Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“…Chewing Gum For Gays.”
“Do you know where to put this? Send it to the Wrigley’s Factory; chewing gum for gays.” – OB to nurse while holding a newborn’s recently circumcised foreskin.
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Sarah Dorrance-Minch had this to say,
Jan 19, 2011 @ 5:00 pm (Quote)
As a bisexual woman who was threatened with FEMALE circumcision in her late teens, I can’t even begin to describe how offensive I find that statement. I hope the nurse was fired for it.
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Sarah Dorrance-Minch Reply:
January 19th, 2011 at 5:03 pm (Quote)
OB. Sorry. I’m so angry right now that I’m having a hard time focusing my eyes. “Blind with anger” is not just an idiomatic phrase.
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Oh, nice. So he’s not only a sadist, he’s also a homophobic asshole. I bet mutilating little boys is his favorite part of his job. :barf:
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Mindie Reply:
January 20th, 2011 at 8:37 am (Quote)
Yep. That. And he gets PAID to do it too. Poor little boy, and SHAME on this doctor.
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Elisabeth Reply:
January 20th, 2011 at 12:05 pm (Quote)
Perhaps it is just as offensive to pass judgment with rude comments to the original poster and people who choose to have their boys circumsized. Did it occur to you that her newborn was there by a choice made by her and her partner? She certainly did not send him in to be “mutilated”???
I think the discussion should be on the horrible comment made by this so called professional and not turn into a to circumsize or not debate or pass judegement on other peoples decisions.
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Lisa Reply:
January 20th, 2011 at 1:28 pm (Quote)
Mutilate–verb (used with object), -lat·ed, -lat·ing.
1. to injure, disfigure, or make imperfect by removing or irreparably damaging parts
2. to deprive (a person or animal) of a limb or other essential part.
Just because a parent made the choice to send their baby to have his genitals cut doesn’t make it any less true… the excruciatingly painful removal of healthy tissue on an unconsenting minor is mutilation.
Circumcision injures. Circumcision disfigures. Circumcision deprives a human of an essential part of his genitals. What definition of “mutilate” do you use, if not this one?
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Elisabeth Reply:
January 21st, 2011 at 11:08 am (Quote)
1. I would hope then you never elect to have your childrens ears pierced a mole removed or otherwise.
2. Foreskin is not an essential part, otherwise every uncircumsized boy/man would not be able to urinate or have an erection.
I also think its “brave” of you to say that a circumsized penis is an imperfect one and hope that you also realize that comments like yours really do not help the original poster and I am sure that is not why she posted this traumatic experience to be cut down by people such as yourself that obviously has an opinon that she cannot relay in a more compassionate matter.
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Heather Reply:
January 21st, 2011 at 1:04 pm (Quote)
“OB to nurse”
This very well could have been submitted by said nurse (and probably was) since parents are usually either unwilling to be present (because they want to deny what they’re doing and pretend it’s “just a snip”) or are simply not allowed to be present at the circumcision.
While you’re right it’s not “essential” it IS a functioning and important part of the penis and believed to be a cause of erectile dysfunction and in some cases, has damaged the newborn penis so badly that the boy had to have reconstructive surgery to be able to pee. So, you’ve pretty much proved Lisa’s point.
And it is an injury by definition even if you ignore everything else. It’s considered wound care.
(I’m against all non-consensual bodily modifications on minors, btw, so I do fall firmly into your number one as well–I’m not against circumcision at all, I’m pro-consent)
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Anji Reply:
January 21st, 2011 at 1:08 pm (Quote)
1. I don’t know about Lisa, but I think ‘elect[ing] to have your children’s ears pierced’ is also mutilation. Nobody has the right to make a decision like that for a child who cannot consent. Same for mole removal. If it’s not dangerous for it to be there, the kid can make his or her own decision when he or she is able.
2. Foreskin IS an essential part, if you want your son to ever enjoy sexual relations in full. Foreskin removal is the removal of much of the pleasure of sex and masturbation.
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Sarah Dorrance-Minch Reply:
February 3rd, 2011 at 12:24 pm (Quote)
The vast majority of people do not mutilate their newborn sons. No other country treats genital mutilation of infants as a routine medical procedure, or comes up with flimsy medical excuses to justify the mutilation. Americans are incredibly defensive about “not judging” and “doing what the doctor says is best.” Maybe because cosmetic surgery on newborns is something we *know* we shouldn’t be doing?
