This many?

We don’t care about this one. I mean, it’s the fourth kid. After 3, they’re all the same.

So many? Four is “so many”? I was expecting to read about 8, or 10.

Same thing as with so many other issues discussed here; ASK the parents, don’t tell them how they feel.

I can tell you that by the time I was having my eighth, my family was pretty ho-hum about my having a baby. My husband barely woke up in time to stumble around the bed, reach out his arms and catch. I guess he must have cut the cord, though. I don’t remember. It was more like something which needed to be done than a magic moment.

But of course, we cared about the baby. Each one is a unique new person. And each one is your own child. It is just that some of the peripherals are not such a big deal.

Who cares how many children these parents have? Each and every child is special to them and it’s still a special moment to cut the cord for each baby =(

I really hope I’m wrong, but I’m guessing the OP is going to come back and say that, in fact, the parents *did* want to cut the cord, but the OB had already done it (probably as he said this).

We just had our 6th baby 4 weeks ago, and my husband cut the cord, for the 6th time, and it was just as important to him as it was the first time around.

*sing-song* Some-body’s pro-jeeecting!

we just cut our 9th umbilical cord… it was just as exciting as the first..

Really, doc? When our fourth was born it was special enough to let the kids cut the cord. If it wasn’t that big of a deal my daughter wouldn’t feel the need to announce her participation in her sister’s birth.

You’ve “delivered” how many babies? After this many, I guess it’s not a big deal if you get paid anymore.

It’s not like this baby is a unique, special, individual child who will never be born again or anything… DOESN’T MATTER!?
Somebody shoot this guy with the ray gun of maternal justice.

Don’t y’all know that the 4th baby just isn’t as important as your first? What a load of crap!

My husband has stated that he doesn’t like cutting the cord. The whole thing just weirds him out somehow. Fine with me. I don’t mind cutting it.

Thing is, every time a new baby is born is special to us. It’s almost like this doctor thinks once you have a certain number you don’t care about them anymore. Nothing could be further from the truth!

Think about any other situation:
You have several daughters, and the youngest one is getting married “Well, after this many, it’s not a big deal anymore…”
Um, no.

You have several kids and then lose one due to miscarriage/stillbirth/neonatal death (or any cause at any age, but people seem particularly prone to saying the worst things surrounding the death of a baby). “Oh, well you have so many, you won’t miss that one.” And you have so many teeth, you won’t miss a few if I punch you in the mouth and knock out a couple, right?

Each PERSON is only born once, and each birth deserves to be treated like a special event. Because that is what it is.

Dude if my DH would agree to a 4th baby i’d probably be even MORE excited about him cutting the umbilical cord.

What, you don’t want him to cut the cord? Great, I’ve always wondered what a Lotus Birth was like. Oh, that’s not what you meant?

I just had my 3rd and I feel like people think that is “so many”. All of the people who were pounding down the door to see our first are nowhere to be found this time around. Although it is a relief to not have as many visitors it is frustrating to me that other people tend to value #1 and #2 and have somewhat avoided our #3 simply because he isn’t our first or second… I hope that makes sense.
I finally got to cut the cord this time, DD asked to but changed her mind, I enjoyed having that experience.

Birth might not be particularly special to you, but it’s special to us.

By the way, I suggest you find another occupation.

“Yeah, we didn’t really want four kids. This one is just a spare in case something happens to one of the others.”

My husband was so excited to cut the cord of our 4th baby. He cut our first baby’s cord but our second and third were premature and they needed to take them quickly (the third had to be resuscitated) and he wasn’t able to cut the cord so when he had the chance to cut it again (4th was premature but steady) he was thrilled. He would have been thrilled either way but under the circumstances we were just happy that the baby was doing well enough that he could cut the cord. Our doctor was excited that the baby was doing so well also and thrilled to let dad cut the cord. That’s the way it should be!

That’s really interesting Xanthia. She had fallen asleep shortly before the birth and I think she didn’t understand what was going on because she was still half asleep. She asked a few hours after why she didn’t cut the cord.

My seventh baby was born in January…still not been allowed to cut the cord and nor has hubby…maybe on our eighth one of us will actually get to cut the cord!

I didn’t really care who cut the cord, as long as it was done. Preferable after it stopped pulsing. I told the midwives dh wouldn’t want to, he’s squimish about all that. My mom ended up doing it.
It really should be parent’s choice if it’s not an emergency, though.

My thought is that if the dr. can say this about the 4th baby, the doctor probably also feels that way about a first baby.

So much rage!

Of our 5 kids, my DH has only been able to cut the cord for 1, which he is sad about. He would have loved to cut the cord for all, bu #1 and #3 were c/s and with the twins things happened too fast plus there wasn’t even room for him to move that direction with the # of people there lol.

ummm after 4 it’s not a big deal? that was our more memorable one!!! and excuse the crap out of me but i am going to guess that if the parents are still unselfish enough to be having kids at that point and beyond no matter what # it is that baby is insanely special! JERK!

My husband didn’t get to cut a cord until our 3rd (first was an emergency, everything happened pretty fast, 2nd was a c-section) he loved being able to be more involved. 7 kids in my family and my dad’s favorite birth was #6. as my little sister was crowning, the doc said “hey dad, you’ve seen this 5 times already, how about you deliver this one?” doctor just sat back and watched my dad catch the baby, how cool is that?

Just chiming in here: our #5 is due in 4 weeks and we are so thrilled, just like we were with #4 and #3, etc.

I know a families with 13 kids (same mom, same dad), 12 kids, 9 kids … and both parents were just as excited for #last as they were with #first.

Admittedly, there are some things I don’t get excited about: washing baby clothes, setting up a nursery, baby gear. But who in their right mind tires of baby-love, birth, or developmental milestones?!?

Oh. I thought the OB meant that he didn’t mind not doing it since he/she had done it so many times… totally got it wrong. Saying that to the parents? What a rude moron.