I love Thoughtful Thursdays

That’s okay, we needed something refreshing after yesterday’s.

My midwife said a similar thing to me, but right after my baby was born. She said: “You are a goddess!” It was the best thing. And then a couple of weeks later, she said “I couldn’t have been prouder of you if I’d been your mother.” (Unmedicated OP birth w/ 3 hrs of pushing.)

I was told by my midwife during the birth that I could do it and I was amazing. After the birth, and even at the 6 week appointment, I was told I am a strong woman. She told me I did a great job, and she really made me feel great. I know she sees women birth all the time, and to hear I handled contractions well, and that I am sooo amazingly strong, that healed me after a birth previously where the nurse basically beat me down and did a lot of “I told you so” stuff while trying to keep me on the bed. THe midwife let me know I am not a failure, not doing birth wrong, not whiny and needy. Even if I need support and help, I am able to go through the stress of labor and come out with dignity. She purposely treated me “like a princess” when she dried me off after my bath (never had anyone dry me off since I was little) and sat me upright instead of making me lay back while in the last stage of labor (I finally wanted to be on the bed). She said I would be sitting up like on a throne. She let me do what I needed to because she believed I was doing the right thing. If she wanted to try something different than I was doing, she explained it and asked. Never did she treat me like I was an idiot even when I was anxious (I had a thing about the clock…and baby being OP always makes me more anxious…it’s a sign of OP for me I think). Even when I nearly fell asleep right before pushing she said, “that’s good, you rest.” She was affirming the whole time.