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mamabear Reply:
January 21st, 2011 at 4:00 pm (Quote)
just wanted to say that as a mother who had my first circumcised because i didn’t know better at the time that i don’t take offense to it being called mutilation. it is. and when we know better, we do better. to know what it is and why it is so horrible and still do it is what is disgusting and uncalled for.
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Samantha Reply:
January 21st, 2011 at 6:20 pm (Quote)
Mamabear, ditto. Losing my ignorance AFTER my son was already injured without his consent has given me a guilt that I will live with forever. Nothing that removes a part of someone’s body should ever be done to them without it being THEIR OWN CHOICE. Parents are parents to protect and care for their child, not make choices like that for them. Anyone who really researched it and watched videos and read the facts would be against it too.
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Sarah Dorrance-Minch Reply:
February 3rd, 2011 at 12:31 pm (Quote)
Amen.
To those who complain that by calling circumcision what it is – mutilation, heartless and barbaric mutilation – I’m being judgmental, well, of course I’m being judgmental. Of course I’m trying to make people feel the heat for defending and continuing the practice. It’s natural for people to cast judgment on others for doing something that is fundamentally wrong.
I’ve made some pretty bad parenting decisions myself. I don’t go around trying to justify them, or to tell people they have no right to judge. Other people will criticize me – sometimes fairly, sometimes unfairly. That’s life.
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DISGUSTING!!
That’s okay, laugh it up doc. Because the disgusting reality of this is that it is probably one of the many foreskins sent off to cosmetic companies, to go into a wrinkle cream, to be slathered on the face that you go home and kiss. Still funny, doc?
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Stephanie P Reply:
January 20th, 2011 at 5:16 am (Quote)
Right in with our placentas that are being used in that wonderful anti-stretch-mark cream we slather on our bellies. Barf.
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Bekah had this to say,
Jan 19, 2011 @ 6:01 pm (Quote)
I generally can appreciate the strange sense of humor that some of the OBs on this site have, but this quote is horrendous. This is definitely never acceptable in any situation. If someone had said that about my son, I would have gone for this guy’s job for sure.
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I’m not against circumcision and I find this offensive. Its first of all disrespectful to the person who’s tissue it is (and his parents) I wouldn’t want to hear a comment about uses for human teeth at the dentist either. Secondly, its homophobic as other people have pointed out. Finally, the idea that any company would find it acceptable to put human body parts into food products. Eww.
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Of course it’s not funny, but the reason is that it is dismissive of the exquisite pleasure-receptive miracle that has just been stolen.
If I could time-travel to the moment of my own circumcision I would seize the butcher’s knife and plunge it into his eye socket and right through to the back of his brain, with a gleeful twist.
HIS body, HIS decision.
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Mistie Reply:
January 19th, 2011 at 10:59 pm (Quote)
Glad to see you here Ron and speaking up on the Circ issue. Thanks for chiming in.
Ron Lowe folks, inventor of the TLC Tugger! We have a celeb in our midst. 
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Mindie Reply:
January 20th, 2011 at 8:38 am (Quote)
We <3 you Ron! (And I love my stickers you sent)
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Grace Reply:
January 20th, 2011 at 12:53 pm (Quote)
Ron, THANK YOU for inventing the Tugger! My husband may have already thanked you, but he is happily restoring with it and it’s not only restoring a foreskin for him, but it’s also restoring his confidence and our marital relations! 
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Elizabeth H Reply:
January 22nd, 2011 at 12:42 pm (Quote)
110% agree with you! My husband was circumcised against his will as an infant and has just expressed a desire to restore a few weeks ago. We will be purchasing one of your TLC tuggers sometime next week
We had a son a little over 1 year ago that was left intact, and hopefully with time the saying here in our house will be “like son like father” instead of the other way around
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Attention, world*: The average gay man is no more interested in baby boys’ penises (or parts thereof) than the average straight man is in baby girls’ vaginas. Thank you.
*Not the commenters here, of course, but the sort of person like the OB in the post.
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Stephanie P Reply:
January 20th, 2011 at 5:18 am (Quote)
Exactly. That’s what one would call a pedophile. This doc is off his rocker in so many ways.
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Alyson Miers had this to say,
Jan 19, 2011 @ 6:27 pm (Quote)
That is some Fractal Wrong right there. Any level of resolution and it’s still WRONG.
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My thought? The OB was hitting on the nurse. It’s exactly the kind of thing a nine year old boy would say to a girl he had a crush on.
**ugh**
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Stephanie P Reply:
January 20th, 2011 at 5:19 am (Quote)
Right before he threw a rock at her or pulled her hair. You’re probably right, as this comment reeks of an emotionally stunted human being.
