Nov 202010

“Other girls are able to walk after giving birth- why can’t you?” – Midwife to mother who collapsed and fell when she was being asked to change to a postpartum room shortly after giving birth.

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 November 20, 2010  Midwife, postpartum  Add comments

  40 Responses to “"Other Girls Are Able To Walk After Giving Birth- Why Can't You?"”

  1. what the hell!?!?

  2. wow. whenever i’ve had a baby, i was helped to a wheelchair and taken to the postpartum room that way. my feet barely touched the floor.

  3. At the hospital I gave birth to my first at, we didn’t have to change rooms, but I was sternly told that I had to call a nurse the first couple of times I wanted to get up, in case I became dizzy.

    This nurse’s comment is despicable. You’re seriously going to shame someone for collapsing?

    • Yes, because if you shame the woman for collapsing, then she’s less likely to report you to the maternity unit supervisor, the hospital and the state licensing board for giving such shoddy care that she collapsed. Yeah.

      Consider it a job-protecting move. This midwife’s comment should be translated correctly as “You won’t dare report me because this was your fault.” :-b

  4. Other midwife’s are able to be sympathetic and understanding – Why can’t you?

    Also, I haven’t been a “girl” in quite some time, thank you very much!

  5. Comments like this and “Well, everyone has to do it” are just despicable. Obviously the woman CAN’T do it, so telling her that everyone else can or that she should be able to is going to do nothing but make her feel inferior.

  6. This past birth I had some vision problems, never experienced after a birth before but I had to push really hard, the nurse thought it was a reaction to the pressure in my skull from the pushing. I’ve always been taken by wheelchair to postpartum. Ugh, I’m sorry OP.

  7. “Other care providers are able to use their medical training without passing diagnostic responsibility to their patient–why can’t you?”

    Seriously, isn’t it the MIDWIFE’S JOB to know about maternal/infant care in the time leading up to, including, and following birth? Why is she asking the PATIENT “what’s wrong with you?” and talking down to her by calling new mothers “girls”!?!?! I’m so sorry you had to go thru this, OP :(

  8. yeah i have always been “able” to walk after birth… not that it was a good idea, it was easy or that i should have been doing so… and i would NEVER recommend it! moron!!! it probably has a lot to do with the length and strength of labor and pushing phase… i would think anyway. people will never cease to amaze me!!!

  9. If mom had an epidural, her legs were probably still numb!!!! I’ve had 4 kids and the nurses have always told me to ask for assistance in walking for the first few trips to the bathroom after the birth! In fact, they didn’t leave my room until I could ambulate myself!! I didn’t have to change rooms.

    • This except I did change rooms. I was not only whisked over there in a wheelchair, but was also told to buzz the nurse when I needed to get up in case I became dizzy or lightheaded.

      Seems strange that patient would have needed to walk.

      • I’m in the UK, and it’s common here to labour in one room then move to the recovery ward. I’m not sold on the idea of making weakened women walk and guilting them about using a wheelchair, however :(

  10. She was walking to the postpartum room? For crying out loud, they make you sit in a wheelchair when you’re discharged! I agree with the pp, she was trying to cover up her shoddy care by blaming the mother.
    Do you know how *far* away the wheelchairs are? I can’t possibly go get one! —whine—
    On a tangent, I call my clients ‘ladies’ (I call my friends girls). Is that term ok to use?

  11. “Other birthing places have LDRP rooms so women don’t have to change rooms – why don’t you??”

    And I hemorrhaged after my VBAC (unknown to us until this incident) and passed out on my first trip out of bed to the loo, and the one nurse helping me couldn’t hold up my dead weight and had to have my husband (who was holding the baby) push the call button so she could yell for help. I hate to think what would have happened if I’d been expected to make that trip by myself. If there is a next time, I’m requesting TWO nurses to help me pee…

    • “Other birthing places have LDRP rooms so women don’t have to change rooms – why don’t you??”

      Yeah, this.

      And after giving birth I would be pretty pissed off to be refered to as a “girl”

  12. Wow, they wouldn’t LET me walk to the PP room last time I gave birth. I had to be in a wheelchair for liability reasons.

    OP, I’m sorry you were treated so terribly.

  13. This is ridiculous! I can’t believe a ‘midwife’ would say this. Admit you’re a MEDwife!!! Even different births in the same women have different post-partum issues. With my 1st 3 births, I was able to walk just fine hrs later. After my 4th, I couldn’t walk unsupported for almost a whole week since I was in so much pain. If I didn’t know any better, I’d swear I had a c/s, but this was after a homebirth. My Midwife was more than supportive (literally and figuratively). Hey, MEDwife, don’t compare any woman to the next, especially compared to ‘girls’!!!!

  14. About a half hour after a 25 hour labor on pitocin, a ten pound baby, an episiotomy that cut through hemmorhoids, a broken tailbone, forceps, and a badly bruised bladder and a child so wedged in they feared her shoulder would break, a delivery nurse said, “Well, do you think you will have one another soon?” She didn’t deserve to live.

    • WOW!!! You had a trumatic birth. NO WAY should you of been expected to stand, let alone walk. Has that hospital ever heard of DUTY OF CARE?

      I am so sorry you were treated so poorly.

  15. This happened to me (though this isn’t mine). I had a csection with my daughter and was allergic to my staples so healing was really difficult for me. Some of the RUDE nurses were trying to force me to walk around after allowing my pain meds to wear off and it was literally the WORST pain of my entire life! Luckily I had some good nurses who understood and allowed my husband to help me… the rudest nurse even tried to hold my IV pole so I couldn’t have support with it! This was less than 24 hours after my surgery!

