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“Well, Aren’t You Just The Fertile Myrtle, Getting Pregnant 5 Times!”
“Well aren’t you just the fertile myrtle, getting pregnant 5 times!” – ER doctor to mother presenting for suspected miscarriage, who had miscarried several times with previous pregnancies as well.
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“You’ve been on-shift for thirty hours straight, haven’t you? I can tell. Would you mind getting me a different doctor? Thanks.”
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Minddie Reply:
January 8th, 2012 at 7:03 pm (Quote)
That isn’t always the case with doctors being insensitive, arrogant or just down right insulting. When I went into the er at 13 weeks for bleeding the On-call doctor who was nearing the end of his shift was very considerate, kind and soft spoken, he chose his words carefully and respectfully. He made sure that I was comfortable and explained everything he was doing to me.
It was the nect on-call doctor who just took over and just started his shift who was cold, calculated and impersonal. He came in introduced himself and said “You are having a miscarriage, go home and let nature take its course, the contents of pregnancy will expell at some point in the next few days.” He then went on to ask “how far along I was” didn’t bother to check the chart I replied with 13 weeks, tomorrow was suppose to be my 1st prenatal appt. He replied with “Well, this pregnancy ended at around 7 weeks, your body didn’t recogniz that it wasn’t viable and this usually happens when there is major genetic issues with the feteus so it was probably for the best”.
so sometimes, it isn’t the end of a long shift that makes doctors say or behave a certain way, it is just who they are.
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In my chart, I’ve been pregnant 7 times. I’m looking forward to giving birth to my fourth living child in April. We have PCOS, and conceiving – which we’ve been blessed to do relatively naturally (no fertility treatments, but have used Met, along with aggressive diet and exercise) – is HARD work and dedication. With the miscarriages or our little miracle babies, I would never consider myself a “fertile myrtle” by any stretch, and would give the stinkeye (at a minimum) to anyone who dared suggest such a thing.
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this is mine, it was the 3rd pregnancy that year so far (2 kids at home, uneventful pregnancies) and I was very cautious about every little thing. When I began spotting I went to the ER and this doctor came by and BEFORE entering the door (thin walls..VERY old hospital)made a rude statement about how women like me should just get fixed. (On state medical at the time, not married yet. Was getting married the following month, not that that should matter) Then came into the room and asked how many times I’d been pregnant. After telling him about the 2 live births and 3 previous miscarriages me made this statement followed by how I was lucky I didn’t have all those kids to deal with. The way he said it was very snide and rude, in such a way it was him telling me to keep my legs closed. Which was none of his business. I hadnt planned on any of the pregnancies, but wanted every single one of them! After examining me he misdiagnosed the miscarriage by saying I had a tear that was bleeding (which I got a correct diagnosis from another hospital, I was miscarrying) and that if I did miscarry I should come back to talk about a permanent birth control because I couldn’t want anymore kids.
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IF Survivor Reply:
January 8th, 2012 at 11:45 pm (Quote)
I’m so sorry. Please tell me that someone did a RPL panel on you.
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Jane Reply:
January 9th, 2012 at 4:14 am (Quote)
“women like you should just get fixed”??? The irony here is that something *was* broken and the doctor did nothing to “fix” it whatsoever. Instead the doctor’s solution to the problem of your miscarriage was to break the part of the system that’s already working.
I’m so sorry for your losses, and I’m so sorry you were neglected by this doctor. Some doctors, when they can’t solve the problem, blame the patient, and that’s exactly what this individual tried to do to you. Doctor can’t solve the miscarriage, so the doctor tells you that you shouldn’t have wanted more kids in the first place and that you should get permanent birth control, and then claims there’s no miscarriage going on anyhow. That’s not practicing medicine. I don’t know what that is.
**hugs** and again, I’m sorry for the loss of your three little ones.
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Corita Reply:
January 9th, 2012 at 6:24 am (Quote)
I am sorry you had to deal with this kind of person.
What a jerk.
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Jennifer Reply:
January 9th, 2012 at 10:40 am (Quote)
That is awful. I’m so sorry you had to deal with this idiot.
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This is one of those cases where I think it should be legal to punch someone in the face.
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HeatherB Reply:
January 8th, 2012 at 8:53 pm HeatherB(Quote)
There’s a plea for “temporary insanity.” I believe it would apply here. Especially if you stock the jury with mothers who’ve miscarried.
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Nica Reply:
January 9th, 2012 at 4:06 am Nica(Quote)
Agree. NO jury would convict…
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