Jul 2

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“Do You Really Feel This?”

“Do you really feel this?” – Midwife while stitching an episiotomy.

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Heather P had this to say, Jul 2, 2011 @ 6:54 pm (Quote)

I hope that this was followed by another injection of lidocaine.

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Elisa Reply:
July 3rd, 2011 at 3:38 pm Elisa(Quote)

Nope.

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Elisa Reply:
July 3rd, 2011 at 3:40 pm Elisa(Quote)

I meant to pink that reply.

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Brittany S had this to say, Jul 2, 2011 @ 6:55 pm (Quote)

I think all ob’s should have to have this done to them in school. for the males…lets just stitch their balls to their leg with no lidocaine. oh…does that hurt? sowwie…..

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Abby Reply:
July 2nd, 2011 at 7:00 pm Abby(Quote)

Better yet, let’s not let ANYONE who does not have a uterus and vagina and/or has not personally given birth practice obstetrics.
I feel that any women who inflicts such heinous sexual trauma “routinely” should have to experience the same exact treatment… I’ll bet if they did, the rate would drop to next to nothing.

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Brittany S Reply:
July 2nd, 2011 at 7:40 pm Brittany S(Quote)

I disagree somewhat…I have a male OB…and he is magical. He cares about the mothers and their pain. He even offered me a lidocaine shot for an IV because they use a rather large needle. However….I work in the medical field and know the horrors of may bad male and female OB’s.

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Sheva Reply:
July 2nd, 2011 at 11:45 pm Sheva(Quote)

And the scary part is – this was a midwife. *ahem* Medwife. I don’t understand the mentality, truly, I don’t. When my clients don’t follow the plan they gave me – and end up getting or asking for interventions I don’t think they need, I still support them and give them 110% of my care – why can’t docs and medwives do the same?
You don’t have to agree with the philosophy. And especially if the baby is already out, and mom and babe are both ok, why are you still fighting and being a jerk??

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Sarah Dorrance-Minch Reply:
July 3rd, 2011 at 8:10 am Sarah Dorrance-Minch(Quote)

Yes and no.

I personally have a very hard time letting any care provider who is not female near my vagina, which is why I get my annual Pap smears done at Planned Parenthood – the nurses and gynecologists there are female, and more importantly, sensitive to the personal issues of survivors of sexual abuse. I also find it hard to fathom why any male would want to be a gynecologist except for spurious reasons. Obstetrician makes a little more sense – cute babies! – but gynecologist?

However, one of my friends was birthraped by her female OB, and her second birth was a much more positive experience with a more caring provider – with a male OB.

I think individual personality has more to do with quality of care than chromosomes.

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Cassie Reply:
July 3rd, 2011 at 12:16 am Cassie(Quote)

But this is midwife,… who I assume has a vagina, and probably has her own children…. and therefore, there is no excuse

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Sarah Dorrance-Minch Reply:
July 3rd, 2011 at 8:12 am Sarah Dorrance-Minch(Quote)

Vagina, yes. Children, maybe not. Not all midwives are mothers. Especially not the MED-wives.

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Abby had this to say, Jul 2, 2011 @ 6:57 pm (Quote)

OMG! After having been cut and stitched without ANY anesthetic… I cry when i read things like this.
*Any* time a woman says “ouch” in a situation like this, that should be followed by, “I’m sorry that hurt you, we’ll make sure you don’t feel any more pain”.

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Ashley Bean had this to say, Jul 2, 2011 @ 7:03 pm (Quote)

The sOB who delivered my son was stitching up my tear when I about came off the bed in pain. He didn’t even look at me and said, you handled an unmedicated child birth (which just burned his biscuit. lol) why are you yelling at this? I said first of all I’m not yelling, I know you have to fix it and second of all the numbing shot didn’t work. He sighed and said that he could try numbing it again if I really wanted….as he kept stiching =/ I wanted to kick this sucker in the face so bad. The only thing he followed my birthplan on was not doing an episiotomy, but he cussed at my husband for not wanting to cut the cord (which was in our BP) and he fussed at me everytime he saw me. OBs like that shouldn’t be in practice.

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apvegmama had this to say, Jul 2, 2011 @ 9:00 pm (Quote)

That is so crummy, OP! This was the only thing I felt my OB was good at. As he was stitching my tears, I flinched several times, to which he was quite attentive and said, “oh let’s get some more numbing medication.”

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Kara had this to say, Jul 2, 2011 @ 9:15 pm (Quote)

Yes, I’m lying about being in pain so I can get an extra shot just for fun! Grr.

With my 2nd son I had a 2nd degree tear and flinched when she started stitching it so she said, “Oh, you shouldn’t be feeling this, let me give you another shot of lidocaine.” And then she didn’t continue until she was sure I wasn’t feeling it.

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Jena had this to say, Jul 2, 2011 @ 11:10 pm (Quote)

When my dr said it was time to stitch me up, I cringed. She said, “Yeah, it’s kind of cruel after giving birth to use needles there. How about some laughing gas before the numbing shot?” I make this declaration: All women should be offered laughing gas before any birthing tears are stitched up. I felt a couple of tugs, but I didn’t care; they didn’t hurt. (I breathed the laughing gas through all the stitching.)

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Lindsey had this to say, Jul 2, 2011 @ 11:38 pm (Quote)

The sad thing Abbey is that the submission says it was a Midwife doing the repair (I am assuming this was a female Midwife and not a male).

I have had a minor repair of a small episiotomy and a major repair of a third degree tear with a 2nd degree episiotomy on the opposite side (my labia was also partially torn off and had to be reattached). DS was a very large babe with a 38cm head and went from at the cervix to crowning in one push. I guess the doctors were not prepared for the force in which he came out and my perineum was left unsupported, then he got stuck necessitating the episiotomy. I did not feel any of the stitching and only had lidocaine used, both were repaired by male OB’s (the second more drastic done by a resident). Surprisingly I had a quicker and easier recovery after my second repair.

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Kristin had this to say, Jul 3, 2011 @ 6:27 am (Quote)

Hey! I know! Why don’t I stab you in your tender bits with a needle and see if YOU can feel it? Or you could ASK ME if I have sensation BEFORE you sew me up.
I mean, does it really take that much time out of your day to ask me, “Can you feel this?” And then touch me where you are about to be working.

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Sarah Dorrance-Minch had this to say, Jul 3, 2011 @ 8:20 am (Quote)

If you don’t believe me, we could always trade places.

So sorry you see a few minutes of filling a needle with lidocaine and injecting it into sensitive erogenous zones to keep the pain of repair away as an inconvenience. I see it as your job. You apparently don’t like your job very much. I suggest a career change.

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Elisa had this to say, Jul 3, 2011 @ 3:46 pm (Quote)

Yes, I felt it. Apparently I had had lidocaine but I stil felt every stitch. I don’t think she gave me more lidocaine. So understandably I waited for her to leave the room before I were able to concentrate on my newborn.

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