Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
Jan
16
Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“Every Time I Have A Mom Try To Go Natural, She Blows Her Bottom Out.”
“Oh yeah, every time I have a mom try to go natural, she blows her bottom out.” – L&D Nurse to mother 12 hours after birth. Mother had received an episiotomy.
There are 29 comments to this post.
Mama Wrench had this to say,
Jan 16, 2012 @ 2:42 pm (Quote)
I’m sure it’s very rare, but I did have a rectal prolapse from pushing with my first. I’m the only one I know who’s experienced that, though.
[Reply]
Jennifer at Organic Baby University had this to say,
Jan 16, 2012 @ 2:58 pm (Quote)
Didn’t blow mine out! I would think if you can feel to know when to push you would be LESS likely to tear…but this nurse seems to be talking about episiotomies anyway which are unnecessary almost always.
[Reply]
That’s funny since I have had two births with epidurals and meds and had horrible tearing with both but when I did no epidural (in the hospital even) with my other two, no tearing AT ALL. If I were to do it again I definitely would never get an epidural. Recovery was much worse after for me.
[Reply]
If EVERY SINGLE mom you get that wants to go natural has a bottom blow out (is that a technical term?), then I have to assume that the only common denominator is you, and I need to know what you’re doing to damage these mothers. The likelihood of you being the attendant to 100% bottom blow outs is statistically enormous. By the way, I do not want you as my nurse, as I fear that you will harm me in the same way you have damaged those others. In fact, as I am now in fear for my safety, I will consider you to be an aggressor if you touch me in any way, attempt to coerce me or otherwise speak to me, or refuse to remove yourself from my presence.
*Oh, how I wish, wish, wish I could turn back time and say these exact words to another “care” provider in my past.
[Reply]
Cynthia Gabriel had this to say,
Jan 16, 2012 @ 4:27 pm (Quote)
When women give birth “naturally” — or does this O.B. mean “vaginally”? Because the only way to keep a baby’s head off of our vaginas and rectums (which were DESIGNED for giving birth) is to take that baby’s head out through a surgical incision in our abdomen (which was not designed for giving birth). I am constantly amazed when people truly believe we can “improve” on nature.
[Reply]
Cynthia Gabriel had this to say,
Jan 16, 2012 @ 4:28 pm (Quote)
When women give birth “naturally” — or does this O.B. mean “vaginally”? Because the only way to keep a baby’s head off of our vaginas and rectums (which were DESIGNED for giving birth) is to take that baby’s head out through a surgerical incision in our abdomen (which was not designed for giving birth). I am constantly amazed when people truly believe we can “improve” on nature.
[Reply]
Kari Birchler had this to say,
Jan 16, 2012 @ 5:13 pm (Quote)
Um, if this is true, then
Ur Doin It Rong…
Because women who give birth *naturally,* which includes pushing when and how Mama wants to, will very rarely “blow her bottom out.”
Spoken from a mama who birthed a 10lb8oz ascynclitic baby with no tears.
[Reply]
The Deranged Housewife had this to say,
Jan 16, 2012 @ 6:16 pm (Quote)
You know what I can’t stand, is when they use the term “bottom.” I am not five, and I don’t really think you’re really talking about my “bottom,” anyway, are you? We’re both adults here – can you be a little more specific? I’ve had several female care providers use this terminology with me, and it drives me insane.
[Reply]
Veronica Reply:
January 16th, 2012 at 6:33 pm (Quote)
I have to agree. Use proper terminology. If we as the client don’t know what something means, we can ask!
Even my 2 year old knows she has a vulva, vagina and anus. (although I do get stares if she yells, bobo vulva! in public lol
[Reply]
Laura Reply:
January 16th, 2012 at 7:21 pm (Quote)
THIS. My 2-year-old commented about his little brother coming out of my “bottom” – totally reasonable at that age, IMO. If he were an older child, never mind old enough to be a medical professional, I’d expect better terminology and grasp of the anatomy. Which I’ll be making sure he learns as he grows up. (He *does* know the proper terms for his anatomy already. Women’s anatomy hasn’t been discussed as much yet.)
