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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“Don’t Push!”
“Don’t push!” – OB Resident to mother, while waiting for the Attending OB to arrive.
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After just experiencing for the first time the uncontrollable reflex of the body pushing, there would not have been any stopping the baby coming out and I would have kicked this OB in the face.
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Mindy S Reply:
December 1st, 2011 at 4:42 am (Quote)
Agreed. This happened to me with my first VBAC. I had never experienced a vaginal birth before and the nurse was telling me to breathe and yelling at me to stop pushing so I didn’t hurt my baby, saying I wasn’t ready to push yet. My body was pushing her out and I was writhing on the bed, trying NOT to. Horrible!
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first time mommy had this to say,
Nov 29, 2011 @ 11:23 am (Quote)
In the words of my FABULOUS L&D nurse, “Don’t worry about if the OB is here or not. You go ahead and push if you feel like it.”
I saw that A Baby Story on TLC and they told a laboring woman not to push until the OB got there. He’d been at home b/c he’d overslept! Hmm at any other job if you oversleep and are late for work you DON’T GET PAID. But OBs get special treatment for not showing up and STILL get paid?! NOT FAIR.
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When the nurse for my 3rd birth was yelling this at me, my doula was yelling at her that I was unmedicated, and she either needed to get the Dr in the room or catch herself since there was no way I could stop pushing.
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I’ll comply on one condition: DON’T BLINK!!! What’s that you say? You can’t fight it? Hmmmmmmmm…….
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xanthina Reply:
November 29th, 2011 at 4:11 pm (Quote)
“Don’t blink. Blink and you’re dead. Don’t turn your back. Don’t look away. And don’t blink. Good Luck.”
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Gem Reply:
November 30th, 2011 at 11:36 am (Quote)
I knew that had to be a Dr quote or a Cap’n Mal quote!
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xanthina Reply:
December 2nd, 2011 at 8:19 am (Quote)
Doctor Who, 10th regeneration. “Blink” the first appearance of the Weeping Angels. That episode had almost NO Doctor in it. And was perhaps the scariest of all episodes, ever.
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Hahahahahahaha!
I had a nurse say this to me right before I had my baby in the caul. Well, she apologized as it was just a reaction because the doctor was not there, and she said she knew I couldn’t stop. I appreciate that she apologized and really was glad she was there and caught my healthy baby. I’d had two babies before with the nurse in the room and no doc, and I had tried the “no pushing” bit before. It doesn’t always work.
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My midwife said this to me. She had just checked me 3 surges ago and I was 7. I knew, and my Hypnobirthing teacher (who was there to see the birth) knew my daughter was about to be born, because I had just had an adrenaline rush and was telling anyone who would listen that the baby was coming. But because I was just 7 cm a few minutes ago and appeared relatively calm, my midwife didn’t believe me. That is, until she peeked under my gown and saw a head. She didn’t have the supply cart in the room, and she was caught off guard, so she panicked a little bit and blurted out, “Don’t push!” I remember thinking that if I wasn’t in the middle of involuntarily pushing a baby out of my vagina, I would have turned around and laughed in her face. At my 6 week check up, I was told that she had never said that to a patient before. I guess I just really caught her off guard.
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It’s funny–even as I was being half-carried into the birth center, howling that the baby was coming and ended up crawling because I couldn’t support my weight enough for everyone else to get me in, not once did my midwife say this. Not as I only made it halfway to the bed and climbed into a modified squat position.
She did tell me to stop pushing when I’d contract later while she was trying to stitch me up, lol. I wasn’t even aware I was doing it until she told me to stop. I was just flinching because I was still so sore from my body vehemently ‘surging’ baby out so hard her face was bruised!
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Well, I have had two times when I tried not pushing with an unmedicated labor–the birth of my second and fourth–both boys.
With my second, I was 9 cm with a lip left and the baby was asynclitic. I didn’t know what that meant, but it seems to have affected me by giving me some urge to push, but not making me actually able to do it! It was the craziest feeling. I was screaming at my husband and the nurse, “Don’t touch me!” I would also sit straight up on the bed in the middle of a contraction so that I wouldn’t be able to push at all.
After an hour of being told to push and not doing it, my doctor, who attended all of my births, said, “I’m going to leave and let you relax for a while.” Yay! I WANTED to relax so desperately. However, when they helped me lay on my left side before they left, that baby got lined up. I started pushing uncontrollably, screaming, all that with only dh there. He was a GREAT birth partner. Didn’t panic at all. The doctor came back after 20 minutes, and I birthed a 10 lb, 2 oz baby 10 minutes after that. 30 minutes of pushing and I only willingly pushed three times.
With my 4th, things were a lot more positive. I told my doctor I wanted to avoid tearing in the hopes of having a better recovery than the first three births. We made a plan for me to push on my side and to “slow down,” if possible.
It didn’t *feel* possible, but when the doctor said, “Slow down,” or “Don’t push now,” my doula said, “Blow birthday candles!” I would say I was able to do it half the time and the rest of the time I was still pushing because the urge was so great. I did tear, but I birthed a 9 lb, 13 oz baby *with* a nuchal hand with my smallest tear ever.
This is just to share, for those who are interested, it is sometimes possible to reduce pushing if somebody helps you do it. But I think the instruction, “Don’t push,” if made at all, should be made with the understanding that you are asking somebody to do something darn near impossible. Don’t say it just because so-and-so isn’t here!
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I am the OP. I ahd been waiting 2.5 hours since coming in to be checked. Finally The resident checked and I was 8 Cm. Resident called the desk and told them to put my OB on alert, but he didnt have to come yet. Because I was having back labor, I wanted to get up and change positions (actually, I wanted to walk around and try laboring not laying down but they kept saying n0). As I stood up I transitioned, and started pushing standing up. They got me on the bed and the resident checked me again, looked up and said ‘well you are fully dilated. We will get the doctor here right away. Just don’t push”.
I ignored her and 15-20 min alter when the OB walked in the door, my beautiful daughter was already in my arms.
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Abby Reply:
December 29th, 2011 at 5:36 am (Quote)
When I had my son (my second baby, with a vbac), I had to wait an HOUR for the doctor to arrive, and the whole time I kept saying “I feel like I need to push!” The nurses ignored me, so I had to take quick breaths to keep from making myself push, and I got yelled at! I was so frustrated, because I couldn’t really help it. Either let me push or let me breathe to stop from pushing. But don’t give me a hard time about it. Also, I insisted that I was ready for about an hour before that, and the nurse, who had just checked me, refused to do another check 15 minutes later when I was certain I’d gone through transition and was fully dialated. I made my husband go and find her, and she said they couldn’t check me again for another 45 minutes (couldn’t or *wouldn’t*?) It’s funny, I had a great experience with the birth itself, but the L&D nurse was a bit annoying during the labor process.
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Oh, just shut up and put on a damn glove or two!
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