Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“Just Wait Already! You’ll Have Her The Next 18 Years.”
“Just wait already! You’ll have her the next 18 years.” – OB to mother when the mother asked to be handed her newborn baby.
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first time mommy had this to say,
Aug 15, 2011 @ 5:16 am (Quote)
duh. but she’s not going to be a newborn for very long at all. so give me my baby, please.
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road2vba2c Reply:
August 15th, 2011 at 5:39 am (Quote)
Tell me about it. It feels like I just had my son, and he’s already losing that “newborn look”. 
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juliewashere88 had this to say,
Aug 15, 2011 @ 7:39 am (Quote)
It doesn’t matter how old their child is, if any parent wants their child handed over, the doctor has no right to withhold it.
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Alyson Miers had this to say,
Aug 15, 2011 @ 8:39 am (Quote)
Dr. Douchewaffle, repeat after me: “This is not my baby.”
Got that? Good. Now write it out on the blackboard 100 times.
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first time mommy Reply:
August 15th, 2011 at 10:14 am (Quote)
LOL! I just had a mental image of Bart Simpson writing that on the blackboard over and over!
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This made it hard for me to breath.
OP, I’m so sorry this happened – this doc was WAY out of line – your baby, your choice, and no one has a right to withhold the baby from its mother.
So scary that most of these ‘care’ providers think they do.
And before anyone jumps on me, I feel compelled to say that if the baby was having trouble transitioning, I’m sure the nurses and docs would be doing all they can for the baby – and I’m also sure the parents wouldn’t have to submit such a comment in such a situation. It’s when the baby is fine and they’re just doing routine things like measuring or keeping it ‘warm’ on the warmer that this comment is so ridiculous.
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Jessica Reply:
August 15th, 2011 at 11:20 am (Quote)
If baby was having issues, I’m certain the doc would have said something alone those lines instead of reprimanding the mother for wanting to hold her baby. I’m with you. There’s no reason for all the garbage the staff like to pull about “having” to do all the routines, like measuring, weighing, etc. immediately after birth. The first few hours alone are critical, and they’re not going anywhere, why not just wait?
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Charity had this to say,
Aug 15, 2011 @ 11:40 am (Quote)
My oldest was taken to the nursery because he sneezed just after he was born. I know, stupid excuse on the nurse’s part. I kept asking to have him brought back to me and was told no. I’d have to wait until I was in a postpartum room because there wasn’t enough room in the L&D room I was in. When I was finally taken to a postpartum room, we passed the nursery where my son was and I asked if we could pick him up on the way to the new room. The nurse said, “No. You’ll have 18 years to bond with him. You can wait another few minutes.” That few minutes turned into a total of 8 hours of him being in the nursery for absolutely no reason. Later I was told that the nurses in the nursery were never told I wanted him back. They wondered if I was giving him up for adoption.
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amanda Reply:
August 15th, 2011 at 1:05 pm (Quote)
omg charity – i’m so SO sorry that happened to you! i can’t believe they would withold him for so long for NO reason! that is so unfair!
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Samantha Reply:
August 15th, 2011 at 1:43 pm (Quote)
There was no room for him? Um, it’s a baby, a newborn not a freaking elephant. Horrible, Charity, that is just horrible. I am sorry you & your baby were treated that way.
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Charity Reply:
August 16th, 2011 at 5:36 pm (Quote)
I neglected to mention that my ex told them to go ahead and start formula feeding when he escorted the baby to the nursery. He also told them to wait as long as possible before bringing him back to me. This is also the kid that was severely jaundiced, was sent off for circumcision while I was showering (by my ex), had to be readmitted for jaundice, his foreskin reattached and the pediatrician just ripped it apart, my ex told him to shut up every time he tried to talk, and NOW he’s on the Autism Spectrum. The poor kid has had a tough life so far, but he’s coping very well. He has taught me a lot about standing up for myself and, damnit, going and getting the baby if they won’t bring him/her back NOW. My second and third never visited the nursery without me or my current hubby. If nothing else, I learned a LOT!
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Jamie Reply:
August 16th, 2011 at 9:34 pm (Quote)
I am so against circumcising any son of mine that I went behind my boyfriend’s back to learn the gender of my second child when I was pregnant. I knew that, if it was a boy, my boyfriend and I would have the biggest fight of our relationship right there in the hospital. Fortunately, the ultrasound showed two beautiful little lines, and while I was only given an 85% girl after said ultrasound, I was pretty confident it was a girl. However, boyfriend wanted the gender to be a surprise at birth so I had to keep up the circumcision “fight” for the duration of the pregnancy (I really wanted him to have that surprise).
Since you were not married at the time, your ex had absolutely NO right to have your son circumcised. The hospital performing the surgery without the legal and sole guardian’s written permission was an illegal act. Did you ever look into taking legal action against the hospital?
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Charity Reply:
August 17th, 2011 at 3:51 pm (Quote)
I was married to the jerk, so there was no legal recourse. And really, the only thing they could have done to make it right was to reverse time and actually respect the birthplan they so lovingly put in the trash. His birth was just so awful for me. Unconsented pitocin, bullying by the nurses, bullying by my ex… He went so far as to tell them I hadn’t been on my medication since getting pregnant and my word shouldn’t be trusted because I was severely depressed. I was never depressed a day in my life until I had my son. If the nurses had done a medical history check, they would have seen that.
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This kind of thinking is why my dh literally moved a nurse away from the warming table, picked up my healthy minutes old daughter and carried her back to me while the nurses stood there mouths agape. hehehe We have it on video too! He rocks!
I can’t believe that people can be so callous as to think that it is acceptable to take a healthy newborn from a very tired, emotional and vulnerable new mother and tell them something like this!
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Really awesome!
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That’s enough to make my blood boil. I’d flip out if I was refused access to my child.
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