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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“Well, It Looks LIke We’ll Be Tying Your Tubes This Time.”
“Well, it looks like we’ll be tying your tubes this time.” – CNM to mother pregnant with her fourth child, conceived while on birth control.
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This one hits close to home! I have a medical condition that makes me a high risk pregnancy. Prior to becoming pregnant with our second, we had a consult with the high-risk OB to discuss everything. When I came in for my first prenatal appointment the resident said “Oh wow, so even though we told you all the risks, you still decided to go through with it?” and then in the next breath asked if I’d be getting my tubes tied this time.
Although I explained that 1) getting my tubes tied was unsafe for me and 2) we weren’t interested, I was asked about getting my tubes tied throughout my pregnancy, culminating in the resident doing my c-section demanding to know my husband’s vasectomy date and insisting that she put in a copper IUD as I was getting prepped for surgery after a VBAC that did not work b/c of fetal distress. (I didn’t let her do the IUD).
Who do these people think they are?!
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Jane Reply:
February 7th, 2011 at 4:48 pm (Quote)
Wow. THat kind of bullying and harassment has no place in medicine!
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Sarah Dorrance-Minch Reply:
February 7th, 2011 at 5:47 pm (Quote)
The Fertility Police, of course! Enforcing zero population growth one uterus at a time. Because as we all know, if you have more than your allotted 1.5 children (the .5 part of that figure being the thirty seven week preemie they induced because you were “measuring a bit large for dates” three days before the date of the obstetrician’s two week family trip to Tuscany) then you’re obviously a Quiverfull convert and will have more babies than Mrs Duggar.
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Maya Reply:
February 7th, 2011 at 9:01 pm (Quote)
Not to mention if you happen to be someone with a disability! Gasp! At my 6 week check-up I made a point to address this with my OB. While he was not a great OB at all, he at least understood while I was offended & promised to have a meeting with his residents about it.
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Alyson Miers had this to say,
Feb 7, 2011 @ 1:03 pm (Quote)
Or you could…ASK the mom how she wants to approach birth control in the future. She might be totally on-board for a tubal ligation, or she might want to try something less invasive as she doesn’t care for recovering from surgery while parenting four kids, amirite? (And, no, “tell your husband to sleep on the roof” is not a viable family planning strategy.)
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because no one ever goes on birth control temporarily while still planning on more kids in the future, right? sheesh. I consider my 4th unplanned because we’d hoped to wait a while, but still see ourselves with 6-7 kids eventually.
or maybe it’s because you’re allowed 2 kids if you get one of each sex, a third if you were unfortunate enough to get 2 of the same the first 2 times, but no matter what you get the third time there’s NO EXCUSE for having more than that. ever.
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Lisa Reply:
February 7th, 2011 at 1:40 pm (Quote)
Apparently there’s a doc where I work who thinks it’s completely irresponsible to have more than one. You’re ruining your life, you’ll never retire, never get out of debt, never be able to send them to college, blah blah blah. He lit into a nurse when he found out she was expecting her third.
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sarah Reply:
February 7th, 2011 at 4:17 pm (Quote)
Maybe that doctor should go practise in CHina, where his opinions are sanctioned by government policy instead of trying to apply them in countries where (last I checked) we have a choice about planning our families!
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Rachel Reply:
February 7th, 2011 at 5:15 pm (Quote)
who says I will be paying for them to go to school? neither my husband or I had any help paying for such. if he hates kids so much he doesnt’ have to have any 
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Cmat Reply:
March 12th, 2011 at 7:05 pm (Quote)
Wow, scary doctor. He has no business being a doctor either! Yikes! I’d love to have him lecture us! lol We’re expecting our second and live debt free, no mortgage. And like Rachel said, who said we’d be paying for college? Its one thing to help, but I will most certainly not be footing the bill. Generally means more to them if they have to pay for it!
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road2vba2c had this to say,
Feb 7, 2011 @ 1:45 pm (Quote)
“If you touch my junk I’ll have you arrested.”
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Sarah Dorrance-Minch Reply:
February 7th, 2011 at 5:50 pm (Quote)
Hey, that gives me a great idea! Let’s fire all the medwives and about 90% of the obstetricians (saving a few good ones to handle the actual emergencies that do crop up every now and then), and have them all rehired by the TSA.
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Last time I checked, it was still illegal to perform surgery without patient consent.
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The Deranged Housewife had this to say,
Feb 7, 2011 @ 5:38 pm (Quote)
I think we need a new category here: “Children as Inconvenience.” Between this thread and the next one, I don’t know which is worse. Why do people think kids – especially more than two – are a curse??
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Sarah Dorrance-Minch had this to say,
Feb 7, 2011 @ 5:54 pm (Quote)
My goodness. You do vasectomies, too? That means you moonlight as a urologist.
You must be special.
All that, and you’re such a good mind reader, too. Picking out the method of birth control my husband and I chose, without even asking first.
Can you pick my lottery numbers for me, too?
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I have a friend who conceived while using birth control. She just didn’t use it all the time, was willing to take the ‘risk’, became pregnant, and was thrilled! Many (not all) people who get pregnant while ‘on birth control’ were using some type that requires some self-discipline, like pills or barrier methods. That means a failure rate of some sort. And that’s OK with some people.
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Cmat Reply:
March 12th, 2011 at 7:09 pm (Quote)
Ditto. Our current pregnancy was sort of an oops. We were using NFP pretty loosely and knew the chance was there. It took 8 months, but it happened. Luckily my Doc had nothing negative to say about that. If I wasn’t willing to take a chance at all, I wouldn’t have been within 20 ft of DH!
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Christina M. had this to say,
Feb 8, 2011 @ 12:31 am (Quote)
It was like… well naturally if you accidentally got pregnant and you already have 4 kids, and you’re 40, you might as well get your tubes tied, case closed and sign here.
Can I tell you that I was put on the pills not for birth control, but to correct a menstrual problem??? Nobody said anything about not wanting more children!
“If you touch my junk I’ll have you arrested.” – I love this!!! I’ll have to tell her that one next time. The new thing is that it is imperative I get a flu shot to protect the baby (in utero) from catching the flu. It would make much more sense if the baby were actually DUE in flu season, right???
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Ahhh! Get away from my tubes Dr. Stabby… On second thought just get away!!!
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