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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
Thoughtful Thursday! “So Push!”
“So push!” -Midwife when mother felt like pushing after going from zero to transition in 40 minutes.
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This is SO much better than when Nurse McNasty informed me that there was no way I needed to push because she just checked me 15 minutes ago and I was only at 7.
I went from 7cm, 70% effaced and -2 station to holding my son in 21 minutes.
Yes, I DID need to push.
Good job to this midwife for trusting that mom knew what her body was telling her, and to mom for handling a very fast labor with what seems to be amazing poise.
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Hi all! This one is mine and aside from being scared to death, I pushed and my little girl was born with two and a half pushes and less than an hour of labor! (Thankfully my midwife was able to make it.)
I was concerned that I shouldn’t push, mainly because I hadn’t been in labor that long and when she said “push” I was confused for a second, then “followed orders”.
@Mary…I don’t know if I handled it with amazing poise. My memory of the evening was freaking out at my husband because everything was happening so quickly and apologizing because I thought I was urinating on the floor (turns out that was my water breaking). 
I am due here with #4 in a few weeks and can only hope and pray that labor goes that quickly again.
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OP: I am really happy for you. It’s hard to freak out and listen to your body at the same time. Kudos to your midwife for encouraging you to listen to your body.
On another topic, however, does anyone know of sites with Birth Plans that can be edited or printed out? Friend of mine just found out she’s pregnant and is all sorts of confused about her options.
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Sheva Reply:
August 19th, 2010 at 8:13 pm (Quote)
Check out “Creating Your Birth Plan: The Definitive Guide to a Safe and Empowering Birth” by Marsden Wagner.
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Hallie Reply:
August 19th, 2010 at 8:41 pm (Quote)
Really the best thing is to do short too the point statements.
“We do not want to continous fetal monitoring”
“We do not want AROM”
“We do not want pitocin augmentation”
“We do not want pain relief medication offered”
“We would like the cord to be clamped after it stops pulsating”
Unfortunately, long lengthy birth plans are more likely to be tossed aside. Most RNs I’ve spoke with come out and say they hate “those internet birth plans” They don’t have time to read them, and they think mom isn’t being realistic. The upside is if it’s short and to the point you can print several copies…One for doc, one for admission papers, one for doc AGAIN when he/she shows up, one for nurse, one to hang above the bed as a reminder to EVERYONE and not just the staff (like good old Aunt Petunia who comes in the middle of a contraction “Oh honey just get the epidural…”) Also, have her try to write it in a nice “open minded like” form, if you appear to be open minded, then they’ll be more likely to be open minded and non dissmisive… Like “To whom it may concern: As long as mom and baby are doing fine, we would appreciate the following wishes to be kept as closely as possible…”
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Serene Reply:
August 20th, 2010 at 4:27 am (Quote)
The other side of that is when you get the same care provider through the pregnancy.
I was encouraged to write mine in detail with reasons for everything I wanted, as she felt the staff would be more likely to follow it (even so long) if I had a rationale behind each request and could show that I had researched it thoroughly and was informed. I guess its a hospital thing. Mine encourages researching all your options.
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Heather P Reply:
August 20th, 2010 at 10:56 am (Quote)
There was a link here a couple weeks ago about birth plans. The best one was written on a 3×5 card and simply said “Don’t F*** with me”. The midwife who wrote the article smiled and put the birth plan in the mother’s file. I’ll have to see if I can find that link.
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Jade Reply:
November 10th, 2010 at 3:31 am (Quote)
LOL, I love this one. I told my husband and mother in law that I was going to read them a birth plan, they both looked very uninterested until I proceeded to read them this short statement and they both laughed and thought it summed things up very well
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Wendy Reply:
August 20th, 2010 at 5:53 pm (Quote)
Be warned that there is a move in hospitals to discourage “stating things in the negative” on birth plans. They don’t want you to say, “I do not consent” or “We do not want.”
Presumably, they want to hear more weasel-worded, loophole-studded statements such as, “If at all possible and it’s not an inconvenience to you, I would prefer to labor in an upright position.” Blech!
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Wendy Reply:
August 20th, 2010 at 5:54 pm (Quote)
I love–LOVE!–this part:
Most birth plans can be summarized thusly: “You will treat me with respect at all times and I will maintain the autonomy that I had before entering your hospital. Before you touch me or intervene in the normal course of my labor/delivery, you will discuss it with me and obtain informed consent.”
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doulamommy` Reply:
August 23rd, 2010 at 1:39 pm (Quote)
Love it! Too bad it has to be stated, though. That should be every woman’s right without any discussion necessary.
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HERE is a caregiver who is not afraid of, and actually respects, the mystery and individuality of the birthing woman, and her self knowledge.
Love it!
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Sheva Reply:
August 19th, 2010 at 5:39 pm Sheva(Quote)
And I have a LOT of respect and awe for mom for her awareness of her body’s signals and for withstanding what sounds like an extremely intense labor.
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