Mar 14

“I Didn’t Want To Tell You, But I Had A Party To Go To At 6!”

“I didn’t want to tell you, but I had a party to go to at 6!” – OB to mother immediately afte the birth of her child, following a 48 hour induction.

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Veronica had this to say, Mar 14, 2012 @ 5:13 am (Quote)

On the list of top ten things to keep to yourself we have:

As usless a comment as this was I was glad to see this was not said to momma after an “emergency” c-section.

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Jane had this to say, Mar 14, 2012 @ 5:19 am (Quote)

“…because I didn’t want you to feel hurried or guilty if you didn’t birth until 10 or even midnight. We all know birth takes as long as it takes, and if I miss a party because I’m attending your birth, well, that’s what I signed up for when I took on the greatest job in the world. Now, let’s get a look at your little guy. What a trooper!”

There — I fixed that up all nice and stuff.

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Ani Reply:
March 14th, 2012 at 6:30 am Ani(Quote)

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Details Reply:
March 14th, 2012 at 7:24 am Details(Quote)

Beautiful, Jane! You do such good work.

I’m just wondering if the doctor choose to induce that day rather than wait 2-3 days because she didn’t want to miss her party or have it interrupted by a naturally occuring labor. If that is the case maybe doctor should just let the cards fall where they may next time as her overly aggressive style almost resulted in her missing her party.
BTW I’m betting this is a female OB.

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Jane Reply:
March 14th, 2012 at 9:11 am Jane(Quote)

It just strikes me how often the quotes here could have been thoughtful if only the doctor had really thought about what s/he was saying and how it would be perceived. The thoughtless comments are often related to things the doctor knows ought to be important, but it’s as if the doctor never quite figured out *why* they were important, so the doctor blurts out something and it’s offensive or hurtful, and then would probably be like, “What? What?” if you pointed it out. *sigh*

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Kristin Reply:
March 14th, 2012 at 9:52 am Kristin(Quote)

And I realize that doctors/nurses/medical professionals ARE people too, with families, hobbies, and home lives. But honestly, if they wanted a quiet, uninterrupted life, they could have picked a job that was not so unpredictable and fast paced. Caring for peoples’ lives is a 24/7 job. It’s hard work. Sure, they have the right to go to parties, golfing, and on vacation, so long as it does not interfere with a prior commitment. Because what obstetric care is. A commitment.

If you see a woman is due on X date, and that date coincides with your annual Bahama trip or your child’s birthday, either plan ahead and get someone to cover for you OR tell the woman that you might be unavailable. And tell her this as soon as you know that her due date and your plans may cause problems, don’t wait until the week of her due date, or during or after labor to remind her that she is a huge inconvenience to you.

Because the woman is paying you to be there for her. That doesn’t make you a servant or slave, but it does mean that you must provide the service she is paying for. Cheerfully if you can.

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Rhoda Reply:
March 15th, 2012 at 2:34 pm Rhoda(Quote)

HAhaha, nice!

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Angelica had this to say, Mar 14, 2012 @ 5:55 am (Quote)

Useless and guilt inducing after the fact, but at least she didn’t mention it. When I was in labor, I would have yelled her out of the room if someone had said that to me.

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V had this to say, Mar 14, 2012 @ 7:25 am (Quote)

This could easily have been a thoughfull thursday… “I didn’t want to tell you, but I have a party to go to at 6, so let’s not schedule you for an induction”!
Jane’s comment is pretty good, I hope that is what the OB meant…

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cheryl had this to say, Mar 14, 2012 @ 8:46 am (Quote)

I agree with Jane, if it was meant like that then OK…I had my doctor have a flight out of town the night I went into labor..pushed it back and back 4 times just so he could deliver my baby! Like a doctor should do! He literately caught my baby, handed her to me, delivered the placenta then was out the door! Called me a few hrs later to see how I was doing!!

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Tee Reply:
March 14th, 2012 at 10:56 am Tee(Quote)

Awesome!

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Kristin had this to say, Mar 14, 2012 @ 9:12 am (Quote)

And I care because?

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Tee had this to say, Mar 14, 2012 @ 10:56 am (Quote)

Well, then you shouldn’t have induced the Mom two days before. You should have left her alone.

Maybe I’m suppose to give credit to this doctor for not forcing Mom into a section because he had plans and she was “taking too long?”

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Missy had this to say, Mar 14, 2012 @ 12:14 pm (Quote)

To me this sounds like the next sentence would be, “So if you hadn’t delivered when you did, you would have had a c-section!”

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Shera had this to say, Mar 19, 2012 @ 9:52 pm (Quote)

Basically, I was 9-12 days overdue (depending on if you go by my ovulation date or my last menstrual period ) and not dilated or effaced. My OB tried to induce me with cervadil and pitocin for just over 24 hours before labor finally started. I labored for 20 hours and she kept coming in the room all day, telling me that I was taking too long and I needed to have a C-section. I refused and wanted to scream at her to just get out. When I finally pushed out my daughter at 6pm on the dot, (who was perfect by the way, no issues whatsoever), she said this quote to me with a huge smile. I was mad. If she wanted to go to her party so bad, then let the doctor on call take over. I was done with her anyway with all her pestering. She is no longer my care provider.

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