Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“You’re Only 1-2 CM Dilated.”
You’re only 1-2 CM dilated.” – L&D Nurse to mother who had requested not to be told her dilation.
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Nurse is on auto-pilot and at the point where every single laboring woman is the same as every other laboring woman. TIme for the nurse to find a new floor to work on.
Or worse: it’s a power play. “You can’t tell me what to do. You can’t make me not tell you your dilation.”
And I agree: after this I would have asked either for a new nurse or refused any internals from this nurse.
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road2vba2c Reply:
December 4th, 2011 at 1:34 pm (Quote)
It was the “worse” option. I don’t like to say “hate”, but I hated this nurse.
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Jane Reply:
December 4th, 2011 at 1:36 pm (Quote)
She’s not worth hating. She must have a pretty pathetic life if that’s the way she needs to make herself feel important. :-b
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road2vba2c Reply:
December 4th, 2011 at 5:46 pm (Quote)
I think the part that got me was the “only”. With my first, I only dilated to 9cm before the doctor sectioned me for failure to progress. I had been in labor for several hours by this point, and thought I was further along. I didn’t want to hear it to begin with, and hearing it referred like that, “You’re *only* 1-2cm.” Yeah, I was wanting to scream.
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women don’t realize they have choices. So if the nurse goes in to check you say no, and close your legs. If she still tries, yell at her and talk to someone about it so they don’t let her work with you
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Eileen Reply:
December 4th, 2011 at 4:46 pm (Quote)
Let’s not play blame-the-mom. There are hospitals where regular internals are part of required standard procedure, good luck finding anyone in that hospital to back you up if you refuse them. More likely in that type of situation if you make a scene will they call in extra nurses to hold you down since the internal is “necessary.” Is it technically assault and bordering on rape? Sure. Is any court in the country going to convict a nurse or doctor of that? Not a chance. So let’s give mom the benefit of the doubt, just saying no doesn’t always work like it should.
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Maria Reply:
December 4th, 2011 at 5:10 pm (Quote)
Been there, done that. Sobbing/screaming “no” and trying to physically get away…gets you held down and told not to “move away from the doctor.”
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Becky Reply:
December 4th, 2011 at 6:50 pm (Quote)
I see this from time to time and while I no doubt believe this happens, I am truly wondering where it happens. It’s just so hard for me to imagine this happening in my local hospital – but then again I live in a fairly affluent area of the Midwest in the USA. Maybe someone can clue me in – are these mostly military hospitals or outside the US or I am just that naive?
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Maria Reply:
December 4th, 2011 at 6:53 pm (Quote)
This was a local hospital in an affluent area. The only hospital in the county. Private OB, private insurance etc.
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Ella Reply:
December 4th, 2011 at 7:07 pm (Quote)
not blaming the mom in any way , can’t believe someone wouldn’t listen to what she asked for. its unbelievable in this day and age, gosh
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Knitted in the Womb Reply:
December 5th, 2011 at 8:57 pm (Quote)
What was done to you Maria was wrong on SO many levels.
We really need to start naming the SOB’s that do this. I wish that names could be put on the quotes on this website. At the very least…could you name the hospital you were at?
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Maria Reply:
December 6th, 2011 at 4:54 am (Quote)
It’s no big surprise that I ended up with an epidural after hours of being strapped flat to my back on monitors & having things like this done to me. It’s only been very recently (my daughter is almost 7) that I’ve stopped feeling guilty/like a failure/like it was my fault.
I’m not 40 wks pregnant with baby #3 and planning a home birth any day now. 
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Alyson Miers had this to say,
Dec 4, 2011 @ 11:33 am (Quote)
Okay, let’s see what else we can do with this trick.
“Nurse? You most definitely MUST NOT bash your head repeatedly into that nearby wall. Got that? I’m sure it wouldn’t hurt you, but we wouldn’t want to see the dent you’d put in the wall!”
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road2vba2c had this to say,
Dec 4, 2011 @ 1:34 pm (Quote)
Jane hit the nail on the head. This lady was totally on a power trip. I refused to say “when” I had my c-section, opted for “if”. My last straw was when she tried to put an IV in when I was having a contraction. I told her to get away from me. She said, “We have to get this for when you have a c-section.” I said, “Not now, get out” and had my doula/hubby ready to ask her to leave if she came back in. I’m thankful she didn’t.
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Charity Reply:
December 6th, 2011 at 3:15 pm (Quote)
They placed an IV during a contraction when I’d already refused it with my first. My ex husband was arguing with me about how I needed to have the IV because it was policy. Finally he pulled the nurse aside and said, “I’ll hold her down if you need me to, but you might want to try when she’s concentrating during a contraction.”
I’m glad you had someone to advocate for you.
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road2vba2c Reply:
December 6th, 2011 at 8:28 pm (Quote)
Goodness, I can see why he’s your ex… Sorry you went through that!
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“Seems we’re not on the same page here. Who would I talk to about having a different nurse assigned to me?”
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