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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“Well, We Can Try To Let You Deliver Vaginally…”
“Well, we can try to let you deliver vaginally…” – OB to mother at her 9 week prenatal appointment.
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I know someone who was told this same thing with her 4th pregnancy. The reason? she had a walnut sized fibroid, and the OB told her that if the placenta grew over it, labor contractions could cause the placenta to pull loose from that area and cause her to hemorrhage. She got a second and third opinion,both of which told her not to worry about it.She went on to hire a midwife and had a wonderful homebirth.
I hope the OP posts in what context this was said, because with it being on this page,I have a feelingit was because of something ridiculous.
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Ha, this one is mine. And yes, this was my first baby.
Because of insurance issues, I received care through a traditional OB office for my early visits. At the first visit, after they had done the ultrasound and confirmed the pregnancy (yay!) we sat and talked with the OB about various things. I mentioned that because of some past hip surgeries I’d had as a child, I definitely wanted to make sure I could be free to labor in lots of different positions and deliver without someone pushing on my leg or touching me without my permission.
After talking briefly about my hip, the OB’s face got kind of closed; she said, “Well, we can try to let you deliver vaginally…” And this was without even asking any in-depth questions about my surgery, my current range of motion, etc. Just… we can let you try. Hm. Thanks for the overwhelming vote of confidence. I later found that the hospital where I would’ve had to deliver has a nearly 33% c-section rate–Yikes!
In all fairness, there was nothing specific about her that was as insensitive or cruel as most things on here. But the reason for asking was more about my comfort, not whether my body was able to birth altogether. I can easily see how a statement like this to a first-time mom who was more vulnerable or doubtful about her body could’ve cascaded into a lot of fear and future interventions during delivery. This was the catalyst that prompted me to do more research and make the choice that was going to be the best for myself and my baby. I read a lot and talked to people, and thankfully my new insurance kicked in at around 15 weeks, and I could switch to midwifery care through a freestanding birth center. (Which I cannot say enough marvelous things about; they treated me like a queen.)
A few months later, I successfully delivered my 11 pound, 5 ounce son, in water, au natural, after about 3 hours of labor. And nobody touched my legs.
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Alyson Miers Reply:
December 16th, 2011 at 5:09 pm (Quote)
Congratulations on your big baby and healthy birth! You’re a badass mama.
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Kathryn Reply:
December 16th, 2011 at 8:50 pm (Quote)
WOW!!! So glad the story had a happy ending. Good for you!
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Mandie Reply:
December 17th, 2011 at 9:34 am (Quote)
Great job being so assertive on your first baby!! It took 4 hospital births before I switched to a homebirth for #5!
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At 9 WEEKS they’re already trying to undermine her confidence?
I don’t care if she’s a VBA49C. It’s not up to the doctor to let her “try” anything.
I hope the OP ran running and screaming from this office.
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Rebecca Reply:
December 16th, 2011 at 11:22 am Rebecca(Quote)
LOL, while I get your point, I would hope that after 49 C-sections, Mom (who would likely be in her late sixties or early seventies) would go for CS number 50. Since I doubt this is the case, I agree the statement was inane when there’s no way to judge a pregnancy at 9 weeks for whether or not a child could be born vaginally if there isn’t some other medical problem (a friend of mine was told after her pelvis was shattered requiring multiple pins in an auto accident during high school that she wouldn’t be able to birth vaginally- and she got multiple opinions on that later which all agreed)
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Robyn Reply:
December 17th, 2011 at 10:28 am Robyn(Quote)
Kinda reminds me of the whole “rant” out there about “Should women have kids after 40?” It just goes on and on with the “absolutely not” and ends with something along the lines of “40 kids is enough!”
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Ruth Reply:
December 18th, 2011 at 6:19 pm Ruth(Quote)
LOL, after 49 c-sections, I imagine that ANY method of delivery would be very dangerous!
I read a birth story about a hospital VBA7C. The mom had been going over the consent form for her 8th c-section and after reading all the multitude of risks that came with that many c-sections made the comment, “It seems that no matter which way I deliver it is extremely dangerous. So if that’s the case, I might as well have a VBAC.”
The doctor agreed and she had a VBA7C in the hospital!
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Jane Reply:
December 18th, 2011 at 6:22 pm Jane(Quote)
That’s one awesome momma!
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Kiki Reply:
January 4th, 2012 at 5:03 pm Kiki(Quote)
TERRIFIC!!! Yea for moms! My sis mentioned wanting to do a VBA2C….I told her to go for it!
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Sarah Reply:
December 16th, 2011 at 11:42 am Sarah(Quote)
The part I find frightening is that it doesn’t even say they were going to let her try, it says they’re going to try to let her. It sounds to me like they aren’t going to try very hard, regardless of how hard mom tries.
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