Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“As Soon As I See The Doctor’s Car Pull Into The Parking Lot, I’ll Let You Push.”
“As soon as I see the doctor’s car pull into the parking lot, I’ll let you push.” - L&D Nurse to the mother as she’s looking out the window at the parking lot while holding a crowning baby inside.
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Leave. Now. Get me your supervisor and while you’re at it, you might take a look in the yellow pages for an attorney, because I sure as hell will be as soon as this is over.
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Sarah Reply:
November 18th, 2011 at 2:50 pm (Quote)
I should add this would be one time a good swift kick would be highly appropriate and justified.
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road2vba2c Reply:
November 18th, 2011 at 3:24 pm (Quote)
This is where Mama Bear comes out and tears into the nurse.
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jaed Reply:
November 18th, 2011 at 3:34 pm (Quote)
This is where the people you brought with you to support and protect you in the hospital come in handy.
(Not that the nurse wouldn’t richly deserve to have the mother kick her fool ass, but it’s logistically difficult at the moment of delivery. Papa Bear is better suited at this moment to move the nurse away from the mother.)
I just hope to God the baby wasn’t harmed.
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Jespren had this to say,
Nov 18, 2011 @ 4:15 pm (Quote)
I can’t believe (in the WTF!! Variety not the ‘this is a lie’ variety, unfortunately I *do* believe it happens) anyone with even an ounce of intelligence, you know, the limited amount that would be needed to say, be pottied trained, would HOLD A BIRTHING BABY INSIDE A WOMAN! It’s a not uncommon war crime in certain places to tie a laboring woman’s legs together, which ends in dead baby and usually dead mom too. Yet somehow a murderous war crime is a-ok in a hospital as long as the doctor isn’t there yet, or is there and decides he wants an emergency c-section instead of a vaginal birth!
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I never get these types of ridiculous comments. When I was ready to push, I was ready. There was no stopping me!
I sincerely hope mom and baby were OK after this.
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Mama Wrench Reply:
November 18th, 2011 at 5:25 pm (Quote)
Most medical professionals are completely unprepared for dealing with a woman responding to her body’s needs. Women who have epidurals generally can’t feel the ejection reflex and women who don’t are usually instructed to push as soon as they hit 10 whether they feel the urge to or not. This leads medical professionals to believe that pushing is entirely within the mother’s control and that she can start or stop on demand.
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jaed Reply:
November 19th, 2011 at 12:53 am (Quote)
So you’re saying most medical professionals are completely unprepared for… normal childbirth?
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Sara r. Reply:
November 19th, 2011 at 12:52 pm (Quote)
Totally agree with this- the doctor who was on call was pretty hands-off when he ran down the hall as my daughter was crowning (when we got there to the hospital), but made sure that he recorded in my chart that I was “unable to control my expulsive efforts”. Umm….baby is crowning and my body is pushing spontaneously, how do you control that? Maybe if they hadn’t forced me onto the bed and held my legs I would have had more control?! I was obviously doing pretty well before I got there!
Holding a baby inside the mother is insane. What medical professional actually thinks that’s a good idea?
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Susan Peterson Reply:
November 19th, 2011 at 11:48 pm (Quote)
When I was born in 1950, the nurse held my mother’s legs closed because the delivery room was occupied. They kept them shut until they finally took her in the delivery room. This was after laboring with demerol/scopolomine “twilight sleep” which did NOT make her forget, but which did give her hallucinations.
Oh, and then she was knocked out, the doctor cut an episiotomy, and I was pulled out with forceps, because that was the standard way to deliver a baby back then.
I am kind of claustrophobic, and I wonder if it came from this. I also wonder if I would have had trouble telling left from R, if I would have had some sense of time and direction, and if I would have been better at math, if this had not happened to me. There is no way of telling for sure. But what a nightmare!
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This is my submission. I’m a birth doula and this happened to a client of mine. It was horrible. I did my best in the moment to encourage her to continue pushing, but ultimately, it was her choice not to push. Without divulging too much info, the baby did have a difficult time and didn’t come home for almost a week. I was very sad after that birth.
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Andrea Reply:
November 18th, 2011 at 6:24 pm (Quote)
Just to add, the baby is a VERY happy healthy almost 2 year old. Thank God it was nothing too serious!
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BeckyJ Reply:
November 18th, 2011 at 8:56 pm (Quote)
That poor child is lucky to not have cerebral palsy or some kind of brain damage! I would have been so pissed if I were the mom in that bed!”Get your hand OFF of my baby! It’s coming out NOW!”
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Details Reply:
November 19th, 2011 at 5:22 pm (Quote)
Well, I cerainly hope that enough of a stink was raised that hospital policy has changed and the nurse has been re-train, re-assigned or fired. You know these nurses don’t just get these crazy ideas from watching television. There should be a rule at every hospital that nurses deliver without retribution whenever doctors are not available. Written or unwritten somebody clearly told this nurse that she would get in trouble if she caught. Nurses should not be worried about what they will get in trouble for. They should be worried about the safety of the mother and child. Simply firing this nurse won’t fix a damn thing if the other nurses think she was fired for catching rather than fired for interfering and creating an unsafe situation.
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Something opposite happened to me. As I was getting the urge to push to deliver my son’s body, all the medical staff decided to occupy themselves with something else… including the OB! I remember screaming “I gotta push! I gotta push!” but there was no one there to catch. They kept telling me to push, but the closest one nearby was my DH who was holding my hand. Seriously. I had an epidural, I was having the urge to push, and all the medical staff was off doing something else. SMH
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Jade Reply:
November 19th, 2011 at 1:12 am (Quote)
Please tell me your DH caught your little one.
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Kim Reply:
November 19th, 2011 at 6:51 pm (Quote)
When my mom had baby #6, my dad started to pass out, so everyone, including the OB started tending to him. After a few min my mom had to say “um, I’m still pushing over here…” Dad pulled himself together though and even caught my little sister himself.
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Another Lying bitch who just wants 5 min of fame
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Rerra Reply:
November 18th, 2011 at 9:55 pm (Quote)
Oooh, impressive comment. I’m definitely convinced this was all just made up now. See, there’s no hostility or mistreatment of women in the maternal system! Silly us!
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BeckyJ Reply:
November 19th, 2011 at 3:46 am (Quote)
Who wants to bet that the anonymous comment was made by someone from a hospital that was just a tad too upset by the truth staring them in the face?
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Mama Wrench Reply:
November 19th, 2011 at 5:38 am (Quote)
Nah, they know what goes on in their hallowed halls. They just don’t think it’s a bad thing.
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This happened to me. The nurses kept saying the OB was on his way, but he took 40 minutes to show up from the time he was called and the baby was crowning. Altogether my pushing phase was 1 hr 40 minutes but 40 minutes of that was waiting… Obviously I had an epi or that would NOT have flown. I was pretty mad just the same. Baby was totally fine on the monitors the whole time though, I am unsure how dangerous it is though? Due to this and a couple other things I’m definitely switching care providers next time around.
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Oh, HELL NO!!!! No, no, no! You do not hold a crowning baby inside! How incompetent does a nurse have to be to not know that this is incredibly dangerous! Seriously, the mother would have been better off giving birth under a tree here!
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