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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“Who Said You Were Allowed To Have A Home Birth?”
“Who said you were allowed to have a home birth?” – Pediatrician to mother.
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road2vba2c had this to say,
Jul 30, 2011 @ 6:43 pm (Quote)
God. Can’t get much higher than that. If He let me get pregnant, I think that’s permission to home birth.
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The same person who decided that I was going to have a cup of coffee this morning. Now I put a lot more thought into the homebirth. I carefully weighed the pros and cons and made a rational choice. I put a lot less effort into my decision to have a cup of coffee. My pre-coffee zombie self requested it.
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Alyson Miers had this to say,
Jul 30, 2011 @ 7:02 pm (Quote)
http://www.permissiontohomebirth.com
Not registered? Yeah, it doesn’t have to be.
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My Mommy said I could.
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Catherine Reply:
July 30th, 2011 at 9:37 pm (Quote)
Well, good on ya for listening to your Mom! My daughter didn’t believe me the first time. 
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Heather Reply:
July 30th, 2011 at 10:01 pm (Quote)
LOL, I had to convince my mom, actually–The Business of Being Born was what did it. She was still really nervous about it, but in the end, my midwife walked out on me and I ended up at the hospital anyway 
But, on the plus side, I did sway my mom’s opinion on birth (from hostile to natural/home birth to supportive!)!
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Tee Reply:
August 1st, 2011 at 1:05 pm (Quote)
Your midwife walked out on you? I’m so sorry! Do you mind me being nosy and asking what in the heck prompted her to do that? There’s just no excuse for that kind of behavior!
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Jade Reply:
August 1st, 2011 at 6:04 pm (Quote)
On paper, mine “walked out on me” too. She got deregistered when I was 37 weeks pregnant and therefore was not legally allowed to attend homebirths. She attended my birth 5 weeks later but boy did it make it hard to get a birth certificate because, “only my DH and my mum were there”
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Tee Reply:
August 1st, 2011 at 8:49 pm (Quote)
Huh, the laws must vary from state to state. My sister has given birth to four of her five kids at home. Three of the births were unassisted and she didn’t have any problems getting birth certificates. I’m sorry you had to deal with that hassle!
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Heather Reply:
August 1st, 2011 at 10:15 pm (Quote)
Going by the “mum” I’d guess she was birthing across the pond (UK)
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Jade Reply:
August 2nd, 2011 at 5:28 am (Quote)
Australia. It was just a hassle because I had to get statutory declarations from my mum, my hubby and my GP (who had seen me both very pregnant and 23 hours PP). It was just a hassle because no one at Births Deaths and Marriages could understand the fact that there was “no one” there and that I hadn’t immediately rushed to a hospital. They kept asking the same questions over and over, I got sick of hearing “you just need the dr or midwife who was there to do XYZ…” umm there wasn’t one “ok, well what hospital did you go to after you had the baby?” none, I stayed home. This BS went on for close to 12 months. It was all worth it despite the hassle though.
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Heather Reply:
August 1st, 2011 at 10:14 pm (Quote)
I found out later that she randomly flakes out on mamas. In one instance, she told a mom that she had a fever to get her to transfer to the hospital, told the hospital the mom wanted an epidural and left–so when they came in to give the mom an epidural, she said no and asked about her fever, found out she didn’t have one and… well… better walked out on at 38 weeks than in labor, I guess.
She left because she had “a bad feeling.” She took me late in pregnancy to give me one last chance to escape an abusive OB and then dumped me with that last line. Self-fulfilling prophesy, I had a cesarean. But it was the last straw in a pregnancy I had been fighting through every bit of and was just beaten down. I still had enough left to refuse to be induced, made it to 42 weeks and had a perfectly fine labor for 22 hours. I hit ten before I hit transition, though.
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Jade Reply:
July 31st, 2011 at 2:38 am (Quote)
I believed my mum teh first time, but we couldn’t convince my DH until the 2nd time. I hate that me, my son, hubby and my mum had to have a terrible hospital birth first but I think it kind of had to be like that in order to convince hubby that it couldn’t be any worse if we stayed home. After the homebirth he was convinced and converted.
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Becca had this to say,
Jul 30, 2011 @ 8:02 pm (Quote)
God. If an out of hospital birth was okay for His Son then I’m sure it’s fine for my kiddo.
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Jane Reply:
August 1st, 2011 at 6:19 pm (Quote)
If homebirths were attended by visible angels, do you think the doctors would still say they were crazy-dangerous? 
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Kit Reply:
August 1st, 2011 at 6:47 pm (Quote)
We really feel an angel was watching over my aunt when she got her C-section. She had been trying to push for hours and the baby was crowning when all of a sudden the doctor decided they should do a c section. My aunt started to argue and says she felt someone tell her to go along with it.
The baby was so wrapped in his cord that his arm was purple from a loop around his shoulder. The doctor told us he wasn’t sure he would’ve survived being born naturally.
Speaking of that pregnancy, that doctor was pretty awesome. Auntie was laboring without an epidural and he (even though he admitted he really wanted to use a general knock out) supported her when she decided she wanted a spinal instead. they when he looked over the drape and noticed her crying he told her “Miss, I know that you’re scared right now, and I wish i could hold your hand for a moment. But i assure you, your baby is doing great and in a minute or two you’re gonna meet him… isn’t that exciting?”
When the baby was out and unwrapped he held Baby up so she could see and she asked if she could kiss him, his reply was “Of course you can, he’s yours! Here let me bring him over so you two can have a minute.” (There was a second doctor who was finishing up the surgery. He didn’t leave her wide open during visiting time. When she kissed Baby, doctor also commented that “i think Baby must have been waiting for that, he got all quiet when he got a Mama Kiss.”
Sometimes small town doctors are best. (although I guess he’d be just as good had he been a big town doc.) When she got pregnant again and went to schedule a repeat section he told her that she could if she wanted, but he was confidant that she could VBAC if she wanted to. He was right too.
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Jane Reply:
August 2nd, 2011 at 3:45 am (Quote)
I do believe angels are present and helping us. But I meant if births were attended by visible angelic midwives.
I was “told” about Kiddo#4 by my guardian angel, and when I went into labor, (I was about 10 days early and labor was beginning with slow contractions, unusual for me) again, was told it really was time. So I do definitely believe they’re there and helping. But I also believe many doctors would think homebirth to be unsafe even if the midwife came directly from Heaven and had wings.
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Aron Reply:
August 2nd, 2011 at 5:05 am (Quote)
What a sweet story! That doctor’s kindness brought tears to my eyes. THIS is what I wish more OB’s and other medical professionals would emulate.
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Kit Reply:
August 2nd, 2011 at 10:34 am (Quote)
Yup. He is a pretty great doctor.
Has one HECK of an ego though. One of the writen reasons he gave my Aunt for why she was a prime canidate for a VBAC was “Doctor2 and Myself did your C-section and I know we closed you up good, so i don’t feel you’ll rupture. None of my c section moms ever have before.”
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first time mommy had this to say,
Jul 30, 2011 @ 9:41 pm (Quote)
Your mom =P
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Sarah Dorrance-Minch had this to say,
Jul 31, 2011 @ 7:40 am (Quote)
Law. The same laws that forbid you from committing medical battery.
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Mama Wrench had this to say,
Aug 1, 2011 @ 6:25 pm (Quote)
I can see this being an honest question. There are many people — professionals and laypersons both — who honestly believe that home birth is illegal, or at least illegal without an OB present.
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I did. I don’t need anyone else’s permission.
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