Oct 21

Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.

“You’ll Never Have A Baby Vaginally.”

“You’ll never have a baby vaginally.” – OB to mother the day after her primary cesarean.

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Jessica had this to say, Oct 21, 2011 @ 3:28 pm (Quote)

Dear OP, I have had this said to me as well. stay strong, you can do it. I’m sorry that you were told this.

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Jade Reply:
October 27th, 2011 at 10:35 pm Jade(Quote)

I have had a variation of it said to me as well. After birthing my 6lb 9oz baby I was told “you will never birth a baby bigger than 7lbs vaginally”. 26 months later I birthed my 9lb 3oz baby in my bedroom.

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Sam had this to say, Oct 21, 2011 @ 3:31 pm (Quote)

whatever! although rarely it can be true. my friend had a c section for her first. tried for a vbac which was fine with her doc. she pushed for i think 2 hours, nurses got her a birthing stool and tried all sorts of differant positions. she just couldnt do it. but i think every woman needs to have the chance to try!!!!!

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first time mommy had this to say, Oct 21, 2011 @ 3:40 pm (Quote)

*sigh* Burnout much? Knife happy much?
Yes, some women, like my friend who has had her hips replaced three times and her pelvic opening is now the size of a coke can, cannot birth a baby vaginally. But to say this right after a c-section, even if the mother physically will never achieve a vaginal birth, is very rude, inappropriate and unprofessional. Mom’s probably upset enough and rubbing salt in the wound only makes the OB feel better about the situation.
If women weren’t meant to give birth vaginally, wtf did we do before c-sections? Get super drunk (as they used to do for “surgeries” back in the day…), bite a bullet and take the husband’s finest hunting ax to the abdomen?! Think not!

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Sarah Reply:
October 21st, 2011 at 4:13 pm Sarah(Quote)

Zombie babies FTW!!!

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Maddy Reply:
October 21st, 2011 at 5:43 pm Maddy(Quote)

I recently heard about a woman who, almost 10 years back, did just that – took a few shots of hard liquor and used a knife to give herself a c-section. She had one of her other children call a nearby nurse over before she lost consciousness, and she apparently lost very little blood and was stitched up by the nurse and then sent to a hospital.

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first time mommy Reply:
October 21st, 2011 at 6:37 pm first time mommy(Quote)

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2004-04-07-self-caesarean_x.htm

OMG. I found the story. Can’t believe she did it – her reasons make sense though.

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amanda Reply:
October 24th, 2011 at 7:09 am amanda(Quote)

wow, that’s incredible!

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Samantha had this to say, Oct 21, 2011 @ 6:08 pm (Quote)

Oh! Oh! Can I have the winning lotto numbers as well oh great seer of the future.

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sara r. had this to say, Oct 21, 2011 @ 7:19 pm (Quote)

Lots of women are given this impression after their c-sections, even if the doctor doesn’t say it so directly…

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Antonette had this to say, Oct 21, 2011 @ 7:44 pm (Quote)

After a 36 hour labor, I was being prepped for a section. Doc came in to chat with me before, to see if I had any questions. My first comment was:
1. I want a second option for the section.

her reply: “I am your second opinion. we are beyond that.”

To which I responded “If that were the case, we wouldn’t be chatting, you’d be running down the hall with me on a gurney.”

My follow-up: “What are the odds of my having a VBAC next time?”

Her response: “I’m sorry, but you’ll never be able to birth vaginally. You’re hips are too narrow.”

My response: “Based on what? One would think you would have figured that out in the last 5 years I’ve been seeing you for paps, and the first 5 months of this pregnancy and told me sooner, even pushing for a scheduled section based on your “knowledge.”

Unfortunately, I never got the chance to find out if I could VBAC successfully. 6 years after my son was born, I was diagnosed with severe endo that bascially glued all of my organs together and made it impossible for me to get preggo again.

*sigh*

OP, I hope you had a chance for a VBAC with another pregnancy.

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StaudtCJ had this to say, Oct 21, 2011 @ 8:38 pm (Quote)

It’s sad that I’m so cynical, but my first thought if this was said to me would be “Oh My G-d what did you do to me? How exactly am I maimed?”

But I’m just cynical, because I’ve heard too many stories of punitive C-sections with unfavorable incision types.

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jaed Reply:
October 22nd, 2011 at 12:39 pm jaed(Quote)

That was the first thing I thought of as well. I guess we’ve both become cynical.

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AmandaPN had this to say, Oct 21, 2011 @ 9:48 pm (Quote)

I don’t remember why my neighbor has her c/s, but she was also told afterward that she would never be able to have a baby vaginally. She totally believed it and scheduled a c/s… and then her second son was born via unplanned and unassisted HBAC on the floor of her bathroom because he came so fast. So yeah, so much for not being able to birth vaginally.

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Kristin had this to say, Oct 21, 2011 @ 10:29 pm (Quote)

Did you remove her vagina during the section?
If not, then why wouldn’t she be able to VBAC later?

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Miss M had this to say, Oct 22, 2011 @ 6:37 am (Quote)

OP – this doesn’t have to be true! I had a *induced* VBAC after a c-section at 29 weeks with my son. The VBAC was a wonderful experience – you just have to find the right OB/midwife.

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Lisa had this to say, Oct 22, 2011 @ 8:10 pm (Quote)

I had virtually the same thing said to me the day after my eldest was born. Just change it to “You’re too small to ever give birth vaginally.” 2 UBAC’s later, all I can say is ‘Hah!’. Ds2 was a hard pushing stage because he turned funny & got stuck for awhile, but ds3 was only a half hour. Planning my 3rd UBAC for Jan.

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