“While that’s a lovely question you asked me, the question I asked is what I should do if the *doctor* is the one putting my baby’s health at risk. Let’s answer my question first, and then I’ll answer yours.”

I’m sorry, but unless mom’s concerns include the lack of twinkle lights in the L&D ward, she SHOULD transfer if the doctor isn’t listening to her.

How does this comment make any sense?

“Not having the perfect doctor *is* putting my baby’s health at risk.”

Once again, mothers being mocked because they want the “experience”.
Not having the perfect doctor is what is putting my baby at risk, so I am asking you to HELP me get a good doctor to keep my baby safe. And you turn it around to make ME look selfish? Blame the mom. It works too often not to try it as the first tactic.

Nobody’s perfect, I wouldn’t expect someone to be ‘perfect’ just because they’re a doctor… however the doctor not adequately addressing her concerns IS putting her baby’s health at risk!

Quite the opposite, actually. I don’t want to put my baby at risk by NOT having a doctor who will listen to my concerns. How exactly would your scenario work?

“Uuuhh….If I feel like I don’t have an adequate doctor… an inadequate doctor *kinda* puts my baby’s health at risk, so butt out.”

She went on to say that, if we needed a c-section, the doctor was only there to do the surgery and all we cared about is whether he was a competent surgeon. This is after I told her I was diagnosed after PTSD with my previous c-section and wanted to do what I could to make sure that my emotional needs would be respected, so that I could be ok with any birth outcome. Needless to say, we are now doing an HBAC.