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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“…You Are Scaring The Mother That Got Here After You.”
“You can’t scream, you are scaring the mother that got here after you.” – L&D Nurse to mother during labor.
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The Deranged Housewife had this to say,
Sep 5, 2011 @ 11:03 am (Quote)
I’m convinced that this kind of thinking is like something from the Twilight Zone … the zomies no one knows about because they’re forced to be kept silence so as not to ‘scare’ anyone … so evil. Who cares if you scare the other mother? Perhaps she *should* be scared! 
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Jessica had this to say,
Sep 5, 2011 @ 11:03 am (Quote)
Maybe you should go into her room and educate her that some women cope with their contractions vocally instead of with drugs and that it’s normal instead of coming in here and disrupting my coping techniques. If it’s that damn loud then shut the door!
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The mother down the hall from me was “having a hard time” because her labor “resembeled” a previous labor that ended in a loss. I totally understood and wouldn’t have wanted anybody telling her to keep it down.
The nurse should be able to manage to calm the other mom. Either mom 2 is going natural too and has at least heard of “volcalizing” or she will be ordering her epidural very soon.
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“I fail to see why her need for silence outweighs my need to vocalize.”
If a hospital can’t care for women with competing needs, then they need to close the hospital.
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BeckyJ Reply:
September 5th, 2011 at 1:05 pm (Quote)
Maybe the birthing wing SHOULD be closed and just have OR’s for women needing C-sections. That way, nobody would have to be misinformed or hurt by the doctor or nurse that made the stupid comment in the first place.
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Jane Reply:
September 5th, 2011 at 1:15 pm (Quote)
This is the reason such a thing would never happen:
http://www.ahrq.gov/data/hcup/charts/5admiss.htm
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BeckyJ Reply:
September 5th, 2011 at 2:25 pm (Quote)
That’s because hospital birth is so mainstream that only 1% of the US birthing population birth at home. If all normal pregnancies and labors were at home, that study would be DRAMATICALLY different.
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Jane Reply:
September 5th, 2011 at 2:56 pm (Quote)
But if you follow the money trail, the people who have all the money are the ones most invested in making sure no one else gets that money. Ergo, you get states where homebirth midwifery is illegal and doctors coming out with crazy garbage like we see on this site and hospitals that do everything they can to back up those doctors.
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Heather Reply:
September 5th, 2011 at 1:21 pm (Quote)
Exactly. When providing a service, one ‘customer’ doesn’t outweigh another or your service is flawed. A mother vocalizing isn’t going around from room to room screaming at the women “You’re all going to die!” At which point, the other patients’ needs WOULD outweigh her own (the need to be insane?). lol
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Screaming or “primal roaring” as some would refer to it is completely natural during the pushing phase. It helps their energy be directed to where it needs to be. It makes my head spin how misinformed some people are about childbirth, MOSTLY HEALTHCARE PROFESSIONALS!
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Lil had this to say,
Sep 5, 2011 @ 11:20 pm (Quote)
I have had this sort of comment in the majority of my labours. During my third labour they even tried threatening to jail my husband if he didn’t shut me up (military hospital!), but every labour, same thing happened…I laboured, I got bad tempered, then I got loud and progressed to screaming during pushing. During my fastest labour (1 hour 50 mins) the midwives snapped at me and said I would have been much faster if I’d not wasted my pushing energy by screaming! (That baby shot out anyway, any faster and she would have flown off the bed and hit the wall!)…anyway, seventh baby, and at last, I managed to sort the problem. Went through labour with no comments from the midwives about noise or upsetting/frightening other mums…I had a home birth!
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While in the recovery room from my c/s (I had to stay in the recovery room overnight for intensive monitoring) the window was open and a woman in another room was apparently unmedicated in the pushing phase. It kind of freaked me out, but I would never have said she had to be quiet. I just asked the next nurse who came in to please shut the window.
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There was another laboring mom screaming quite loudly during my labor. I didn’t bother me, but I guess it annoyed one of the nurses enough that she just went and closed to door to my L&D room. Problem solved. I birthed in an older hospital with large L&D rooms and these heavy, wooden doors. They completely sealed the noise out.
Truth be told, I don’t personally get the screaming and yelling. It took EVERY SINGLE OUNCE of energy I had to get DS out! I wasn’t going to give any extra to screaming. But, to each her own…
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lilmrsmchenry had this to say,
Sep 6, 2011 @ 8:17 pm (Quote)
Well, if you would stop opening my f***ing door, nobody would have to listen to me!
Personally, I am pretty much silent during labor. It helps me concentrate. But, it wouldn’t have bothered me one bit to hear someone screaming during labor.
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Sorry. I’ll stop looking at you then.
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Jena Reply:
September 5th, 2011 at 11:02 am Jena(Quote)
Ha!
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Tee Reply:
September 5th, 2011 at 1:53 pm Tee(Quote)
Lemonade, meet laptop! Sheesh, now who’s gonna clean up this mess?
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Tee Reply:
September 5th, 2011 at 1:55 pm Tee(Quote)
Lemonade, meet laptop! Sheesh, now who’s going to clean up this mess?!
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