Nope! Any other stupid questions you want to ask?

Only if what you are telling me to do and what I know I have to do are the same thing. Somehow I think they are not!

So you admit that I know what I’m talking about…but you want me to do something else? That makes no sense.

sorry but the point of knowing what I’m talking about was to make my own educated choices and not just do as I’m told.

It depends, I guess. I could see a nurse saying that, good-naturedly, when a mom is chattering about something she intends to do instead of just doing it. Specifically I can think of times a provider might have wanted to say it to me, in a gist of “Hurry it up, already.”

If the nurse was frustrated because the mother kept questioning her half-baked reasons for doing things that the mom didn’t want done (“But why do you need another VE now? I can tell I haven’t hit transition yet, so what’s the point?”) then the nurse needed to back down and let informed consent work the way it’s supposed to.

this oen was mine. I told a good part of my before sorey a few days back on he “you don’t have a choice” this was during deliver with Dr amazing… but my doula and dubbed this nurse ditsy! She was a total wack job… it started when she was asking em questions during contractions (no preregisteration at this hospital and I REFUSED to answer. Until finally while my dr was in the room I screamed SHUT UP at her Dr told her no talking to me during contractions.. score one.

THEN she was putting n my iv (I was strep b positive) she grabbed a towl saying “I am really messy at this” I aslked for the iv in a certain vain… I know anted as much fredom of mobility as possible.. she said “well I am better at the ones in the elbow” i REFUSED to let her put it there and said if she didn’t could not get it and ion ONE try please call another nurse in to do it where i wanted it. (she got it but made a HUGE mes kinked the line 3 times and had blood all over my gown)

Finally she realized (when i am in transition) that she had not gotten base line vitals and needed my bp ASAP. she started taking ym bp WHILE I WAS IN A CONTRACTION. I asked (rather nicely considering) to please stop it and finish it after the contraction. She refused saying she NEEDED it. I ripped the bp cuff off and gave her a death stair. I told her I did NOT want a contraction udring transition to be my basline vitals that they would rush me to the OR for a section immediatly.. thats when she hit me with this gem.

my doula and I kept wanting to ask for another nurse but we kept watching the clock it was 6.. shift change was at 7… sadly she did not leave till 9!!!! (after my baby was born) During pushing she started counting loudly I let out a VERY loud SHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH she looked at my dr in shock and his line “you heard the lady shut up.. your annoying me too!” did I mention this was dr awesome?

OH yeah another gem from her… I had brought a birthing ball (approved by my dr).. She saw doula pumping it up for me. she said “you might as well not do that because I won’t let you out of bed” my answer “oh what are you going to do sit on me and keep me here?” her: well we need to MONITOR you… me: well then you just turn up the tones and *I* and my doula will work on keeping it pretty much in place (we didn’t even want to mention that it was HER job.. we just wanted her to leave us alone)

Oh yeah another one… she could not figure out the IV machine and had to call 2 different people for help to use it!

I am so sorry, writing as a nurse.

Also writing as a L&D nurse…I am so sorry you had to deal with this nurses’ ignorance and inflexible attitude. I would like to say that these types of nurses don’t exist, but sadly that is not the case. Please remember that as a patient, you always have the right to request a different nurse. If this request is not honored, ask to speak with the nurse manager. Kudos to you for working through not only the discomfort of your labor, but the mental pain from this nurses inability to provide appropriate support to you.

Perhaps you should write to the hospital with the exact words you just used to describe your experience…let them follow-up with this incompetent nurse. Make sure to provide her full name.

Can YOU forget for 5 minutes that you have stuff you “need” to do and let me labor in peace?

oh boy

thankfully, i did not have a stupid nurse; mine got baseline, set up IV (as precaution to possible c-section) and left me alone.

i was at a teaching hospital and rather stupidly agreed to let some students in the room for a few contractions. this one LITTLE girl, god bless her heart, was only trying to learn but when you have back labor, havent gotten ur epidural yet and ur husband is no help, PLEASE do not ask ‘on a scale of 1-10′ questions!!!!!