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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“We Wonder About People Like You Who Can’t Push A 5lb Baby Out Of Their Vagina.”
“We wonder about people like you who can’t push a 5lb baby out of their vagina.” – OB to mother who had a cesarean.
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Yeah, the thing is… Size of baby doesn’t matter all that much. Quality of care… THAT is the real clincher. I wonder about people like YOU that apparently have many women under their “care” who “can’t” push an anypound baby out of their vagina. It says far more about you than them, Dr Venemous Hateful Brass Stud.
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Jane Reply:
October 25th, 2011 at 4:20 am (Quote)
That’s what gets me: if a midwife was working really hard with a woman to birth a baby that seemed stuck, the midwife would suggest different laboring positions, suggest techniques for bringing the baby down, suggest ideas for getting a cervical lip out of the way, and so on and so forth. The mom would be mobile and able to work with the midwife to try these things. The midwife would suggest techniques for changing the baby’s position (and may have done so prior to start of labor.) There would be back rubs, massages, time in the tub…
A typical OB in a typical hospital would look at the clock, decide the mom wasn’t dilating fast enough to keep the chart happy, and give her pitocin, break her water, and keep checking her every hour while saying things about when they’d bring her to the OR.
If the doctor used her entire bag of tricks (both of them!) on this mom and they didn’t work, how is it supposed to be the mother’s “fault” that she “couldn’t” birth her baby?
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It’s been proven that tiny babies are harder to deliver vaginally than normal sized babies, the body isn’t designed to be delivering them at that stage.
Also, a mother of either a premature or IUGR (I’m guessing it was one of the two at 5lb if not there was something else going on health wise so this still stands) doesn’t need any extra guilt layered on her!
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What the [redacted]?
What exactly are “we” wondering about, to start with? It sounds like some kind of nasty insinuation is being made about the mother, but what?
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Alyson Miers had this to say,
Oct 24, 2011 @ 4:26 pm (Quote)
*ZAP!*
We wonder about people like you, Dr. Stabby-Douchewaffle, who can’t stay out of the way of the ray gun. Why do you keep walking in front of me just as I’m getting ready to fire this thing, doc? Why are you hitting yourself?
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This one is mine. The dr said this when I inquired about vbacing. Pretty much she was implying that because I couldn’t deliver my premature son vaginally (wow that’s a long story why it didn’t happen) that there is no way I’d be pushing out a full term child. Needless to say, I won’t be going to her for obgyn care anymore.
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Becky Reply:
October 24th, 2011 at 8:29 pm (Quote)
So glad you won’t be going back to her! Hope you find someone much better for care.
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Kat Reply:
October 24th, 2011 at 8:50 pm (Quote)
Crazy.
My only c-section was my now 8-week-old. All 5 pounds 12 oz of him. He was in distress and even after the very quick rush down the hall into surgery, he needed extra care.
It had nothing to do with my ability to birth vaginally, which I did 6 times, my largest baby being 7lb 15oz.
You would think the doctor could take thirty seconds and glance at the chart to see WHY a c-section happened before concluding (idiotically) that it happened because the mother was somehow defective and “couldn’t” birth the baby. GRRRR!
I hope you have had a peaceful VBAC, or else that you will have one when you are ready.
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Mama Wrench Reply:
October 25th, 2011 at 7:54 am (Quote)
Not that the chart even matters, anyway — mine says my c-section was for arrest of dilation, even though I came into the hospital at 9cm, dilated to 10 in 2 hours and pushed for 2 hours before my water broke and my son’s HR dropped like a stone 
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Jenn had this to say,
Oct 24, 2011 @ 11:14 pm (Quote)
I never dilated with my 5lb 5oz C-section baby. (I was threatened with IUGR and induced because of a head to abdomen disparity, but he is now a skinny 4-year-old with a big head.)
Two years later, I pushed my 6lb 6oz breech HBAC out in 12 minutes.
Good for you, OP, for not going back! I didn’t either and it was amazing!
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Ouch…i’ve had 3 c-sections and none of my kids have been more than 6 lbs. I would have happily delivered them natually if it were an option…it is kind of sad that women who have had c-sections are so often shamed. I have 4 beautiful healthy children and I am healthy…none of which would be the case without c-sections.
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Oh. My. Wtf?! How is that a helpful statement at ALL???
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