Dec 17

“We Can Schedule Your Cesarean And Not Tell You When It Is.”

“We can schedule your cesarean and not tell you when it is.” – OB to mother during 26 week prenatal, when the mother stated that she would not automatically schedule a cesarean and was planning to VBAC.

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Chara had this to say, Dec 17, 2011 @ 2:08 pm (Quote)

Go right ahead. If you can schedule it without me, I suppose you can just do it without me. I’ll be finding a care provider who actually cares.

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Sarah W Reply:
December 17th, 2011 at 2:33 pm Sarah W(Quote)

Yeah, I was wondering how they planned to perform it without her knowing!

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Charity had this to say, Dec 17, 2011 @ 2:31 pm (Quote)

And how, pray tell, am I going to show up if you don’t tell me when it is? Bubeye!

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lys810 had this to say, Dec 17, 2011 @ 2:33 pm (Quote)

Hmm, okay. If you don’t tell me when it is, I can’t show up anyway, now can I?

Oh, wait. You’re trying to a be bully. See ya.

OP, I hope you were able to find a different provider. This one sounds like a jerk.

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KDB had this to say, Dec 17, 2011 @ 2:50 pm (Quote)

I’m getting a mental image of a surgeon sneaking into her window in the dead of night…

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Lisa Reply:
December 17th, 2011 at 6:17 pm Lisa(Quote)

Creepy…thanks, now it’s stuck in my head!

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Sarah Reply:
December 18th, 2011 at 11:37 am Sarah(Quote)

I am getting a similar vision, only mine has to do with scheduling the section for the same time as mom schedules a prenatal and ambushing her when she shows up.

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Lisa Reply:
December 19th, 2011 at 6:46 am Lisa(Quote)

…that’s really disturbing, and it wouldn’t surprise me at all if that happens!

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Lisa had this to say, Dec 17, 2011 @ 3:07 pm (Quote)

I’m assuming he meant that they would schedule it when she went in for a normal appointment. But even so, without consent, you’re not performing anything. Run!

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Alyson Miers had this to say, Dec 17, 2011 @ 3:08 pm (Quote)

“You can schedule all you want, Dr. Stabby-Hands! You can’t make me show up at the hospital!”

Creepy mofo, reveling at the thought of cutting a woman’s belly open against her will.

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Rebecca had this to say, Dec 17, 2011 @ 3:09 pm (Quote)

My thoughts here. . . the OB is thinking Mom is going to give up on the VBAC, or if the original CS was for failure to wait/failed induction, is thinking she’ll never ever go into labor on her own, and wants to get a good slot in the schedule. If the hospital/practice requires moms attempting VBAC to schedule a repeat if the go past a certain deadline, I can see saying this. . . but then it wouldn’t be posted here would it?

Hey doc- if mom needs a repeat c-section when attempting VBAC, it’ll be an emergency, and she’ll get the next slot regardless of what the schedule says.

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Juls had this to say, Dec 17, 2011 @ 3:13 pm (Quote)

So what, you’re just going to pop up on me with chloroform one day and give me a C-section then? I mean, how does one not take this as a blatant threat to do harm? Ridiculous OB. Tsk tsk.

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Jessica had this to say, Dec 17, 2011 @ 3:28 pm (Quote)

Kinda hard to schedule something for someone who isn’t your patient.

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Maria had this to say, Dec 17, 2011 @ 4:18 pm (Quote)

Hmm…I thought this was a thoughtful Thu, LOL. We’ll schedule it and not tell you so you don’t have to show up, hee hee.

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Sheva had this to say, Dec 17, 2011 @ 4:29 pm (Quote)

I’m sorry, I laughed out loud at this one. Scheduling and not telling mom when, how is that helpful?! Unless the doc is telling mom, I have to schedule it because of protocol, but I don’t think you need it, so I won’t tell you when, so you won’t have to show up, so we’ll both get what we want…
I’d love to hear the story on this one.

