Feb 12

“You Need To Think ABout How Long You Are Going To Let This Continue.”

“You need to think about how long you are going to let this continue.” – OB who tried to break the bag of water without consent and being stopped by the father of the baby

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Sarah had this to say, Feb 12, 2011 @ 3:53 pm (Quote)

Oh, I was thinking… until the baby is born? How about that?

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Heather Reply:
February 13th, 2011 at 8:13 am Heather(Quote)

Hear, hear!

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Jessica had this to say, Feb 12, 2011 @ 3:53 pm (Quote)

You’re right, I HAVE let you be my OB far too long already. You’re fired.

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Joanna had this to say, Feb 12, 2011 @ 4:05 pm (Quote)

Way to go dad!

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Jane had this to say, Feb 12, 2011 @ 4:24 pm (Quote)

It seems to me the dad already has thought about it, and decided “Longer than this.”

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Cmat had this to say, Feb 12, 2011 @ 4:33 pm (Quote)

Go Dad! Way to stand up for Mom!

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Elisabeth had this to say, Feb 12, 2011 @ 4:39 pm (Quote)

Man it bothers me when doctors think they can just do things without consent. Perhaps, just maybe it was time to break the water, if baby was coming out??? But last time I checked touching someone without their permission is called assault.

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Sheva had this to say, Feb 12, 2011 @ 5:05 pm (Quote)

A baby was born in my car in the caul. It tore itself and baby pinked up right away. You usually don’t have to break anything.
If it ain’t broke, don’t break it!
Also, way to go, dad! The world needs more men like you!
And, how long they’re going to let *what* continue?
Labor? Till baby is born.
Protecting their rights? Never.

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Ashley Reply:
February 13th, 2011 at 8:38 pm Ashley(Quote)

Admittedly, my first response to the baby being born still en-sac was, “Holy god, is that okay?!”

It’s hard sometimes to remember that before there was a doctor with a hook, humans managed to do this ALL THE TIME, and nature designed it to be okay.

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Wendy had this to say, Feb 12, 2011 @ 6:04 pm (Quote)

Has this doctor ever even picked up a medical journal?? Rupturing sacs to “speed things up” is about as archaic of a practice as routine shavings and enemas. But then, there tends to be a 10-20 year lag between the release of evidence and the actual practicing of it.

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Dee the Doula had this to say, Feb 12, 2011 @ 6:52 pm (Quote)

So proud of you, Dad! Way to look out for your woman!

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erica had this to say, Feb 12, 2011 @ 7:01 pm (Quote)

What I like (so to speak) about this comment is that when I saw it on FB, without the little context/explainer at the end, I thought it could almost be about anything: pregnancy (OB wanted to induce), labor (OB wanted to augment/pushing taking too long), breastfeeding (ped wants mom to wean), co-sleeping (ped wants toddler out of parents’ bed), having “too many” kids … The condescension is universal.

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Sarah Dorrance-Minch had this to say, Feb 12, 2011 @ 7:01 pm (Quote)

No, no need to think. The attempts at medical assault, battery, and coercion stop NOW. Get out of the room.

And too many times the father is intimidated and manipulated into siding with the doctor against his partner, or at least standing by mutely, unsure of what to do or how to rescue the situation. Which is normal. That father described in this particular quote? Heroic.

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Nikko had this to say, Feb 12, 2011 @ 7:54 pm (Quote)

Go Dad!

And in the past, a baby born in the caul was considered blessed… they were holy.

Don’t take my baby’s chance at sainthood away from her!

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xanthina Reply:
February 13th, 2011 at 12:38 am xanthina(Quote)

I keep thinking this, when I hear about AROM. My daughter was almost born in the caul*, and at the time I wished she had been! However it is, she’s blessed.

*my membranes broke spontaneously, when I squatted to try and bring her down a bit. Transition ended abruptly, she was high up. It was literally *squat, splush, CROWNING, and then two pushes to baby*

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Bonita had this to say, Feb 12, 2011 @ 7:56 pm (Quote)

This was addressed to the father? Since when does the father make decisions for the laboring mother?(kudos to the father who stopped the sOB, sounds like he was backing up the mama) And doc, labor doesn’t need someone to “call it” the baby will come out when he/she is ready.

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NMal had this to say, Feb 12, 2011 @ 10:55 pm (Quote)

Go Dad! I need someone watching my “down there” area next time to make sure nothing suspicious is going on without my knowledge. Between the pregnant belly, and favoring a hands-and-knees position, I can’t see what the heck is happening!

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Erin had this to say, Feb 13, 2011 @ 5:16 am (Quote)

My son was born in the caul, clean and healthy. It’s like some care providers forget that water doesn’t HAVE to break before birth.

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devil is in the details had this to say, Feb 14, 2011 @ 6:08 am (Quote)

I want to hear the rest of the story! Where is the OP? Did Dad eventually escort Doc out of the room?

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Jane had this to say, Feb 14, 2011 @ 5:28 pm (Quote)

Hi all – this wasn’t my story but it is from a blog that I read. Thought this was an interesting moment and a story that the community here would appreciate. Here is the part of the birth story where the doctor tries to break her water without her consent – http://www.bowerpowerblog.com/2010/05/the-birth-story-part-4/ . Although I realize now that I read the story wrong; it was actually one of her nurses who alerted her that her water was about to broken. The doctor never apologized for his rudeness or for trying to break her water without asking.

Anyway, unfortunately, she ended up with a C-section for the dreaded failure to progress.

The other two parts of that birth story are here:
http://www.bowerpowerblog.com/2010/06/the-birth-story-part-5/
http://www.bowerpowerblog.com/2010/06/the-birth-story-part-6/

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