Oh I’m sorry – who are you asking for a C section? I hadn’t realized the midwife could consent for me.

And if me and my baby aren’t in danger, and I’m in PUSHING stage, WHY oh WHY do you HAVE to do a c-section, Dr. Stabby Hands? Do you think I could get off of my back so that my pushing is actually effective? Or would that take power away from you?

Was this on Friday and/or getting close to 5pm?

This makes me so mad–it *almost* happened to me because I was approaching 2 hours of pushing, no fetal/maternal distress and doc kept clock watching. DH later said, “She was looking for ANY excuse to give you a section.” I was so frantic to avoid it, I pushed purple and had a tear I probably could have avoided if I hadn’t felt on a clock. This is mean mean mean to do to women in the pushing stage.

My mother was told the same thing. The doctor wanted me born before midnight and told my mother that I would be “Born vaginally on June 21st, or by C Section June 22nd.” I was born around 11:16 June 21st. I was a forceps delivery. (But just at the end, apparently my head came out good, but my shoulders wouldn’t emerge from Mom’s body for anything. So the doctor “Shoe horned” me out because I was struggling to breathe. The doc let my dad cut the cord but told them that my cord “Wasn’t doing a damned thing, thank god she is breathing good on her own.”

Then my mom’s blood pressure tanked. Not sure what came next, but i know it all ended with my Aunt cuddling me in the nursery while my mom got a D&C for the placenta. It came out “hard as a rock” according to the doctor. I don’t really know what that means, maybe that’s why Mom couldn’t pass it herself? Mom’s gone now so i can’t ask these things, and sometimes i really wonder.

I had my first baby in a hospital with a CNM. I pushed for 2:36h. Nobody mentioned a section. They did want to add Pit to my IV thought to strenghten contractions. I was like eww no and pushed without contractions, which resulted in a small tear, I think that wouldn’t have happened otherwise.
My second was born in a birthing center, I pushed for 2 hours when I felt it was right and nobody said tick tock time is running out. No tears and back home 5h later!

It amazes me sometimes how different obs can be. I pushed for almost 3 hours with my daughter and the only times my dr threatened a c section were once during labor and during pushing when my BP and Heartrate spiked suddenly and it took a bit to get them back under control (baby was perfectly fine during it all). Dr had the OR team on standby just in case.

Oh this one makes me mad. My doula friend was recently at a birth where the mama pushed for FIVE hours. Nothing but patience needed.

this soo frustrates me! DD was born after 4hours 38 minutes of pushing.. my dr didnt mention the word c/s till 4 hours and told me that he was starting to get a little concerned because it was taking her longer to bounce back after contractions*and I had noticed that too* but he told me he knew I didnt want a c/s and he knew he could get her out with forceps. the decision was left entirely up to me, he gave me a few minutes to talk to my hubby real quick and we decided forceps would be better.. this is soo sad that moms are made to think their bodies are broken because they cant push babies out in the dr.’s timeframe!