Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“If You Don’t Stop Shaking & Let Me Check You, I Am Going To Walk Right Out Of This Room.”
“If you don’t just stop shaking and let me check you, I am going to walk right out of this room.” – OB to mother in transition with a 30 week pregnancy.
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ourlittlefamily had this to say,
Sep 12, 2011 @ 4:19 am (Quote)
Ok, bye. have fun. I’ll send you a post card!! this is about me. sorry Im freaking out and cant help it. maybe you should change your profession now so you’ll have time to learn a new trade and adjust. I would have demanded the OB leave my area at once!!
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Saying something like this to a woman in transition at any point of her pregnancy is wrong wrong wrong! But especially when she is in labor at 30 weeks?! Not only is she in transition, but she is probably scared out of her mind for the safety and health of her baby and is trying her best to cooperate with the medical “professionals”! Sheesh! I hope someone who wasn’t in labor stepped up and kicked this dr’s self-righteous attitude out of the door.
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Michelle Potter Reply:
September 12th, 2011 at 2:59 pm (Quote)
This. I think every laboring woman in a hospital should have one support person whose main job is to tell off rude staff, and kick them out when necessary. 
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road2vba2c had this to say,
Sep 12, 2011 @ 4:45 am (Quote)
I’m sorry, doctor, but it seems you left your compassion in the locker room. We’ll let you go grab it and come back.
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I want to know what a malpractice attorney would do with a doctor who left a woman who was in transition with a 10-week preemie.
Yes, doctor, you’re annoyed because the mother is shaking. But as it turns out, when you go into MEDICINE, you’re going to be dealing with people who are not at their best. If you wanted to deal only with people who were at the top of their game, you should have gone into banking. Or hair styling. But NOT NOT NOT medicine, where you’d have to take care of women who are scared, in pain, upset, and probably shaking from the medication given to stop their preterm labor.
Did you learn about involuntary muscle reactions in medical school? She probably couldn’t stop shaking. You were frustrated with her, but you’re supposed to be the professional. Act like it.
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I want to know what a malpractice attorney would do with a doctor who left a woman who was in transition with a 10-week preemie.Yes, doctor, you’re annoyed because the mother is shaking. But as it turns out, when you go into MEDICINE, you’re going to be dealing with people who are not at their best. If you wanted to deal only with people who were at the top of their game, you should have gone into banking. Or hair styling. But NOT NOT NOT medicine, where you’d have to take care of women who are scared, in pain, upset, and probably shaking from the medication given to stop their preterm labor.Did you learn about involuntary muscle reactions in medical school? She probably couldn’t stop shaking. You were frustrated with her, but you’re supposed to be the professional. Act like it.
Yes. This. Unbelievable.
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Jessica had this to say,
Sep 12, 2011 @ 8:33 am (Quote)
Go then. Sounds like our doctor needs a time out. Maybe he could try to make up for it by sending a more empathetic colleague to take over for him.
Geez, shaking in transition isn’t something we do voluntarily. It’s a pain in the neck for us too, not only for the doctors trying to assist. Maybe if doctors didn’t get so conditioned to having mothers paralyzed by an epidural and strapped to beds their entire labor they could better handle those pesky obstacles like shaking and other events like vocalizing, changing positions, etc.
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Chantal had this to say,
Sep 12, 2011 @ 9:25 am (Quote)
I don’t know why they would need to check her in transition anyway. You know she’s in transition due to the shaking and I’m sure other signs. Why not just let her body tell her when it’s time to push? Seems to me like she is progressing anyways. What difference does it make if she is 7 or 9? Just trying to schedule your lunch break?
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Amanda Reply:
September 12th, 2011 at 10:02 am (Quote)
Aside from the baby being 10 weeks early?
But, you know, hospitals don’t “do” “normal labor” so they probably didn’t recognize the signs of transition like a doula or midwife would have.
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Jane Reply:
September 12th, 2011 at 11:27 am (Quote)
It would seem to me that her being ten weeks early would be a good reason NOT to go sticking his or her fingers up there. Usually at that gestation they’re trying to keep the baby inside, not introduce infection etc. Especially if her water had broken, the doctor should have been keeping everything out of there.
But one of the medications they give for PTL (magnesium sulfate? I think?) causes terrible shaking as a side effect. So the double-whammy here is that
a) the doctor probably didn’t need to be checking her in the first place
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b) the doctor had probably caused the shaking by prescribing a medication that is known to cause shaking as a side effect. And the doctor should have known that.
I understand the doctor was frustrated because the doctor felt helpless. But again, if you go into medicine, you should expect that sometimes you’re going to face a patient with medical complications.
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Christine Reply:
October 2nd, 2011 at 11:53 am (Quote)
Or possibly to know when to call the NICU team. Not saying the Doc wasn’t a communication moron. Just that I think the preemie parents usually appreciate it when the NICU team can be there before delivery, versus however many minutes after. Trained and experienced resuscitators are WAY better at their job that OB nurses or God forbid (shuddering in horror) OBs. So that might explain why he wanted to check her. It just doesn’t explain why he was an a-hole.
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This one really pisses me off. The doctor is a total jerk for talking to a mother in such a matter to begin with, but adding the fact that she is 10 weeks early is beyond. This doctor should be reprimanded for such behavior to a patient, or find a new vocation.
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Don’t let the door hit ya on the way out! Buh-bye now!
This is so sad and downright ridiculous! First of all, a lot of women shake uncontrollably during transition! It’s not like they are doing it on purpose just to annoy the doctor! It’s the body’s way of helping cope with the stress of labor, that’s all. Second of all… and most importantly… this woman was giving birth ten weeks early! She needed support, not stupid judgemental threats like this. Third of all, why did he need to check her anyway?
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The Deranged Housewife had this to say,
Sep 12, 2011 @ 11:53 am (Quote)
As she leaves the room, patient notices placard on the wall: “At Such and Such Community Hospital, we pride ourselves on giving you the quality care you deserve!” What a load of tripe.
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BeckyJ Reply:
September 12th, 2011 at 12:37 pm (Quote)
It would be so cool if someone threw that in a horrible doctor or nurse’s face!
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sara had this to say,
Sep 12, 2011 @ 4:34 pm (Quote)
My mother came into the hospital in preterm labor with 26 week twins. When they got to the room and my dad left she let it all out and screamed because of the pain she was in. The doctor said “how will you deal with labor if this is how you’re acting now?”
Guess what? She was in labor, and both babies died that day. One of my Mom’s many tragic L&D stories.
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I went through “early” transition. I had the shakes, anxiety, desire to push, all of it at 5cm. Of course, I’d also been in labor for over 30 hours at that point… But my nurse was AWESOME. The doctor was crappy at several points, but I can’t imagine someone being this outstandingly cruel and stupid.
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I was at 5 cm when the dr checked me with my last one, I was shaking with the contractions. That was the worst VE I’ve ever had. Even the one two hours later when I was complete was better than that one. If the dr had told me to stop shaking I would have screamed! 
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Don’t let the door slam you in the ass on the way out. ::googles different dr::
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Mandy Reply:
September 12th, 2011 at 9:40 am Mandy(Quote)
That was my exact reaction! LOL!
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