Oct 2

Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.

“This Isn’t A Home Birth…”

“This isn’t a home birth…” – OB to mother who said that she had a birth plan.

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There are 17 comments to this post.

ourlittlefamily had this to say, Oct 2, 2011 @ 2:28 pm (Quote)

well I can see not with you it isnt. Bye, I wont miss you.

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Judith had this to say, Oct 2, 2011 @ 2:59 pm (Quote)

would have little need for birth plan for a home birth!

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Ruth had this to say, Oct 2, 2011 @ 3:00 pm (Quote)

You are correct and that is why I need a birth plan.

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Sarah Reply:
October 2nd, 2011 at 3:20 pm Sarah(Quote)

Couldn’t have put it better.

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Bonita Reply:
October 2nd, 2011 at 3:21 pm Bonita(Quote)

You beat me to it!

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Heather P Reply:
October 2nd, 2011 at 3:45 pm Heather P(Quote)

Yep, I was going to say that too. When we discussed our birth plan with my OB it should have been a clue to us to find a new provider. I was so naive. It never occurred to me that a birth plan wasn’t what everyone did. Every single book I read said to make a birth plan. Even “What to be afraid of while you’re expecting”

I didn’t need a birth plan for my homebirth midwives. We talked about our preferences at every visit.

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juliewashere88 Reply:
October 2nd, 2011 at 4:59 pm juliewashere88(Quote)

My words, exactly.

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Kali Reply:
October 2nd, 2011 at 8:17 pm Kali(Quote)

Indeed. I haven’t really even though of m,y birth pan for my upcoming birth. It’ll be my 3rd homebirth and I think my plan is: I’m going to birth the baby and everyone can either help me or sit back and watch or go read in another room.

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Brittany G. had this to say, Oct 2, 2011 @ 3:32 pm (Quote)

“Whoops, I must have made a wrong turn while driving home from the grocery store. My home birth midwife must be waiting patiently on my porch to discuss this birth plan. Gotta go!”

Blegh. I hate that some people have the idea that birth plans are only for a certain type of birth setting. In reality, they’re for a certain type of provider (which is not always an OB, could also be a CNM, CPM, lay midwife, etc.).

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Jane had this to say, Oct 2, 2011 @ 3:45 pm (Quote)

“You mean you don’t care about your patients’ choices? Would you mind putting that in writing?”

Another one for the brochure, right after “I don’t care!” They can put, “…since this isn’t a home birth, we don’t have to care!”

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K had this to say, Oct 2, 2011 @ 3:57 pm (Quote)

That’s why I have to have my choices in writing.
Because you people don’t listen.

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Paige had this to say, Oct 2, 2011 @ 5:01 pm (Quote)

I had a birth plan with my son until the OB on call came in and basically threw it out (he’s the SuperDoc from my submission about a year ago). That’s why, now that we’re expecting number 2, we hired a home birth midwife with a VBAC success rate of 98%. Our birth plan: trust the midwife, trust my body, and let God handle the rest!

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rachel had this to say, Oct 2, 2011 @ 5:37 pm (Quote)

I don’t feel a serious need to write a birth plan for my homebirth. My midwife doesn’t make a habit of “routine” interventions without my consent, and if something were offered and I declined, I trust that will be respected and I won’t need to defend myself. Or perhaps, if she felt something was in my/my baby’s best interest, she would respectfully explain why.

That said, I still have a birth plan in progress. It contains items like the cookies need to go in the oven around crowning. I’m having warm cookies after the birth and someone needs to write down the song that is playing (if any) at the time of birth. But those things are more for dh/doula than the midwives! ain’t homebirth great?

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Kali Reply:
October 2nd, 2011 at 8:18 pm Kali(Quote)

yes!

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Emily Greenhalge had this to say, Oct 2, 2011 @ 8:36 pm (Quote)

If that’s how you treat a patient with a plan, maybe it should be a home birth.

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Becky had this to say, Oct 2, 2011 @ 9:52 pm (Quote)

I know, and we both wish it could be, but since it can’t (for this reason or that) we’ll just use my birth plan to pretend as hard as we can that we’re at home. There!

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