[Reply]
Kate, Ren's mama Reply:
January 17th, 2012 at 8:37 am (Quote)
This actually doesn’t bother me at all. My midwife uses the term “bottom” to refer to the whole underside area: vulva, perineum and anus. So when she says something like, “During labor I may suggest a warm compress on your bottom to help support it”, I know what she means and I don’t think she’s being insulting. (And I know in the context that of course, she’s not talking about my buttocks.)
Is there another medically correct term for that whole region?
[Reply]
Jess Reply:
January 17th, 2012 at 9:52 am (Quote)
From what I remember of nursing school (not actually a l&d or postpartum nurse), the term “bottom” encompasses the entire area, vulva, perineum, and butt. If I remember correctly, we would check the area for hemorrhoids, healing of tears or episiotomy, postpartum bleeding, etc. There really isn’t a better word for the entire area other than bottom, though I do agree that it sounds like you’re talking like a 3 year old rather than an adult.
[Reply]
Oh boy episiotomies are not necessary. I have had two kids naturally. One was with episiotomy and I took a while to heal. I couldn’t even sit. However with my second child was tearing, and I was sitting right after birth. If I go for the next child, not getting the episiotomy, the pain is not necessary and just takes too long to heal with more drama that isn’t necessary. Nothing went out of place. The second child birth was all natural even though I was in the hospital.
[Reply]
This is mine. I hated this nurse so much. This nurse had been insisting that I would be getting an epidural ever since I got to the hospital the previous day–one of those condescending “yeah right” attitudes every time I said I wouldn’t be. I had maybe at least 8 hours sooner than anyone expected, had an episiotomy that I was kinda bullied/guilted into, and a third degree tear. I think it was third anyway.
So that evening, this delightful nurse comes back on shift and visits me. She waltzed into the room and plunked herself down into a chair while I was struggling to nurse my baby (not exactly a discreet task). Asked how the birth had gone and if I tore and when I told her that yes, I had, she nodded sagely and came out with this gem. Then proceeded to tell me that I was “doing it wrong” when it came to nursing the baby, and that I was “going to suffocate her.” the nurse came over and tried to tell me that I wasn’t supposed to “hold her so close” and seemed to think that nursing occurs with the baby held practically at arm’s reach. She finally left. Twit.
[Reply]
Jane Reply:
January 17th, 2012 at 5:20 am (Quote)
You might want to write down her name and keep it in your pregnancy books. That way, if in the future you have another baby at that hospital, you can ask that this nurse not be assigned to you.
I’m sorry you were harassed during your birth. That’s not fair. 
[Reply]
And for the record, despite it being an induction (that I didn’t need but let’s not get into that right now) I did NOT get the epidural and although I did give in to a shot of Nubane (which did it’s job and let me sleep for an hour so that I had the energy to push), I still consider it a natural, and mostly med-free, birth. And I wasn’t even an obnoxious patient for this nurse. I felt like sticking my tongue out at her like a three year old “Nyah nyah!”
[Reply]
Is sounds to me like this nurse is in favor of having c-sections to protect the perinum. She has no clue what natural even is since she seems to think natural = vaginal. I can’t even tell if she considers a tear after episiotomy the same thing as a tear with no episiotomy. The woman is rude, condesending and a moron. An episiotomy weakens the perinum. Stop doing them! AK you shouldn’t have been treated like that.
[Reply]
Add Your Comment.
Previous Post
« “Condoms and Foam.” Next Post
“….Are You Going To Want To Try and Have Your Baby? »
« “Condoms and Foam.” Next Post
“….Are You Going To Want To Try and Have Your Baby? »
Hmmm… My only “bottom blowing out” experience I’ve had was with my medicated birth… My two natural births (with 10lber to boot) left my bottom feeling much more comfortable.
[Reply]