Screaming in a non-emergency situation has no place in medicine. Burnout. “Please bring me the floor nurse, and we’ll explain to you that it’s not my fault if you have lousy timing.”

BTW, don’t most *babies* do the screaming when it’s time to wake you up to feed? Maybe the nurse mis-read her job description. :-b

Well, if mom was sleeping through the baby crying to be fed, I can see it. Screaming still wouldn’t be professional and if mom was so tired or drugged that she didn’t wake up, the nurse should have noticed that. But I doubt mom would have submitted that (unless she had asked the nurses to watch the baby because she knew she wouldn’t wake up and been turned down), so I’m just going to guess that mom was taking the ever so popular “sleep while the baby sleeps” advise.
My son was born at 4:30pm, and that night slept from about 1:00 to 6:30 before waking up on his own to feed. He was a chunky almost 9lbs, we had an unmedicated labor and delivery, was breathing well, had great color and temperature every time I checked him, and had a good latch and had cluster fed for hours before this long nap. Made me a bit nervous, but I didn’t see any reason to wake him up on a schedule. I had over suppy with my first, and seemed to have lots then, too, so wasn’t worried about that.
I’d like to hear more about what this nurse’s problem was!

Hey, nurse! The mamas don’t sleep on your schedule, you self-important twit!

Shut up! I’ll feed my baby when he/she is hungry! Everytime you come in here screaming, you wake me up, and I’ve JUST fallen back to sleep when you come in here screaming again! Verbal assault! Verbal Assault! Burnout police! Ombudsman! OSHA! It’s too loud in here! My baby’s ears are sensitive to loud, grating noises!

I don’t usually comment on these, but had to on this one. Had a nurse say pretty much exactly the same thing to me. After a very long labor, then a c-section, and the pain meds that follow, I fell asleep. The nurse came in at some point, woke me up, and yelled, “YOU HAVE TO FEED YOUR BABY!!” I remember feeling so guilty, but looking back on it now, why couldn’t she have just been polite about it? I’d like to see her be awake for 48 hours straight, have surgery, then have pain meds, and then stay awake.

I had to be woken up to feed my baby. I was still a bit drugged up and exhausted from labour, and was in a room with maybe 6-8 mothers and their newborns – there was pretty much always at least ONE baby crying, and I hadn’t yet got used to telling my son’s cry from the others’. She woke me nicely, though, with a gentle hand on my arm, and a ‘Sorry, but your baby’s crying, you need to wake up.’ No screaming necessary! I was still HUGELY embarrassed and upset that I’d slept through him crying (in a new-parent over-anxious ‘OMG I’m a terrible mother to sleep when he needs me!’ sort of a way), but I’m pretty sure she knew it was only to be expected that a new mother gets some sleep if she can!

BFing log is on the table. i fed baby 30 minutes ago while you were gone. read it. and f- off.

I don’t remember submitting this one… (I didn’t, but could have)

You know about my awful (in a staff way, it was brilliant actually) labour, well it didn’t get any better. I was in hospital with her for six weeks and believe me when I say I’d almost given up on complaining (probably would have done if it wasn’t for my Doula) because it was so bad in that 6 weeks I didn’t care about the awful birth anymore.

In the time I was in hospital I was expected to be fully awake for feeds (even nodding your head is a no-no – had to laugh at a nodding nurse though!) but you were also expected to respond immediately when your baby cried in the night. As someone else has said when you’re in a room of 4 mums you have to tune babies out and you end up tuning your own out too. I had a methodone baby next to me so there was a lot of crying going on! I was exhausted and often tried to stay awake all night so I couldn’t get in trouble. I’ve had films on my laptop all night and allsorts trying to keep myself awake between feeds. My PGP also means I can’t get in and out of bed with a baby so I have a manual handling assessment but they’d just leave her crying in her bed and refuse to help me.

They actually referred me to social services because I was falling asleep during feeds and not waking up when she cried. I’ve only just at 4.5 months been able to go home because my baby was placed into my parents care. I’ve never even seen a social worker, apart from the initial interview at the hospital, they thought it was so pointless. Mum said she was sending me home and they didn’t complain. (This is the same hospital/ ward that locked a SW in a cupboard because they had come to take away the baby of a dangerous parent)

I was disappointed I didn’t get the contraception question as part of the discharge, I was going to say “this place because I am not even going to have sex again until he’s had the all clear. I never want to come back here again!”

WTF.
you just can’t win! they insist you need your sleep so sleep sleep sleep! Let THEM feed your newborn baby formula! It doesn’t matter bc you need sleep!
But when you DO sleep, you get yelled at bc your baby needs to be fed?!

Argh. Makes me feel lucky I found an amazing hospital close to home if/when DH and I decide to have another one. (My state insurance doesn’t cover home births and even if it did, my apartment is not birth-friendly lol)

We had a horrible baby nurse that would not leave us alone at night. My 2nd night in the hospital we asked my nurse for 4 uninterrupted hours to just rest and she said no problem. The bitch baby nurse just refused and kept waking us all up. We checked out asap the next morning.

OP I am sure you were as happy to go home as I was.

They didn’t yell at me, but nurses waking moms for no good reason reminds me of when I had my first. A nurse woke me at 2 a.m. for some paperwork she wanted done. My baby had been born 6 hours earlier, so this was really not welcome. My husband told her to bring it back in the morning. It never did come back, so we have no idea what it was all about.

My kiddo cluster fed for nearly 3 hours solid that first night. And still woke up every hour to be fed. Needless to say, if a nurse had done this to me, I would have burst into tears and thrown something at her.

When I had my son, the nurses had me so convinced that he *had* to eat every 2 hours (they would wake me up to feed him even if he was sleeping) that when we took him home, I freaked out when he and I both slept for 4 hours and I couldn’t wake him up to eat. I was bawling and called my husband to come help me wake my son up. Turns out, my son just liked his sleep. He started sleeping 6 hours a night almost immediately. With my daughter, I just went with it and at times just wrote down a feeding even if I didn’t feed her so I could get some sleep. Those nurses are brutal.

Okay I know this is way late but I had a JAUNDICE baby and the nurses brought her in every two hours as is normal and gently woke me up, helped me wake her up, and then took her back to the nursery so I could sleep some more if I wanted, or I put her on the bed with me.
There was no screaming or anything, they were all nice and helpful.