Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“Don’t Push, We Can’t Prep The Bed Until The Doctor Gets Here.”
“Don’t push, we can’t prep the bed until the doctor getsĀ here.” – L&D Nurse to mother.
I don’t need the stirrups anyway.
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Knitted in the Womb Reply:
January 18th, 2012 at 9:48 am (Quote)
Oh no, it is IMPOSSIBLE to push without stirrups.
Seriously…as a doula I attended a birth where a nurse said that, and I attended another birth where I think the OB may have thought.
Back to the original post…I think a good response to that would be “oh, that is all the more reason to go ahead and start pushing!”
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If there isn’t going to be anyone catching, the bed is better left intact, rather than having the mom’s butt hanging in the air and legs in stirrups. At my sister’s most recent birth, the baby was born unassisted at the hospital, under the covers on her intact hospital bed. She had a really great nurse, who said that she wouldn’t tell her not to push, even if the doctor wasn’t there. I don’t know if this is true for all hospitals, but she said the nurses at her hospital are required to have one attended birth per year, where they do the catching. I’m not sure if this one counted…
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Aron Reply:
January 18th, 2012 at 7:16 am (Quote)
That is awesome! Sadly, some hospitals actually penalize nurses for catching before the doctor arrives. The assumption is that if the doctor didn’t make it in time it’s because the nurse failed to call him/her in time. (Couldn’t POSSIBLY be that mom’s body was extremely efficient or that Dr. Molasses was busy smelling the daisies….no.)
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Katie B Reply:
January 18th, 2012 at 8:59 am (Quote)
My 13mo was *almost* a hospital UC.. the only reason she wasn’t was because my nurse was *hanging out* in my room. My doula had my support covered, so she wasn’t needed for that; she just liked my apparently chill vibe (as the only unmedicated woman on the floor, too). My baby was born in 3.5 ctx; if she hadn’t been there and leapt for the call button when I started pushing mid-contraction, the midwife wouldn’t have made it! Truthfully, I was a little disappointed the birth team made it in time.
To the OP: “You don’t wanna break the bed down? That’s fine, come be useful and support me.”
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I don’t understand why a Doctor is “needed” at a birth. When I had my son I had 2 midwifes who were fantastic. They were trained purely to help women labour. I never saw a doctor until I had a check up to make sure I was ok to go home. Why is a Dr “better”?
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PetraStrider Reply:
January 18th, 2012 at 9:16 am (Quote)
That sound exactly like my expirience. Here in Ontario I think CNMs are currently used by 10% of mothers. Thirty years ago it was less than 1%. (This is what I have heard.) I know my CNMs would have an OBGYN in the L&D room for high risk births.
It can be hard booking a CNM in Toronto, but I have never heard of anyone being unable to get an OBGYN here. . .
Maybe in another couple decades Doctors will only be used for high risk and emergency situations
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OntarioExpat Reply:
January 18th, 2012 at 8:29 pm (Quote)
You’re correct that there is a serious shortage of midwives in Ontario! There are only three small university programs that train midwives in the whole province. There are no CNMs or CPMs in Canada, though. Canada has RMs (Registered Midwives) who attend both home and hospital births.
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That second part is probably a good idea since if you drop the part of the bed that under her butt you will probably let the baby fall on the floor. How about if she moves up the bed a bit and gives birth on the mattress all by herself since you people are worthless? Not pushing is not an option though, just in case you are so stupid to not pick up on that reality on your own.
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I was told I HAD to leave the bathroom. We’d just found out my little was stillborn and I was in labor at 25 weeks. “You HAVE to get in the bed!” But the ob just told me I might not be in labor! Seriously, I’d done it before, I knew the baby was coming. She was born in the bathroom, unassisted, with just my husband standing by, and one horrified nurse. Sorry, honey, this is how it goes sometimes.
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You have to have an advanced degree to prep a bed. It’s best left to the professionals. Oh, and it’s definitely impossible to give birth anywhere except a fully prepped hospital bed. The baby will peek out, see an un-prepped bed, then go into reverse and maybe get stuck in the mother’s rib cage. What are you trying to do, kill your baby?!?
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Laura Reply:
January 18th, 2012 at 8:49 am (Quote)
What are you trying to do, coat my monitor with tea???
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Tee Reply:
January 18th, 2012 at 12:31 pm (Quote)
Oh, I really needed a good laugh today. Thanks for that, Amanda!
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genniemom Reply:
January 18th, 2012 at 1:28 pm (Quote)
I don’t know about an advanced degree, but I failed miserably at prepping my bed for my homebirth. I didn’t call the midwives until very late, so my sister/doula and I prepped the bed…poorly. There ended up being a huge mess and lots of cleanup.
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My baby was coming whether the doctor was there or not. The nurses acted like it was such an inconvenice to put on gloves and get ready to catch. Seriously, at that point I would have caught her myself to get her out. They kept telling me not to push, which most mamas know is so extremely hard once your body is taking over and doing it for you. The OB got there like one push before she came out and I don’t think the outcome would have been any different if she hadn’t gotten there in time.
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Had 2 clients (I’m a doula) back to back whose doc never made it. Nurse caught one (barely) and the bed caught the other (nurse didn’t believe me that mom was pushing). And son-of-a gun, they are both incredibly healthy. Doctors have 2 functions: be sure the baby doesn’t hit the floor at delivery (anyone could serve that role, really) and as an insurance policy if something medical goes wrong (not to create things that go wrong). Other than that, just sit there and twiddle thumbs, doc.
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Does anybody else have a secret desire to strap the idiotic (and some are good!) OB’s and the nurses down to a bed, hike their legs up into stirrups and force them to have the world’s biggest bowel movement? Anyone?
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himom Reply:
January 18th, 2012 at 12:44 pm (Quote)
Actually, I would love to tie an OB (or L&D nurse) to a chair, with strict orders not to move or talk and observe a perfectly normal, safe, calm home birth. Or even one that goes awry, that is perfectly handled by the midwife attending without resorting high drama. *sigh* just a daydream…
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“A hospital is the only safe place to deliver because you need the attention of a doctor.”
vs
“You can’t push until the doctor gets here.”
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“The labor and delivery nurses will take care of everything you need during labor”
vs
“We can’t even adjust the position of the equipment until the doctor gets here, but the doctor isn’t here because the doctor is off doing more important things than attending to your labor.”
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