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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
The Women Who Were Supposed To Have Delivered After You Have Already Had Their Babies!”
“The women who were supposed to have delivered after you have already had their babies!” -L&D Nurse to mother who the nurse believed was not pushing hard enough.
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AAAAAAAAAARGH! I -HATE- when people telling birthing mothers they’re not pushing hard enough! You’re not in the woman’s body, you don’t know how hard she’s pushing, how much she has in her, or what’s going on with the baby. Even your sacred machines cannot reliably tell you. Argh argh argh argh argh argh argh
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Susan Reply:
August 23rd, 2010 at 2:09 am (Quote)
I know! With my first, the mw shouted at me to push, then turned to another mw and said I wasn’t pushing. I will concede that I probably wasn’t pushing as effectively as I could have – because I was flat on my back, with my son on my sciatic nerve, and was very drowsy from being given demerol just before hitting transition. But I was pushing, and had I gotten into a different position, probably could’ve pushed just fine without intervention. They gave me about 2 or 3 pushes before cutting me and doing a ventouse delivery.
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I burst out laughing at this one. What an utterly, utterly ridiculous thing to say to a woman in labor! What possible effect could it have?
It reminds me so much of what parents say to their kids to get them to eat faster. “Now, Billy, hurry up, Susie’s already finished her dinner and SHE’s two years younger than you!”
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Now if we could just get the nurses and docs to repeat that.
Alyson Miers had this to say,
Aug 22, 2010 @ 7:18 pm (Quote)
Sometimes, Nurse Numbskull, just sometimes, a woman in labor is not a problem. Labor takes as long as it needs to take, and as long as the mom’s in good shape and the baby’s not in distress, the mom can just keep going at her pace and the baby will eventually arrive. There’s no magic number of hours it’s “supposed” to take.
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qtberryhead had this to say,
Aug 22, 2010 @ 7:18 pm (Quote)
Awesome. Peer pressure in the delivery room…that’s just fantastic. This just reminds me that women are merely children in the eyes of the medical community.
Almost makes me wish that mom threw a huge temper tantrum!
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JulietsButterfly had this to say,
Aug 23, 2010 @ 4:52 am (Quote)
I wonder how many of those mothers had elective c/s or were induced or *gasp* had the wrong due date!
DD came early, but most likely because I wasn’t sure of my LMP.
My only goal during labor with DS was not to have him at the exact same time as the woman down the hall that my OB was attending to as well. Not our fault we were in labor at the same time. I think I asked about her the following morning and she was a few hours behind me, so he had time to get down the hall in time. The nurses could have caught DS if he’d had to leave. I can’t stand anyone being on the clock though. The nurses at DD’s birth wanted me on a clock, even though my water didn’t break until I was at a 10.
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Jane Reply:
August 23rd, 2010 at 5:58 am (Quote)
When I had Kiddo3, there was another woman in labor at the same time as me, and the midwife divided her time between us. I said, “What if we deliver at the same time?” and she said calmly, “The other mom is a primip and I’m pretty sure you’ll deliver first. If you both deliver at the same time, we’ll handle it, don’t worry.”
I did end up delivering before the other mom, but I loved how she made it so matter-of-fact. Not a race, not a competition, and I would hope the other mom was told, “There’s another mom in labor, but don’t worry about that. You will be taken care of no matter what.”
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cathi Reply:
August 23rd, 2010 at 6:41 am (Quote)
Yeah, this. Midwives are taught to handle that…so what’s the big deal. Oh, I know, hospitals are designed to run on a schedule…so women who don’t fit that schedule, are hurried, prodded, or worse….
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Bonnie Reply:
August 23rd, 2010 at 6:56 am (Quote)
My sister was in labor at the same time as another woman. They told my sister not to push (lied and said she was at an 8 when a different nurse said she was almost complete a few minutes earlier) while they attended the other woman, because it was my sister’s first and the other woman had already given birth before. They also left her completely alone at that time, came running when her body started pushing on its own, and then she was left alone again as soon as the cord was cut. It was really weird, like she was being punished for not being able to stop pushing during an un-medicated birth
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Gee, I didn’t know it was a race! My first nurse started making comments about how I must be a smoker and then went on lunch break because my baby wasn’t “coming anytime soon” due to my “weak” pushing. I wanted to slap him! As soon as his replacement arrived I was able to relax, push without confusing instructions about holding my breath, and it took less than an hour to get my son out.
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See ladies, you are all mistaken about something. The Drs and nurses are correct here, because a woman is supposed to deliver within 10-12 hours of the onset of labor. If she doesn’t, her body is defective. Didn’t you know this???
*Head*Desk*
Now to the facts… When are the hospital staff going to learn that the 1cm per hour dilation rule and 1-2 hours of pushing, came from a Dr observing women in labor while on pitocin… and not the pit we have today, pitocin derrived from the pituitary glands of cows and pigs. Yeah. And the pushing stage was almost ALWAYS assisted with fundal pressure to “help” mommy.
Lovely.
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Reminds me of the episode of FRIENDS where Rachel goes into labor with Emma and women keep circulating through the labor room while she’s stuck there. The nurses kept saying there’s no way “this” one will give birth before you, but they were wrong!
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“Well, since they do it so well, maybe they should deliver mine too.”
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StaudtCJ Reply:
August 23rd, 2010 at 8:06 am StaudtCJ(Quote)
AAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Note to self: Coffee is bad for monitors!
Jane, I love your wit.
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