    I couldn’t completely walk comfortable (as much as that is after a major abdominal surgery) until around 2 weeks pp when my staples were removed (which, SURPRISE, took 2 weeks to come out since my body kept trying to reject them and my incision wasn’t closing well on it’s own)…

    THAT is only PART of the reason why I am so gung ho about having a VBAC in June…

  16. *gawks at screen*

  17. Interesting. (I say that sarcastically) My second son was born at home. We were both rushed to the er. After everything calmed down I got up to use the bathroom. I passed out. A few hours later I was wheeled to the nicu to see my son. I stood up to see him better and I passed out. I passed out once more a bit later while sitting in a wheelchair. I was confined to bed for 24 hours after that. Clearly some WOMEN (not girls)should not be walking right after birth so don’t make assumptions. (it’s also clear that some people shouldn’t be nurses in the maternity ward.)

  18. Wow. I got up almost immediately after being stitched up (and being high on gas & air) after my first birth – nearly passed out. With my second, the midwives helped me to the toilet and then to my bed. When I got up a few hours later, I nearly passed out, and called for my husband to help me.

  19. The nurse after my second birth made me eat PB & crackers before I was allowed to get up, saying even if I wasn’t hungry/felt fine, the birth was hard on my body and I needed some sustinence to bring my sugar back up.

    She also helped me walk to the bathroom and was cautious to make sure I didn’t fall. As much as I dont’ want another hospital birth, I’m glad at least for that. She also wheeled me to my post partum birth and stopped at the nursery window so I could see my son & husband. Of course, I’d rather have been in my bed with the two of them but you know. Hospitals and all.

  20. I had a nurse walk with me to the bathroom, stay with me, and them help me to the floor when i started to black out. I got to lay there (with blankets ^_^) till my BP was better and I wasn’t light headed when I tried to sit up. At the start of this, I asked the nurse why she was suposed to come with me, and she told me it was very common for women to pass out when they first go to the bathroom or move around.

  21. Similar thing happened to me. I kept passing out every time I was helped to the restroom and the nurse asked what my problem was. I guess she hadn’t read the chart because I was a homebirth transfer for a major post-partum hemorrhage. I couldn’t walk without getting dizzy for 3 months after the birth.

  22. I’m not sure why there’s another pink link up there, since I am the OP here :)

    Some background: I suffer from CFS, and had an unmedicated childbirth. Baby came really quickly- I was 7cm upon arriving at hospital. The whole experience took a ton of energy that I just don’t usually have from me. They gave me 30minutes then said they wanted me to move to the recovery ward, so I tried to get up and promptly collapsed from pain, exhaustion and, well, having just had a baby! I really didn’t need her attitude on top of that.

    I also don’t know why she called me a girl. I was 25 when I had my daughter, but I am very petite so perhaps she thought I was younger.

  23. I have *always* had assistance making that first trip to the bathroom and getting to the wheelchair. I bleed a lot/hemorrhage a bit. A few times I haven’t been able to make it to the bathroom and either stop and sit in a chair or just go back to the bed and get cath’d. Nurses have always preferred that I sit back down, don’t make it the bathroom to passing out. I’m a tall/big girl and no nurse would have a chance of catching me if I passed out while walking.
    My last baby-my nurse had hands on me all the way to the bathroom, going as slowly as necessary, sat me on the toilet, undressed and dressed me including my socks. Got my fishnet panties and pad well situated. I was bleeding everywhere the whole time and it made a big mess in the bathroom. She had a smile on her face and was chatting me up the whole time. After we got me to my PP room she told me, “You did GREAT!” and gave me a big hug.

  24. I am the OP and I wrote some background details but it seems to have been removed? :(

  25. Ok, just because some WOMEN can hop up out of the bed quickly after birth and hobble to another room/the bathroom/the NICU doesn’t mean all of them should or that some being capable of willing themselves to do that means ALL of them are absolutely capable even after a normal vaginal delivery.

    If it feels like too much or you feel faint, you should probably sit down. Ignoring said feelings could result in a nasty fall. Falling right after birth is ill-advised, you or someone attempting to cath you could jar or hit your very sensitive uterus and cause yourself to bleed excessively.

    I feel for you OP. If you needed help or even if you felt you didn’t they should’ve offered or helped – smilingly – happily – nicely. Rather than belittling and just wanting you to be a “good little girl”, jerk midwife.

  26. I’ve always been told I’m “not like other women” (admittedly, by my romantic partners). This just confirms it.

    Gee, you’re not competent like other midwives I’ve encountered…

  27. My mother-in-law said something to this effect after the birth of my daughter via unnecesarean. (Mind you, she was comparing MY 29.5 hours of drug free labor, emotional tug-of-war with hospital staff, and c-section after not sleeping for 2 days with HER laproscopic ovarian cyst removal) Comments like these are hurtful and condescending. What happened to a simple “Let me help you” or any number of kind, helpful words/actions? Geez. When did it become so hard to be gentle with women in such a raw/open time in their lives??!!

  28. Had a friend who had an inducta-section (with epidural of course) and hospital ran out of post-partum beds. They forced her to walk w/ her epidural down to pediatrics on another floor even after she told them she couldn’t feel her legs.
    I guess all the wheelchairs and beds w/ were somewhere else.

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