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The Submitter Reply:
January 20th, 2011 at 10:37 am (Quote)
Yes, in retrospect I do believe this doc was hitting on me. I was barely 23 at the time and didn’t have the life/work experience to know how to handle the situation. Having been able to post it here and read the comments has helped me have closure with this moment. This doc still practices and this is only one of many posts I could submit on him.
FYI- I did not have my son circumcised as a result of this and many atrocities I saw while assisting.
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Stephanie P Reply:
January 21st, 2011 at 11:43 am (Quote)
This adds a whole new awful layer to this story. I’m so sorry he treated your child as a tool to get to you. I’m glad you were able to make an informed decision about circumcision and hope you fled this doc!
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You know… I can’t even think of ANYONE I know whom some would call homophobic who wouldn’t be -horrified- at such a vilely amoral statement. This is beyond homophobic. It’s beyond repulsive and repugnant and disgusting. There is violence in every element of this situation.
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James Loewen had this to say,
Jan 19, 2011 @ 8:19 pm (Quote)
This is really another piece of evidence of how very sexually sick the people who are cutting up children’s genitals are. I’ve sent this off to Circumstitions for their collection of gallows humour. Very disturbing. Circumcision of infants and children is sick.
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Melissa Reply:
January 19th, 2011 at 8:46 pm (Quote)
OMFG
And I never thought I’d hear anything worse than my nephew’s pediatrician gloating over his work, saying my nephew “has a penis he can be proud of.”
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Hugh7 Reply:
January 19th, 2011 at 10:22 pm (Quote)
http://www.circumstitions.com/blogs.html#humour is more about sending up circumcisers. I don’t think this “joke” belongs a n y w h e r e .
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Wow. Now whenever the mom changes her son’s diaper she’ll think of that.
It’s been ten minutes and my jaw is still hanging open, by the way.
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So what would this OB say if someone held up a baby girl’s labia and said “chewing gum for lesbians?”
Yeah, this is utterly and completely sick. Does this person call him/herself a professional? Someone should seriously report this person.
How absolutely unprofessional to say this.
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Mindie Reply:
January 20th, 2011 at 1:08 pm (Quote)
That wouldn’t happen because chopping healthy tissue off of a girls’ genitals is illegal in this country.
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I-dra Reply:
January 21st, 2011 at 1:13 pm (Quote)
God willing, someday we’ll offer our infant boys the same protection we offer our girls.
FGM is illegal in most of the countries it is practiced in. Doesn’t seem to stop the mutilating masses much.
I dream of an America where the majority will say, “Circumcise my son? Why would I do that to him? There’s nothing wrong with his penis!”
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molly had this to say,
Jan 19, 2011 @ 9:46 pm (Quote)
first time mommy had this to say,
Jan 19, 2011 @ 9:46 pm (Quote)
WRONG! WRONG! WRONG! OB, you are a HORRIBLE DISGUSTING PATHETIC excuse for a human being! You DESERVE to have LOST your license AT THE VERY LEAST. OP, I am SO SORRY you had to deal with this IDIOTIC @$$!
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I really think this may have been the absolute worst thing ever posted on MOBSW, ever. Of all the nasty, horrible things said to and about women in their pre, peri and post baby encounters, this one takes the cake, if for no other reason then it is about the mutilation of a baby.
This one takes the cake.
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I’ve wanted to say “omg, this is the worst thing I’ve ever read on this site” along with others so many times.. but I haven’t. Now, I really really have to. This.. *THIS*.. is without a doubt the absolute worst, most vile and horrifying thing I’ve ever read on this site. I’m floored.. disgusted.. enraged.. just completely freakin’ horrified that something so evil could come out of a doctor’s mouth. Un-f’ing-believable.
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Please OP, can you confirm that you did report this person to every possible authority (hospital, ACOG, state licencing board…) To leave a monster like this undiscovered to work with vulnerable women and infants is… a huge mistake to put it lightly. Please report this sociopath.
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The Submitter Reply:
January 20th, 2011 at 10:42 am (Quote)
Unfortunately at the time, I was very young and inexperienced and didn’t know the proper procedure for handling the situation. I have a lot of guilt that I never said anything about multiple serious offenses by this doc.
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I think I bruised my jaw on my desk, my chin dropped so hard and fast. That is just appalling.
I thought it was bad when my MIL postulated that my infant nephew might be gay because he would stick his hand down there and check things out during diaper changes.Because straight men never touch their own penises for any reason, I guess.