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C.Pratt had this to say, Dec 17, 2011 @ 4:45 pm (Quote)

First I thought “what the heck would be the point of that?” Then I realized that sometimes practitioners charge for appointments if you don’t show up and don’t give notice of cancellation. Our old dentist had that policy.

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Sam had this to say, Dec 17, 2011 @ 5:02 pm (Quote)

I thought these people were supposed to be bright :-/

For a minute there, I thought maybe they meant “so the paperwork is satisfied but you don’t have a Deadline hanging over your head like a black cloud….” but even that doesn’t add up :-/

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Kristy had this to say, Dec 17, 2011 @ 5:19 pm (Quote)

I’m thinking he means “So we can tell you when to show up later when you are more preggo and ready to be done and hopefully more likely to just shut up and do what we say. If not I’m sure by then I’ll be able to dream up some scary sounding excuse to convince you to show and will even be able to try and make you feel guilty for wanting to skip out on a scheduled appointment that someone else could use… leaving all the nurses and doctors all flustered and such you meany.”

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Jamie had this to say, Dec 17, 2011 @ 7:52 pm (Quote)

How would you know when to show up? Sounds not impossible, but impractical for an OB to say. I’d love to hear the remainder of the conversation.

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Tee had this to say, Dec 17, 2011 @ 9:40 pm (Quote)

Fine with me! If you don’t tell me when it is, I most certainly can’t show up for it! I’ll get my VBAC attempt and you’ll get to continue to be a donkey’s behind. Win-win!

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Heidi had this to say, Dec 17, 2011 @ 11:36 pm (Quote)

I’m with Sheva. I laughed out loud at the stupidity of this one.

If it was a ploy to get a fee, it seems like he goofed big time by making this statement. I am not going to pay for missing an appointment scheduled without my knowledge!

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Kristin had this to say, Dec 18, 2011 @ 10:20 am (Quote)

Great! That way, when I fail to show up for it, I have the perfect excuse! You never told me when it was!

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KellyK had this to say, Dec 18, 2011 @ 10:46 am (Quote)

I took it to mean that the OB was gonig to schedule and not tell mom and then fake an emergency when she showed up for a regularly scheduled appointment. You know, kidnap the mom and lie to her to get his way.

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Angela had this to say, Dec 18, 2011 @ 8:18 pm (Quote)

Go right ahead. If I don’t know when it is, I guess I won’t be showing up for it, now will I?

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Details had this to say, Dec 19, 2011 @ 6:26 am (Quote)

Good you schedule it for 42 weeks, and I will do my VBAC before then. But I gotta warn you, if your next responce is as stupid as this last one I might just have to do it without you!

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Amber had this to say, Dec 19, 2011 @ 8:46 am (Quote)

This is my post…This was my first meeting with the doc as I had been seeing the midwives in the practice. Then found out midwives are not allowed to deliver VBAC’s at the one hospital in town that “allows” VBACs.

So upon our meeting she told me I wouldn’t be able to deliver this baby naturally unless I went early because of the difficult time with my previous VBAC. I rolled my eyes and said ok, whatever. Then she told me I would need to schedule a section because it’s hospital policy. I told her I would not schedule a section before 40 weeks and she said oh, we’ll schedule it for after that. She didn’t understand that I would not even consider scheduling a section until I was 40 weeks pregnant because I didn’t want some date hanging over my head and stressing me out. It was at this point she told me that they could just schedule one for me and not tell me the date.

At this point she must have known my husband and I were done with her because she said we’ll get everything set up at your next appt. We left and I immediately transferred to a different office.

Needless to say my son(and second VBAC) was born at 40 weeks and 5 hours after a very short labor with no medical intervention at all since we barely made it to the hospital! I’m also very excited to have the next one at home!

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Jane Reply:
December 19th, 2011 at 10:29 am Jane(Quote)

Wow, that doctor was….wow. It was as if she completely didn’t understand what you were saying! Congrats on your wonderful VBAC and best of luck with your next HBAC.