Feb 1

Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.

“How About You Just Push & Get This Over With?”

“How about you just push and get this over with?” – OB when asked about a slow delivery of head to avoid tearing.

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Summer had this to say, Feb 1, 2012 @ 2:48 pm (Quote)

Yea, because lets make my birth of my precious little one all about your schedule! Yes I would, much rather hurry my baby into the world before she’he is ready just so that you wont be a late for your pedicure!

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Melissa C had this to say, Feb 1, 2012 @ 3:02 pm (Quote)

Oh, have I inconvenienced you by paying you to provide a service? So sorry. Send in someone else, please.

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Jane had this to say, Feb 1, 2012 @ 3:06 pm (Quote)

So she can push for an extra ten minutes and not tear, or she can push REAL hard, tear or get an episiotomy, or both, and then the doctor can spend twenty minutes sewing her up.

Does this many any sense from a “get this over with” perspective? Usually people who want to get things over with opt for the faster choice.

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Jane Reply:
February 1st, 2012 at 3:06 pm Jane(Quote)

BTW: Mom, you’re the one pushing. Push as hard or as gently or as not-pushing as you like. It’s your body. Don’t ask permission: just do it.

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Stephanie had this to say, Feb 1, 2012 @ 3:27 pm (Quote)

Nah, I’d rather go at my own speed and have a better recovery.

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Eileen had this to say, Feb 1, 2012 @ 3:37 pm (Quote)

How about you just shut up and let me get back to doing all the actual work here?

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v had this to say, Feb 1, 2012 @ 3:43 pm (Quote)

I’d much rather do what my body is telling me, especially if it’s better for both of us! Plus I love being pregnant so the baby hanging out an extra few minutes inside and feeling the last movements from inside EVER is the coolest!

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Dawn R had this to say, Feb 1, 2012 @ 3:48 pm (Quote)

This kinda reminds me of how my husband jokingly said that after our daughter is born he’s going to yank on the cord to get the placenta out to get it out quickly. I told him “You yank, I yank.”

He stopped joking about it after that.

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Eileen Reply:
February 1st, 2012 at 4:06 pm Eileen(Quote)

HAHAHAHAHA! *high five*

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Lisa had this to say, Feb 1, 2012 @ 4:12 pm (Quote)

Sorry doc, the 10 minutes I’ll save in pushing isn’t worth the extra 6 weeks of healing.

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Heather had this to say, Feb 1, 2012 @ 4:23 pm (Quote)

With my second, I told him no episiotomy (and he was cool with it too, he said he hates doing them). Well, I got my little one out in two pushes, BUT I was dealing with the IV drugs/epi (ya ya I know, that’s a whole other can of worms I need to submit on here) and when he said “I don’t like the head just sitting there, he can’t breathe. Push him out” I did it. I tore. Now I know that he doesn’t start ‘breathing’ until the cord is cut

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himom Reply:
February 1st, 2012 at 6:03 pm himom(Quote)

I supported a birth where the baby was crowning for over an hour. Mom had a perineum of steel, I tell you. I was *shocked* (in a good way) that the midwife never once suggested cutting an episiotomy to move things along. I was beyond shocked that the on-call OB came in 3 times during that hour, and never once interfered, suggested an episiotomy or vacuum. Just checked things out, saw that everyone was fine and left. Baby eventually made her way out and no tears for mama. No memorable comments from that birth or it would have made Thoughtful Thursday.

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abba12 Reply:
February 1st, 2012 at 11:34 pm abba12(Quote)

Damn I wish I had that knowlege and opportunity. My bub was crowned for 10 minutes and they began to freak out, freaking me out and insisting she needed to come out NOW. I tore badly.

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Alyson Miers had this to say, Feb 1, 2012 @ 5:16 pm (Quote)

Oh! Oh, lemme guess! So Mama pushes real hard just to get Dr. Antsy-Pants off her back, and she gets a nasty perineal tear, and then Dr. Antsy-Pants tells her she could’ve avoided that if she’d let the doc “give” her an episiotomy?

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Kristin had this to say, Feb 1, 2012 @ 6:00 pm (Quote)

I pushed. He cut me even though we told him multiple times not to. I swear I’m home birthing next time.

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Heather Reply:
February 1st, 2012 at 7:19 pm Heather(Quote)

I had that issue with my first. I specifically said no episiotomy. After my daughter came out, I actually felt the placenta go out (I felt pressure all of a sudden then nothing and felt empty) and he was still down there. I asked my then husband what was going on and he said he didn’t know and so he asked the doc and the doc said “I’m stitching her up” We said, “Oh so I tore?” And he goes, “No, I cut her.” He also used a vacuum against my wishes too.

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corita Reply:
February 2nd, 2012 at 11:09 am corita(Quote)

Sort of OT, but I can’t understand how it is so easy for a doc to say the sentence, “I cut her” or a version of it. Doesn’t it sound appalling to their own ears? How can they not realize how it sounds to the “her” in question?

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Heather Reply:
February 2nd, 2012 at 11:57 am Heather(Quote)

I KNOW! And maybe I’m reaching a little, cause I can’t assume what was going through his head but, wouldn’t that break the hippocratic oath? “Do no harm?” He CUT me! LOL

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IF Survivor Reply:
February 2nd, 2012 at 3:17 pm IF Survivor(Quote)

Sadly, the Hippocratic Oath went by the wayside a long time ago. Besides having a physician swear to do no harm, it prohibited euthanasia and abortion.

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