Umm… right. 15 months after having my first (when I got pregnant again) I had still not lost all the weight gained during my 1st pregnancy. Right now, 7 weeks after having my 2nd baby, I am already back to that pre-pregnancy weight. I gained 35 lbs during the 1st pregnancy and 22 lbs during the 2nd.

And even if what this OB said was true and he had studies to back it up, who says the husband cares more about his wife’s figure than having another child? And who says the husband is making this decision alone??

There is just so much wrong with this one.

Wow! Well, I gained 70 lbs with my first baby. Then 40, then 35 and so far at 25 weeks I’ve gained about 15. So I seem to be gaining less with each baby… and I lost all the baby weight after #3 and weighed what I did before I ever got pregnant with the first. So, guess again Mr. MD

Tell that to my mother, who had 5 kids, and fits into size 5 jeans.

This doesn’t even deserve a “that’s not true for so and so” type of comment. The grossness of the OB telling this to the husband, as if the wife were property, as if her body shape were up to the husband to “allow” or otherwise control, besides the (probably unsolicited) statement about this mother’s post partum body…

It doesn’t even deserve the defense “Hey there, buddy, she just might lose that weight anyways!”

No. It’s all wrong.

Ummm, no. Why at 27 weeks pregnant with #3 do I weigh less than I did 1 year postpartum with DS1? Why did I weigh less at 1 week postpartum with DS2 than I did when he was concieved?

1: My husband WANTS me to gain weight. I’ve been the same size since I was 14.
2: I’ve gained LESS with this one than with #1.
3: I gained 50 pounds the first time and lost it all within 6 weeks. Even if I gain that much again I’ll STILL not even be at the maximum “allowed” weight for military service.
4, and most important: Why would my husband’s opinion on my body size be the MOST important factor in our deciding how large our family (or my ass) should be?

yeh right, I lost 40lbs from beginning till 4months after birth. I am as thin as I have been as a high school teen

Wow. I think my husband would’ve told this idiot off. FWIW, to add my anecdotal experience to the mix, I was below pre-baby #1 when I got pregnant with baby #3…

Let’s count all the assumptions: The woman wants to have another baby, the father has no opinion, that having more than one baby makes a woman gain weight, that she won’t be able to lose weight, that this is undesirable to the man, that she is already too big.

I hate that expression, “extra weight she’s carrying.” Not only does it imply that there is some a perfect size and anything more is excessive, but that this excessive size is born like a burden. It’s not a satchel or a backpack; it’s a part of my body and therefore it is ME.

I lost all the weight pretty easily after the first 3, but some weight stuck after #4. I think it’s because she nursed the longest (2 1/2 years) and I don’t lose the last 10 lbs or so while nursing. And DH and I are still happy that I’m pregnant with another one.
But, really, doc. Such a creep! In what sick, sick world is a man’s opinion/desire for a woman’s figure the only arbiter of whether or not she may have more children?!
Oh, right. This doc’s world. Yuck.

Interesting, because I think that I gained less weight with #2 and lost my pregnancy weight a lot faster.

Now that I’ve had kids, I weigh less than I did through a number of my single years.

I guess in my case this was sort of true. I lost 20lbs with my first because I had HG. So I was pretty sickly and skeletal before and after my first was born.

With my second (no HG), I gained 25lbs and lost it all plus some after the baby was born. Since she weaned a year ago, I’ve gained a whopping seven lbs. Those seven pounds have really made me fat.

First of all, that’s a load of crap. But even if it wasn’t, I don’t think that weight gain is something to consider when talking about expanding a family! How dare this doctor say something so horrible, nasty and incorrect?!

actually, after my second is when I dropped below my pre-preg weight. my third sent me up 2 pants sizes, but my 4th brought me down one again.

First, kudos to the husband for going to his wife’s appt. with her. In 5 pregnancies my hubby hardly met our midwife and never came to a pp visit.

My impression is that there was probably a discussion on bc, the wife said no and the hubby agreed right before this was said. And making a new mother feel like a blimp is the most awesome thing ever a doctor could do. Eff you, doc. Eff you.

Yup. Just wrong on so many levels. Not least of which is to imply that the woman’s body shape is of greater concern to the husband than whether they bring another human person into their family and into the world.

It sounds so much like superstition, like something my grandmother would’ve said. She thought it was dangerous for me to date my n

Yup. Just wrong on so many levels. Not least of which is to imply that the woman’s body shape is of greater concern to the husband than whether they bring another human person into their family and into the world.

It sounds so much like superstition, like something my grandmother would’ve said.

Ah, social engineering at it’s best.

Meanwhile, first child made me fatter than I already was, ’cause I started out fat. This 4th baby is making me skinny. If this keeps up I will leave the hospital weighing less than my pre pregnancy weight. Mostly because of the barfing.

Oh yes, and the assumption that “fat” is something the husband doesn’t want is so icky. Especially if he’s talking “fat” as in “not plastic Barbie hot” kind of fat, rather than actual obesity.

So glad for a husband who appreciates my curves. All of them.

This is a prime example of an EXCUSE ME? moment. Picture it – Dad says Excuse Me (as in wth did you just say?) And the doctor stands there hemming a hawing about to wet his pants. I’m mean what can he say after that? “Well, I’m just saying.” “It is scientifically proven.” What? What could the doctor possible say after a man says to him what the hell did you just say about my wife. There is no excuse for this. And the doctor should be forced to stand there and think about what he just said as if he was 5 years old and sent to the corner!

Can I see this printed in a medical journal and supporting research?

What… No?!?

I had something similar said to me by a coworker once. I was pregnant with my second, he asked if this was it for us. I told him that we were planning on having four. His response was that women never seemed to stay hot if they have more then two kids. (*eye roll*)

So every woman in the world who has had more than 1 child is fat? No wonder we have an obesity epidemic going on! And what does the 3rd, 4th, 5th… kid to a woman?

After my second I actually ended up underweight. After 5 kids I weigh less than when I got married.

Hmmm… lets see. 70lb gained for each of my pregnancies. I finally lost all of it 9 months after my first was born… As of now I am 5 months postpartum with my second and have lost all of it. Yep! I sure got fat!