Actually, my baby needs you to leave me alone and stop trying to make me wear myself out too quickly with ineffective and needless effort.

Same thing happened to me.. They were yelling at me though and I kept asking what’s wrong what’s wrong and finally the nurse just yells “this is how you have a baby, just do it” which made me furious becuase I knwo better… but I knew if I didn’t hurry the OB had already ordered the vaccum to be brought in (before he even looked at me, because he was in a hurry). My son was born in 20-30 minutes and I had pushed so hard I couldn’t see. Ergh. It will be better next time.

No, baby needs rest between contractions too to re-oxygenate.

They yelled that way at me too with my first. Pushing without a contraction is useless for me. The mom’s push is EXTRA on top of the uterine push. Mom can’t do it alone.

You have a tee time in an hour don’t you, Doc?
I’ll push when I feel like pushing. I don’t care it you’re late to your game.

Same thing happened to me, the doctor was so used to having women with epidurals that they were telling me when and how to push. IGNORE!

So, what, you’re my baby now? If you really wanted to be a birth attendant, you shouldn’t have scheduled an appointment you couldn’t break anywhere in the range of my EDD. Hey, you know what, you go do whatever you need to go do and I’ll have this baby. Then we’ll both be happy.

Ugh! We’re either supposed to hold the baby in when our bodies are pushing by themselves or push when there’s no urge.

This one makes me really angry. As long as their is no distress on the part of Mom or baby, pushing full force can actually be dangerous. Let the baby come out slowly, doctor!

This just makes me all the more grateful for my births. My first my pushing was led by my mom and hubby with no pressure. The nurse told me I could start pushing. since she figured it would take a while

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She left. When she came back a while later I was crowning. Amazing how easy it was all by myself. With my next two they were born in under three pushes with a little break in between. Our bodies are so capable! Let us do our jobs, you catch.

This is why every attended birth should have a big rubber squeaky hammer available: so you can safely hit idiots who try to give you stupid orders or order things done that you don’t want.

Ugh… this brings back bad memories. My OB said the same thing, and then cut me because I was taking too long pushing… he was born in under 7 minutes from my first urge to push.