Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“…I Would Stock Up On Pads If I Were You.”
“The results are completely negative. I would stock up on pads if I were you.” – OB’s office to mother who had a blood test to confirm an impending miscarriage.
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This one is mine.
I have a history of miscarriages, so when I get a positive pregnancy test, I will test until the test lines get dark.
But with my chemical pregnancies, I could see the test lines suddenly getting lighter. I freaked out and begged for a blood test.
The lady told me the results the next day over the phone like this. And hung up. Nothing else.
I got pregnant two months after, and tried to get a blood test before they went negative, and she told me that I have no idea about pregnancy because the blood test was negative. The test lines got lighter and I once again miscarried.
With any future pregnancies, I am going to try my hardest to stay away from this lady… even though it’s military and it’s difficult to change PCM’s without going to standard and having to co-pay.
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Kasondra Reply:
December 21st, 2011 at 3:02 pm (Quote)
As a fellow military spouse I understand about the absolutely SUCKY standard of care we’re expected to deal with…My last birth we paid out of pocket for a midwife because I refused to go on base. Did you report the doc to the patient advocate?
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steph Reply:
December 21st, 2011 at 3:03 pm (Quote)
My experience with recurrent miscarriages was extremely similar and it turned out I needed progesterone supplements. The best time to start them would be a few days after ovulation, then stay on them until a positive pregnancy test (and in that case you’d stay on them until 12 weeks along) or until a negative test a few days after you would expect your period. Then you stop the supplements and your period starts a few days later. My progesterone levels in early pregnancy were simply not high enough to support the pregnancy without them. Some doctors argue that a healthy pregnancy will produce high enough levels and that low levels indicate something wrong with the baby…but in my case that wasn’t true. If you are destined to miscarry, you will miscarry no matter the supplementation. But if you can save the baby, why not try? I hope this helps.
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Ashley Bean Reply:
December 21st, 2011 at 4:41 pm (Quote)
I totally understand the military healthcare hassle. I switched to standard and just birthed our second son with midwives at the birth center instead of going back to the military clinic. It was only $175 out of pocket thankfully or we would have been stuck with a unassisted homebirth and I would have had to go to the base for my prenatal care. Of course to them it would have been an “accidental home birth” 
lol. I had so many hassles with them with my first son that there was no way I was delivering our second with them. I’m so sorry you had to deal with their crappy service. I second the progesterone btw. My friend needed it to carry her baby to 12 weeks and then she weaned off them. Her daughter is about to turn 4 =] Best wishes for your next pregnancy if you decide to have another.
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v had this to say,
Dec 21, 2011 @ 6:53 pm (Quote)
I am sorry that happened to you, especially with the pain of loss on top of it. 
That is just plain rude, heartless and mean for no reason! Ridiculous. I agree with he PP saying that progesterone supplements may be very helpful for you if you still want to try again after all of your pain. *hugs*
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How about this instead:
“I’m so sorry to tell you that the blood results confirm the suspicion we had that you are losing the pregnancy. Here are some things that you can expect in the coming days [insert sound medical advice here (including information about when she may expect bleeding to start, how much to expect, and when she should call the MD- warning signs)]… Do you have any questions? Again I’m so sorry that you have to experience this. There are a few options that you have in moving forward from here. Would you like to discuss them now, or would you like a few moments to yourself or with your partner? I’m here when you need me.”
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Trisha Reply:
December 21st, 2011 at 2:44 pm Trisha(Quote)
For REAL.
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Lizzie Reply:
December 23rd, 2011 at 10:48 am Lizzie(Quote)
I guess I was lucky and this is almost word-for-word what the ER doctor told me when I had my miscarriage. After he gave me the news and a little time to cry on my husband’s shoulder, he then went on to tell me that it wasn’t my fault, it happens for the strangest reasons sometimes. Then, when I went to see my primary care doctor, she gave me some advice and recommendations and assured me once again it wasn’t my fault. She also shared the story of how she had two miscarriages and one healthy child. She also said that I was ahead of the statistics since early miscarriages occur in about 1 out of every 3 pregnancies and I had already had three healthy children.
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