Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“Oh, You Didn’t Want That Done? Oh Well, I’m Finished Now.”
“Oh, you didn’t want that done? Oh well, I’m finished now.” – Midwife to mother who had not consented to having her membranes stripped.
That’s called assault.
It was done to me, and I didn’t like it. I just didn’t know then that it was assault. I was extremely happy about almost everything else that had happened in that practice (there was only one other thing I didn’t like), and given what had happened at the practice I was at before, I just let it go. However, because of those two problems, I won’t go back if I ever have another baby. I’ll be finding me a home birth midwife who understands that I’m in charge unless I’m unconscious, or the baby’s life and/or my life are truly at risk.
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This happened to me without permission too. During an otherwise natural childbirth. While in transition (8cm). While being held down, on my back. In the middle of a contraction. Why? Who the heck knows. But what I can say is, aside from the part where they reach their hands in to pull out clots and then repair the episiotomy without any local anesthetic, this was definitely the most painful part of the entire labor/delivery process. Sorry OP, I hope the rest of your birth went the way you wanted.
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I wish that midwives would be specified whether they’re CNMs or CPMs, or maybe I just have the best midwife group ever but I can’t think of one CPM that would do such a thing with out talking it out with the mother.. I can’t even imagine being violated in anyway by someone that I trusted like you have to trust your care professionals..
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Amber Reply:
April 30th, 2011 at 7:47 pm (Quote)
The first time that occurred to me was when I read your post. Mine was a CNM. What’s the difference in CNM and CPM? I mean other than the obvious.
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Cara Reply:
April 30th, 2011 at 7:54 pm (Quote)
CNM is certified nurse midwife. CPM is certified professional midwife. It’s a different level of certification. In most states (in the US) CPMs aren’t allowed to have hospital privileges, whereas CNMs are.
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Amber Reply:
April 30th, 2011 at 8:05 pm (Quote)
That’s kind of what I mean by “the obvious.” I meant why there are differences in their certification, and what the differences are. What do they do differently? What makes one an advantage over the other? Can you compare them like you would compare an ophthalmologist and an optometrist (they both work on eyes, but they can do different things)? Or an MD and a DO (same job, different approach)?
Given the hospital privileges issue, would that mean that CPM is generally associated with home birth and CNM is more associated with an OB/GYN’s office and hospital birth?
Part of why I ask that is that both of the CNMs in that office were homebirth midwives in the past. They had actually worked with a homebirth CPM that I talked to and wanted to use, but my husband felt like we could not afford.
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Megan Reply:
April 30th, 2011 at 8:16 pm (Quote)
ya. basically. most CNM’s lean more towards hospital type interventions. They -usually- will be the ones who are in favor of rupturing or striping membranes, IV fluids, or not letting you go over 41 weeks.
(Usually in this sense means more prone to then CPM’s, im not speaking in general sense of all CNM’s because CPM’s can lean more towards interventions just as much. im only speaking in comparison of the two)
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Shawnicy Reply:
April 30th, 2011 at 8:09 pm (Quote)
It is also the difference in education. The CNM’s are more medically minded where CPM’s have a more woman centered care outlook. Where informed consent and education are keys and the mother is given all the information she needs to make the decisions. The mother leads things not the midwife. The midwife and ob aren’t giving birth. They aren’t even delivering the baby. The mother has that privilege and a CPM is trained with that mind set.
And yes, I am a student midwife training to be a CPM.
Shawnicy
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hebamme Reply:
April 30th, 2011 at 9:09 pm (Quote)
i’d just like to respectfully argue that nurse-midwives *do* (at least in theory) respect that same principle; that is the midwifery model of care. as a student nurse-midwife, my entire training has focused on seeing the woman as the center of care, giving her informed choice and advocacy, considering the language that is used (so as not to be paternalistic/take power from the mother/etc, but rather leave it with her, where it belongs). we do not deliver — we help catch. this is a point that’s been drilled into us throughout my education. as nurse-midwives – we are there to be with women, the same as CPMs.
that doesn’t mean that sometimes you won’t find an OB-in-midwive’s-clothing; maybe nurse-midwives working in the hospital setting are more likely to have that mindset, because they *are* in the hospital setting and subject to those pressures (the policies, the doc partnerships, insurance, etc, etc) whereas CPM’s are generally not. please, though, don’t take this to mean that *all* CNMs (whether hospital, birth center, or home birth midwives) are solely focused on the medical model of care.
there is no such thing as a ‘perfect’ type of care provider… each type has its pro’s and con’s (some may not be available in all areas, some may not be covered by insurances, some may not be suitable for certain women based on specific risk factors). it shouldn’t matter as ALL women should be given respect, autonomy, and evidence-based care.
and maybe some sparkles and unicorns…
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CLL1982 Reply:
April 30th, 2011 at 9:35 pm (Quote)
I agree with you. However, due to the fact that CPM are typically not given hospital privileges and you see a lot fewer interventions with out of hospital births the point can be made that you a less likely to have interventions with a CPM than with a CNM in a hospital setting. Truth is, CNMs in a hospital setting (regardless of their personal thoughts on birth) have to answer to their attending OB, so if that is different from what the woman giving birth wants- tough cookies.
I have had one emergency c/s under the care of a CNM (placental abruption w/o labor) and one VBAC under the care of a CNM. The only way I got my 42 weeks VBAC under this care was to hide from them for the last two weeks of pregnancy and show up at 7cm with my doula. Even then I got the treatment described above (stripped membranes, some kind of unholy obsession with wanting to break my water, unnecessary episiotomy, violent scraping out of clots, no local for repair stitches). In the end they tried to sound like heros for “holding off” the OB who “wanted you in the OR at 40 weeks.” Apparently they had forgotten trying to scare me into a c/s at 39 weeks, trying to convince me I was tired of being pregnant at 40 weeks, and trying to find anything abnormal with the biophysical profiles every three days from 40 to 42 weeks… Because to me that was anything BUT “holding off the OB.”
