet that’s exactly what they did to my mother when she was in transition with my older sister. They lied to her and told her that it would be another three hours of THAT level of pain, and in reality it was only another fifteen minutes. She didn’t feel any relief from the epidural whatsoever, but it probably contributed to their having to use forceps to finish the delivery. ~_~
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Ugh, seriously? If this question were posed during prenatal care and was stated in a legitimately curious manner, I could understand. But this mom surely chose a CNM expecting to be supported, not undermined when she is at her most vulnerable. Midwife fail.
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The way I read this, it sounds like a big fat ‘I told you so’, she knows it’s too late for an epidural now, even if the mum consented, so now while the mum is in the hardest stage, she’s like ‘so, are those reasons so important to you now, sucker? haha’.
If that is, indeed, the tone of voice intended, then what a bitch!
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April 19th, 2012 at 5:12 am (Quote)
That exactly how I read it and considering that the woman is in transition this would be the time for her husband or her mother to say, “I don’t think that comments falls within your job description.” as in shut your dang mouth before I shut it for you. “You know, we hired a midwife to provide a supportive environment.” “Excuse me, where did that come from?” “Who peed in your Cheerios?” “What the H did you just say?”
I don’t know why it is that I think it is important that every woman in labor should have a bouncer with her. It is not enough that she bring somebody supportive, but she also needs somebody with a spine who is ready able and willing to at least clear his/her throat when some like this is said BECAUSE MOM IS TOO BUSY AT THAT POINT.
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Because I said so and that is all the reason you need!
Now nursie, how bout you just try everything in your arsenal of non drug pain relief and remind this mother that she is getting so close to meeting her precious baby. Oh and if you don’t have any non drug pain relief ideas how bout you go learn about some so that the next lady can have a more knowledgeable midwife that doesn’t try to put someone down for their opinions!
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I’m watching Looney Tunes right now.
I have a hang-nail.
The sky isn’t the proper shade of blue.
I’m knitting a sweater with my toes.
I thought I might try skiing this afternoon.
The game is on.
I have a party to get to later.
I’m out of ice chips.
I’m afraid of people wearing masks.
You looked at me funny when I was first admitted.
The room is not Feng-shei’d.
I didn’t win the Power Ball last night.
I forgot my favorite pillow at home.
The nurse over there had a sandwich on her break.
I thought I saw Santa outside my window.
I don’t like balloons.
I’m in a limbo contest in ten minutes.
I’d rather have a pony.
The unicorn says I don’t need one.
I’m too busy staring at twinkle lights.
The aromatherapy is distracting me, what did you ask?
Today’s date is unlucky.
I’m checking my email.
I have to go home and wash my hair.
The dog ate my home work, I mean consent form.
My friend needs help moving.
I’m just not in the mood.
I have a headache.
I have to work tomorrow.
I’m in a stable relationship.
I have to take my cat to the vet.
In other words: Why do you care WHY I refused an epidural? Just accept that I said no, and move the crap on with your life.
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If anyone had asked me this, and I sure did ask myself this during my pitocin induced transition I would have told them… well nothing because I was in no mood for talking… but I will share my reasoning here. “because, I think it is better for me to be able to feel my body and its natural cues, you’ve already got me hooked up to all this stuff (and for good reason) but I want to keep as much control over my body and baby as possible. Plus, it will all be over soon enough and I won’t remember the severity of the pain, but if I got the epidural I would remember that choice as it wears off and I am unable to get right up and do things like shower or go to the restroom like you are going to ask me to attempt.” I wonder if all of that could be transmitted through a groan and eyeroll, which is all I was capable of during either of my transitions.
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Just the thought of someone talking to me during transition irritates me!
The main reason I chose a home birth 1 month ago (today!) is so that no one would bother me or tell me what to do. The midwife and her assistants might have said 5 complete sentences to me before my son was born, and it was perfect!
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Alyson Miers had this to say,
Apr 19, 2012 @ 8:20 am (Quote)
“I made this decision JUST TO ANNOY YOU. Now that we’ve got that out in the open, why don’t try being a help rather than a hindrance?”
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Jenny Islander had this to say,
Apr 19, 2012 @ 9:32 am (Quote)
“Shut up and give me the pan, I’m gonna barf.”
*BLAAAARGH*
“Okay, look. *puff* If YOU think it’s so *puff* important to have *puuuuuushhhhh* somebody get a needle *puff* in the spine, YOU *puff* get the needle and I’LL *ooooUUUURGHpuuuuushhh* have the baby!”
Sheesh. Some people.
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Jadzia@Toddlerisms had this to say,
Apr 19, 2012 @ 10:21 pm (Quote)
I actually LOVED my epidurals, but to say that to somebody who has decided not to go that route is just … not helpful. Not to mention particularly horrific timing.
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Oh sure, prey on her in her weak moment. Some midwife YOU are!
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