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Circumcision is not a joke, it is a vile form of child abuse. I speak for the baby, the insult to homosexuals can be taken up by homosexuals – the mutilation of the babies genitals cannot be taken up by the baby or other babies.
Jail the doctor and the nurse and remove that child from parents who would consent to allowing their babies genitals to be mutilated – they are obviously unfit to be parents.
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The Submitter Reply:
January 20th, 2011 at 10:45 am (Quote)
Why jail the nurse(me)? I am actually a pretty stellar parent, if you ask me. I didn’t have my son circumcised and I left the job shortly after this encounter. I feel I was as much a victim here as the child because I understood what was said and felt extreme pain and humiliation for him and his family.
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Hugh7 Reply:
January 20th, 2011 at 2:09 pm (Quote)
Thanks for honestly expressing your feelings, Andy, but the parents (like 1.2 million pairs of parents a year in the US) are uninformed, not evil.
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Serene Reply:
February 1st, 2011 at 4:39 am (Quote)
You realise Nurses in most places cannot refuse to attend a procedure to care for a patient? If I am working on OT3 on a day and its full of circumcisions. I legally MUST attend. No matter HOW sick it makes me feel.
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Ron Low Reply:
February 1st, 2011 at 6:40 pm (Quote)
Hi,
^^ Nurses in most places cannot refuse to attend a procedure ^^
I doubt that you can be compelled to engage in immoral behavior. Just agree to do all procedures for which there is a diagnosed reason to conduct them. Whatever the defect or disease that warrants amputation should be charted, and also maybe the less-destructive corrective methods that were tried and the outcomes should be logged as well.
Whenever these are unavailable you should write a report of unethical procedures to your boss’s boss.
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Serene Reply:
February 2nd, 2011 at 12:02 am (Quote)
Australian nurses CANNOT BY LAW refuse to attend a procedure. No matter what. I cannot refuse to attend an abortion even though I am catholic. I cannot refuse ANYTHING. Most nurses in the public sector in most countries cannot refuse patient care. No matter what the procedure, we are there for PATIENT CARE. As we are not legally qualified to MAKE a diagnosis, we cannot refuse on that basis either. We ALSO cannot refuse to attend based on ethics. It is a legal procedure, therefore the argument is invalid. Its not as simple as changing hospital either. If I am scheduled to attend theatre A all day and its circumcisions, I have to attend. If I am scheduled to attend theatre C all day and its orthopaedics (makes me nauseated…) I have to attend. I cannot say NO. If I want to keep my license, I must attend all patient care as designated.
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Ron Low Reply:
February 2nd, 2011 at 10:11 am (Quote)
^^If I want to keep my license, I must attend all patient care as designated. ^^
And you have a professional obligation to see that all required procedures are followed. Where I come from surgery is preceeded by a checklist that includes the diagnosis. Where there is none the checklist policy has been breached.
Report it. Have some courage.
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Serene Reply:
February 2nd, 2011 at 8:52 pm (Quote)
Courage?! Its not a question of courage!! Its a LEGAL PROCEDURE, and in Australia it is considered a COSMETIC procedure, therefore does not NEED a diagnosis! Hence, cannot refuse, cannot report, cannot do a fkn thing! Honest to christ, are you that blinded by the blinkers that you do not realise that in other countries there are other rules?!
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Jade Reply:
February 2nd, 2011 at 9:24 pm (Quote)
I have already commented on the post but I just wanted to send a message of support to you Serene. I am sure I will get flamed along with you but wth, I totally understand your predicament and know how difficult it is to be legally bound and yet disgusted at the procedure you are attending.
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Ron Low Reply:
February 2nd, 2011 at 10:28 pm (Quote)
^^ in Australia it is considered a COSMETIC procedure ^^
Ah, so the patient’s informed consent and competency to request an elective amputation must be reviewed before cutting, right?
You can hide behind procedures and rules but you’re participating in the non-therapeutic disfigurement of a healthy innocent person who hasn’t consented.
By your account you’re only legally bound if you want to keep getting paid for maimings. I highly doubt you’re legally bound to keep your mouth shut about it. Would you like some leaflets to hand out?
I mean if I was a trained dog-groomer for a state run kennel and the legislature ruled after I did my grooming studies that I was required to participate in docking puppies’ tails which I found distasteful, I would spend maybe a few hours a month on the sidewalk across from my workplace exercising my right to free speech against the practice, and I would write my legislator, and the facility administrator and try to get the facility out of the harming business.