Please don’t think I have anything against CNMs- there is one in my town who runs a birth center and even does VBACs and I have heard great things about her. But it is fair to say, if the CNM works in a hospital- expect hospital practices to take priority.
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Shawnicy Reply:
April 30th, 2011 at 9:47 pm (Quote)
So very true! I am sorry I didn’t go into greater detail. I do know that there are many CNM’s who share the same mind set as CPM’s. But alas there are so many who don’t. That being said all CPM’s don’t practice the same way and don’t value the same things. I guess you could say the same about OB’s too, on occasion you come across one who respects their patients and value the mom. Also I think it is the difference in the area you practice in. And yes, most the CNM’s in my local hospitals are more the “OB-in-midwive’s-clothing”, but I think it is more cause they have to be. But that being said if I was in a hospital andgiven the option between an OB or CNM I would choose the CNM everytime. I can’t imagine how hard it would be to be a CNM in a hospital though. I like homebirths. There is one laboring mom and you don’t feel torn between multiple clients. I respect the job they do. Anyway I should have explained that while there is a difference in training and backgrounds they both can do empower women through their births, and that some CNM’s practice in homes too.
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Jane Reply:
May 1st, 2011 at 4:03 am (Quote)
For three births, I had CNMs who didn’t seem *to me* to be medically-minded. I did keep in mind that they were working within a system that expected a certain amount of medicalization, but overall they were very respectful and caring. I would never have called them “medwives” for example.
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Jo Ella Reply:
May 1st, 2011 at 10:50 am (Quote)
I just thought that it would be nice if there was some specification between the two..I know that there are some CNMs that are less medically minded and come CPMs that are more medically minded.. I’m in Texas and I LOVE the CPMs that I have met in my last two pregnancies and this one..There is a difference in the two tho and just would like to know which is saying what..
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hebamme Reply:
May 1st, 2011 at 3:09 pm (Quote)
Jo Ella… i do know what you mean/are asking for and i wish i could give you a good answer. i think it really is kind of a gray area, though — there are differences in training/education, and certification; nurse-midwives obviously have a background in nursing as well as their midwifery training (although i know several CPMs who are also nurses, but chose the CPM route rather than CPM route… i also know some who hold dual CPM and CNM certification). as others have stated, CPMs rarely – if ever (?) – have privileges in the hospital setting, whereas in some states the majority of CNMs practice there. in some areas CPMs and CNMs work beautifully hand-in-hand, and in others there is some contention between the two disciplines (which is really sad to me as there are such unique benefits to both).
anyway, i apologize if my post above was overly defensive… i didn’t mean to come across that way
*blush* as CLI82 stated though, many CNMs do have their practice dictated by the policies where they work – if they are in a hospital or birth center setting, working in a collaborative agreement with a physician (which unfortunately is something that many states still require, though it has been shown to be an outdated and really if anything harmful practice). i think for those CNMs who *do* really want to practice FOR women, it leads us to become very frustrated and defensive, because we so want to promote normal, healthy, woman-centered care… and as hard as we fight… ya know??? (but we *do* keep fighting, and we *are* making progress)
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JoElla Reply:
May 1st, 2011 at 7:01 pm (Quote)
Honey I don’t get offended by things people say.. I understand that no matter what letters you have behind your name (all professions) there are some that just are shitty and some that are not. I fortunately have only met CPMs that are WONDERFUL, but for women who have NEVER been to any kind of midwife it would be nice that they know there is a difference and CNMs that have to go by hospital policies are more likely to have said most of these things.. again maybe I just know the best CPMs ever and i’m a little biased myself.. there is nothing wrong with answering what you believe I respect your words..
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If I had money I would consider running a public service announcement – “ladies, you do not have to take your pants off at prenatal appointments! Cervical checks are nearly useless, sometimes dangerous, and often demoralizing! Just say no and trust your body to start labor when you and the baby are ready. ”
I think it could help a lot of women ..
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Louisa Reply:
May 1st, 2011 at 3:49 am (Quote)
I live in Australia and no one ever suggested any cervical checks until I went into labour. I went through the public system but even women I have spoken to who went through the private system don’t mention them. Internals started with labour.
This time I am planning on a homebirth (DS ended in a traumatic c/s) and my birthworker doesn’t routinely do internals, even in labour and usually only if the mum wants one done and can’t be talked out of it.
Nor does she check the baby’s heartbeat after mum starts pushing, she says that nothing will change the outcome at that stage and mum doesn’t need the distraction.
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Anji Reply:
May 1st, 2011 at 1:25 pm (Quote)
I’m British and never had a single cervical check until I was in labour. Then I was checked exactly twice; once when I first arrived at the birth centre, to check how close I was. I was only 4cm so they sent me back to labour at home some more as it would be more comfortable for me. The second time was when I arrived back at the hospital, I think I was still 4cm but my contractions were so bad by then that they kept me in. Both times I was asked for my permission and told it wasn’t compulsory.
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Katy Reply:
May 1st, 2011 at 6:24 pm (Quote)
I agree completely, but I was in early labor when the CNM did this to me. She was checking to see if I needed to head to the hospital, or had time to go home for a bit. She just thought she’d ‘help things along’ by stripping my membranes. Without my permission. In fact, with my express, written and verbally discussed REFUSAL of such procedures. Fun stuff.
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There would have been a very easy way to find out if the mother “wanted it done,” you know.
When will birth professionals learn that the woman’s body is NOT their property?
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adrienne Reply:
April 30th, 2011 at 8:14 pm adrienne(Quote)
when women stop taking their pants off for them?
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