Aug 20

Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.

“No, I Want You In Pain.”

“No, I want you in pain.” – OB to mother after the OB asked for the pitocin to be turned up, during an induction.

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Jane had this to say, Aug 20, 2011 @ 2:34 pm (Quote)

WTH? Is the idea that if the mom isn’t feeling pain then there’s no dilation going on?

Between this guy and the guy who said he liked to cut people up, I’m beginning to sense a theme.

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Kit had this to say, Aug 20, 2011 @ 2:42 pm (Quote)

The last comment someone suggested “Stupid Saturday.” In honor of this one I’m nominating “Sadistic Saturday.”

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Abby Reply:
August 20th, 2011 at 3:16 pm Abby(Quote)

Things like this make me believe that god is in fact a man… sadism has to come from somewhere, right?

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Angela Reply:
August 21st, 2011 at 10:56 am Angela(Quote)

LOL! This one is mine! And I told HER straight out she was sadistic after she said that! I will go tell the whole story in another response, but it was a doozy!

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Corbin had this to say, Aug 20, 2011 @ 2:44 pm (Quote)

The feeling is mutual doc. The feeling is mutual.

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nicki Reply:
August 20th, 2011 at 8:19 pm nicki(Quote)

True, very true, I would love nothing more than to knee my ob in the crotch, that would make me feel so much better lol

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Kait had this to say, Aug 20, 2011 @ 3:18 pm (Quote)

Turning up the Pitocin makes pain worse….not better. Do we mean epidural here?

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Heather Reply:
August 20th, 2011 at 3:21 pm Heather(Quote)

This sounds like she wasn’t showing symptoms of pain, so he was turning it up based on that and no other reason.

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Angela Reply:
August 20th, 2011 at 3:28 pm Angela(Quote)

The doctor WANTED to increase her pain.

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Cassaundra had this to say, Aug 20, 2011 @ 3:34 pm (Quote)

and…….oops! did that doctor mean to actually speak the TRUTH? out loud?

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jenni had this to say, Aug 20, 2011 @ 4:25 pm (Quote)

WTF happened to “first, do no harm”

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Jessica had this to say, Aug 20, 2011 @ 6:35 pm (Quote)

I’ve heard this a lot unfortunately. It seems like they don’t feel like they’re doing their jobs unless women are writhing in pain. If a mom is tolerating contractions that’s really no reason to pump up the pit though!

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nicki had this to say, Aug 20, 2011 @ 8:22 pm (Quote)

My ob basically told me that since I asked not to be offered pain meds (but keep the option open, just in case), that even if I asked I wouldn’t get them….I guess as a punishment.

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Kat Reply:
August 21st, 2011 at 6:53 am Kat(Quote)

There’s NO WAY that can be legal!

I mean, informed consent means you can decline something, AND it means you can request something as well!

Besides which that’s a complete lack of respect for his patients as human beings. Shudder.

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nicki Reply:
August 21st, 2011 at 10:34 am nicki(Quote)

yeah, but you know obs, they will come up with some line of b.s. on how I waited too long or something…And my family wonders why I want to switch obs..

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Sheva had this to say, Aug 20, 2011 @ 9:04 pm (Quote)

When a coping technique that a nurse suggested made it hurt more, she told me that was the point, and the more it hurt, the better.
After she left the room I threw a pillow her way and sent my husband to get a new nurse, which he did.
Saying “there’s a purpose to this pain, it means you’re going to see your baby soon” is encouraging (IMO), but “I want to see you hurt” is just cruel and frightening.

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first time mommy had this to say, Aug 20, 2011 @ 9:32 pm (Quote)

I’ve got a feeling the mom said something like don’t turn the pitocin up and the ob said this gem =(

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Angela Reply:
August 21st, 2011 at 11:09 am Angela(Quote)

bingo

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Rachel had this to say, Aug 20, 2011 @ 10:37 pm (Quote)

not mine but could have been said to me …. as someone who does not feel any pain for contractions (on PIT no less) until transition… my midwife did not even really think I was in labour until after 2 days we finally went to a hospital to try to finally have the baby… she was shocked that I was at 5cm….

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mm had this to say, Aug 21, 2011 @ 6:12 am (Quote)

What gets me is the way they speak to you as though they know everything and you know nothing, even tho it’s your body labouring. And as though they’re in charge. Totally exasperating.

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Kristin had this to say, Aug 21, 2011 @ 8:01 am (Quote)

Freaking SADISTS need to NOT work in health care!!! EVER!
Reminds me of the dentist from Little Shop of Horrors.

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Angela had this to say, Aug 21, 2011 @ 11:08 am (Quote)

This one is mine.

I was being induced (obviously, lol) and decided this time around I was going to do it without pain meds. Well, I was in quite a bit of pain and tolerating it barely by vocalizing (read- nearly screaming), sqatting and using the exercise ball.

My OB came in to check on me during her lunch hour (how convenient) and told the nurse to turn the Pit up… I asked her not to, since the baby was doing fine and my bloodpressure was fine, and she layed this one on me… I told her I WAS in pain, and she told me “No, I want you in even more pain”…

I told her she was sadistic (and my husband told me I growled at her but that was probably just a contraction)

Pit was turned up regardless and I went from 5cm to holding my baby in 15 minutes… it took 12 minutes to get from 5 to 8, when they checked me at 8 it was because I told them I was in transition… Doc goes, “well, you are only at 8, but you can bear down if you want to” I got up on the table and started bearing down… she looks over and goes, “Oh My, theres a head” three minutes later, my darling daughter was in my arms. Just to be whisked off to the warming station with low apgars due to being born so quickly…

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Details Reply:
August 22nd, 2011 at 5:19 am Details(Quote)

Well gee, had she meant to get that baby out before the end of lunch? That sounds scary and down right dangerous for you daughter! I’m glad you are both okay. I wish the pit had worked half that well with my first. OTOH wouldn’t it be nice if they all just left us the heck alone!

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Angela Reply:
August 23rd, 2011 at 6:20 am Angela(Quote)

It was so scary. She was barely breathing and had all kinds of gunk in her airway because she wasnt “wrung out” (pediatricians words.) She wasnt reacting at all like a healthy newborn and it took them what felt like forever to get her breathing right. And she whistled while she breathed for the first two months of her life… She ended up with RSV at 6 weeks and I am certain that it was a result of her problems at birth.

A revalation for me is that the pediatrician said that my daughter reacted exactly like most of the c-section births she sees, and that she rarely sees a vaginal born baby have those issues. And they were pressuring me to have a c-section with my oldest child and they dont do vbacs in my little secluded town… Thank goodness I said no way!

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Charity had this to say, Aug 21, 2011 @ 5:02 pm (Quote)

This sounds like the OB I went to for an Essure consult… “Well, we want you to bleed for two weeks.” when I explained that hormonal BC messes with my system and made my period last for two weeks instead of my normal 4 days. I told her I wouldn’t take the pills. She said, “You will if you want the Essure done.” Needless to say, I didn’t get it done and I’m pregnant with #4. Yay!
OP, your OB was sadistic and I’m glad you growled at her.

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