No way on earth I would just go along with it. I would DO something.
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Ron Low Reply:
February 2nd, 2011 at 10:37 pm (Quote)
“A legal convention applying to the best interest of children is Article 3 of the United Nations
Convention on the Rights of the Child.[117] This international treaty has been ratified by
Australia and New Zealand. Article 3 requires that, in all actions concerning children, the
best interests of the child shall be the primary consideration.” -RACP policy on infant circumcision
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Serene Reply:
February 2nd, 2011 at 10:50 pm (Quote)
So? I still cannot refuse! It is a legal procedure. I am a nurse. Therefore, I must attend all patient care as necessary. I cannot refuse abortions either, though I find them to be just as distasteful. Both make me cry, both make me sick. I do not know a single nurse in the facility who enjoys undertaking either one. We all say something, hopefully it will make a difference, but until then, nothing I can do about it. I have to attend. Accept it and stop being a douche bag and telling me I shouldnt, because if I didnt have to, I wouldnt.
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James Loewen Reply:
February 3rd, 2011 at 8:24 am (Quote)
The rules and laws are made by other people, just like yourself. They can be challenged and changed. Thankfully there are many people throughout who have stood up and said NO to the established way of doing things.
One of these is a nurse, Marilyn Milos who said NO to assisting in genital mutilation of boys and lost her job. She however went on to establish NOCIRC and began educating the world about this abuse.
The nurses of St. Vincent’s Hospital in New Mexico banded together and said NO to assisting with any more circumcisions. They made history with their brave stand.
Change will happen when nurses stand up for their patients, truly being a patient advocate instead of dutiful dolts helping sexually mutilate children.
Lodge a formal complaint, rally other nurses, and doctors. Do something constructive. The laws need to be challenged.
Nurses who stand up for patient rights are far preferable than one who calls others a douche bag.
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alice Reply:
February 3rd, 2011 at 10:54 am (Quote)
You really don’t have to. You are within your rights to refuse if you wish.
http://www.anf.org.au/pdf/policies/P_Conscientious_Objection.pdf
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Serene Reply:
February 2nd, 2011 at 10:44 pm (Quote)
I have to check that there is a signature there. I am legally not allowed to decide on “informed consent” in the matters of children. If I feel the rights of a child are being violated, I can ask my NUM to call DOCS, however as this is a LEGAL procedure, we cannot do so. Do you not get it, no matter how much we hate it, how much we jump up and down, at the end of the day it is legal and while it is legal, I MUST participate. I am not allowed to refuse.
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Whoa people! Calm down.
Yes, this is by far the most disgusting thing I have ever heard on this site, and yes this doctor should be stripped of his license, stat!
And yes, I personally am very strongly against circumcision for males and females.
However, please stop attacking the parents! Say what you want about the moron doctor, that’s what this site is for. But MYOBSW is not a place to attack parents! Even if you strongly disagree with their views.
Saying that the parents are unfit and should have their children taken away is just cruel. Circumcision is a strong religious belief for some, and for many others it is seen as a cultural norm. A lot of parents never even hear another point of view on circumcision, it’s what they grew up with and it’s normal to them.
Again, I strongly disagree with circumcision, but I talk reasonably with others about it, and try to rationally explain to them why the practice should end. But I will not insult and scream at people, trying to force my beliefs on them like some kind of zealot. Think about your words.
If I were the OP, I would be afraid to come back on here and comment about what happened in this situation, because the majority of posters on here are calling them horrible names and saying they are awful parents who mutilated their child.
Come on guys. A little respect, please.
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The Submitter Reply:
January 20th, 2011 at 11:43 am (Quote)
I am the OP. The nurse. Parents did not hear this. I (obviously) seriously disagree with what was said.
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Jena Reply:
January 21st, 2011 at 1:53 pm (Quote)
-THANK YOU-.
Religious and cultural respect is a huge thing in my life and it can feel very lonely in the intactivist community to not be completely up in arms about religious and cultural reasons for circumcision. Just like you, highly against, I wish it would end, but vitriol is not the way to encourage reconsideration.
