Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“My Babies Usually Wait Until I Am In Town To Be Born.”
“My babies usually wait until I am in town to be born.” – Midwife to mother while explaining why she planned to be out of town the weekend the mother was due.
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Samantha had this to say,
Feb 6, 2012 @ 7:27 pm (Quote)
That really sucks. This is one if the reasons my midwife formed a partnership with another midwife in town. I saw them both through out my pregnancy and got to know both. Funny thong is I didn’t like her partner when I first met her and never would have picked her. But as time progressed, I loved her and was so glad she was at my birth as my original midwife was heading out of town.
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I’m pretty sure my husband submitted this…otherwise, someone else on here also had my midwfie. :p
The whole story is that, of course, the baby did not wait until she was in town to come. This was said at my 39 week + 2 days appointment on Wednesday and my water broke Friday morning (two days before my due date!). She had told me that she was going Christmas shopping so she wouldn’t be available, but we called her anyway to let her know what was going on since I had been seeing her my whole pregnancy. She gave us the name of the midwife on call who turned out to be really nice. The on call midwife left orders for me to not get cervical checks (because my water was broken, and they were worried about infection since I didn’t want to have pitocin to speed labor along) and also talked to the doctor on the next shift for me. It ended up being the doctor who was there for the birth, but she was awesome so it all worked out. She had had several unmedicated births herself, so she was totally fine with letting me eat and leaving me alone through labor. I think I lucked out with my midwife going shopping!
But next time, home birth for sure. 
We are moving to a state where they are legal, so that’s what I’m hoping for!
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Jerry Reply:
February 7th, 2012 at 12:53 am (Quote)
Yes, I did submit this. What made it so “uh, what?” was that our midwife had told us time and time again that she WOULD be there for the birth and that she hardly ever missed any of her patient’s babies being born.
Then suddenly during our last week she informed us that she “planned” a shopping trip out of town and that we should be fine because “her babies” usually wait for her to be available.
We were terrified. There are not many natural friendly OB’s in our town and our hospitals aren’t that great. We got really lucky that another midwife was at the hospital checking on her patient and we got there just as she was getting ready to leave and an OB was coming in. Like my wife said this midwife was awesome and wrote orders for my wife to not get checked, have a full menu available, and to have intermittent monitoring so it all worked out fine.
I am not so sure I trust our original midwife though …
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Samantha Reply:
February 7th, 2012 at 7:14 am (Quote)
For a shopping trip?!? That would really piss me off to be honest.
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Mama Mirage Reply:
February 7th, 2012 at 8:09 am (Quote)
Wow! I’m really glad it all worked out but that would be very frustrating to have her just take off to go shopping right when you’re due and be so obnoxiously arrogant about her belief that she still wouldn’t miss the birth… :/
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Heidi Reply:
February 7th, 2012 at 7:10 pm (Quote)
That stinks. My doctor came back from a conference two hours away to deliver one of my babies. His partner was at the hospital waiting in case he was needed, but it all worked out.
This doctor has delivered all four of our babies. I know he sometimes goes places close to my due date (recently it was a little more than two hours away), but I don’t really mind because I know he will come back if he can.
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Heh, my first two babies were both due at a time when my OB was on vacation. So were several other women who were his patients. Both times, ALL of the babies who were due, waited until he was back to be born. He doesn’t induce or c-section his patients before going on vacation. When I was in labor with my son there were 3 or 4 other mamas who were all his patients that were also in labor. At one point he was standing in the hall between all the rooms and kept turning to face each one, trying to decide who might need him next lol. And he NEVER sacrificed the care of one patient for another, he was very attentive to all of us!
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The Deranged Housewife had this to say,
Feb 7, 2012 @ 7:33 am (Quote)
I’ve heard several midwives and doulas say that the best way to encourage a baby to be born is to make other plans… 
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This reminds me of my MIL- who was supposed to take my 2 boys when I went into labor for baby#3. She planned a trip o Disney for my due date. She said baby 1&2 came 2 weeks early, this one will too. Baby #3 came 1 day past her due date, so quickly we had an unplanned homebirth. Thank goodness my mom had come over for dinner! She stayed with my boys!
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Jadzia@Toddlerisms had this to say,
Feb 7, 2012 @ 3:39 pm (Quote)
So I have, well, a *policy* about these sorts of proclamations. In a nutshell, if *you* are not the person who experienced/is experiencing nausea, weight gain, all kinds of pain, very possibly job discrimination, and then, of course, the fun of labor and delivery? You do not get to phrase ANY of your observations in a manner that implies that you are the one who is/was pregnant. That goes for midwives who call other mothers’ babies “mine” just as much as it goes for men who like to say that “we” are pregnant.
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Jadzia@Toddlerisms Reply:
February 7th, 2012 at 3:40 pm (Quote)
I may sound a little prickly about this issue. You can thank the ex-husband who looked at my monitor at one point during labor and informed me, “Well, that one [contraction] wasn’t so bad!”
Anyhoo.
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j_holmes88 Reply:
February 9th, 2012 at 8:17 am (Quote)
I’m the one in my relationship that uses the WE when describing pregnancy lol. When my husband uses it several people have looked at me to see what i think of that…..then again my hisband has passed several kidney stones and has several health problems that let him relate to morning sickness, pain in reproductive areas, and other things of that nature so he is the one man that I interact with that can make fun of my and tease me about my pregnancy problems without getting chewed out.
I’m sorry that your ex was such a @&#%$ and it sounds to me like you are well rid of him.
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Well, sure… *your* babies will always be in the town you are in when they are born… duh. Doesn’t mean my kid plans to do you the same courtesy.
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