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i’m not the OP. and yes, this is a disgusting comment. but i’d like to address anyone who decides to attack the parent(s) for being horrid child abusers, etc.
did it ever occur to you maybe the parent(s) regret their decision? maybe they didn’t have the information they needed to make a good informed decision in the first place? it’s comments like this:
“remove that child from parents who would consent to allowing their babies genitals to be mutilated – they are obviously unfit to be parents”
that make me feel horrible for counting myself as an intactivist. i made the mistake of circ’ing my firstborn. i didn’t have the right information to make the right decision. and comments like this cut to the core. how dare any of you assume the parents to be unfit because they made a decision you wouldn’t because you happen to be more informed? attitudes like the one i quoted are abhorrent and do nothing to further the cause. go after the doctors, nurses, and other medical community members that encourage this practice, but stop attacking the parents. not everyone can be as pathetically perfect as yourselves.
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Dee Reply:
January 20th, 2011 at 1:29 pm (Quote)
Yes, thank you, Andi. I admit it–we circumcised. I’ll be honest–I was soooo focused on having a natural, low-intervention birth, dealing with anxiety and depression, a horrible doctor, and trying to make sure we were ready for breastfeeding…I didn’t do the research and didn’t give it much thought. DH was very pro-circ. I did try to tell him “let’s wait until we can make a better call,” but he disagreed. Again, there was so much else going on, we did not give it the attention we *could* have (my counselor says use “Could have” rather than “should have”). I regret it very much. THere’s not much I can do about it now except encourage (thoughtfully) other parents to do their research and make an informed decision.
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Josh had this to say,
Jan 20, 2011 @ 12:28 pm (Quote)
Well let’s face it. Anyone involved with amputating normal and healthy erogenous tissue from infants and not taking a stand against it is just at fault as the one holding the knife. This country is filled by sickened,apathetic monsters within the medical community. Those who seek little more than a quick 300 dollars for a procedure that lasts 15 minutes and permanently disfigures a persons genitals. It astounds me anyone can mutilate a Childs penis and still have a clear conscience. Strangely enough cultures that maim the genitals of their children are also cultures that value violence and death and shun sexuality and the human body.
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The Submitter had this to say,
Jan 20, 2011 @ 3:07 pm (Quote)
To clear it all up- I am the OP. I am the nurse and the only one who heard this comment (other than the newborn.) I did not and do not endorse this comment in any way. Unfortunately, I did not report the doctor, tho I wish often that I had.
I did not submit this encounter to make a statement regarding circumcision. The parents of this child are the innocent here. I do not know why they made the decision to circumcise him and that is not the point. This doctor violated the rights of the newborn, his parents, and me (the nurse) by making the comment he did and this sort of behavior needs to stop.
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Sephia Reply:
January 20th, 2011 at 10:23 pm (Quote)
It only stops if you stand up to it and report it. You are the first step in stopping such comments and or behavior.
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Stephanie P Reply:
January 21st, 2011 at 11:52 am (Quote)
You are really brave for submitting this comment after seeing the reaction to the original post. Well done! Hopefully it will open some eyes to do their research before making this decision for their child.
It sounds like this comment was heard a while ago, and since you did not originally comment, there would be severe doubt about so late a testimony from people in positions of authority. If you feel compelled though I’m sure it wouldn’t hurt to report the doc even this late. No judgements if you can’t or choose not too. I’m just happy you shared here.
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Liz Reply:
January 21st, 2011 at 12:28 pm (Quote)
I am glad that you shared the comment. I understand what it is like to not report something and regret it later. I think often we experience something and we are so shocked it takes a long time to come to terms with what happened and by the time we realize the offense should be reported it is too late.
I hope that sharing the comment will bring some closure for you even if you did not get to report it.
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“This doctor violated the rights of the newborn, his parents, and me (the nurse) by making the comment he did and this sort of behavior needs to stop.”
I can’t be the only person who read this and actually choked out loud. Really? The OP’s rights were violated by the statements made? The baby’s parents rights were violated? The nurses?
How misguided and self rightious. The only rights being violated here are the newborns. He was the one subjected to a barbaric, painful and unnecessary procedure. HIS rights were violated and THOSE are the rights that matter here. Shame on you for one, supporting this perverted sexual abuse and double shame on you for failing in your obligation as a healthcare provider to not report this kind of abusive and innapropriate behavior. Shame on the doctor too, but then again, he wasn’t the one who had an issue with what was said and done, you did.
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That’s digusting on so many levels. It’s like saying “Here. Send this clitoris to Wrigley’s. Chewing gum for lesbians.” I can’t even believe someone had the nerve to post this on the internet. I must resist the urge to vomit.
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Ewww… gag. That nearly made me actually vomit.
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Heather P Reply:
January 19th, 2011 at 6:30 pm Heather P(Quote)
That was my first reaction too. Beyond offensive.
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