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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“If You Don’t Try Harder To Push…”
“If you don’t try harder to push, I’m going to have to do a cesarean on you.” -OB to mother during the pushing phase.
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That was my thoughts, she was probably flat on her back with a needle stuck in her spine & couldn’t feel anything from her collar bone down to know how she was pushing. Funny how he jumped straight to the major cut when he could have been much nicer (not) and reach for the salad tongs or vacuum.
Poor OP, I hope you had that bubby just fine and then told this @$$wipe what you thought of him
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Once again, the double-standard:
1) There is no problem with doing a cesarean! It’s easy! It’s just the same!
2) A cesarean is a punishment I will inflict on you if you don’t do as I say!
*sigh*
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Okay, this is totally off subject… has anyone heard from Sarah? Her last post was on the 6th and she was in labor…. Anyone talk to her on another forum or know her offline? I’d love to hear about her birth 
and new little bundle!
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Heather P Reply:
August 15th, 2010 at 7:04 pm (Quote)
I’ve been keeping an eye out here for her, but I don’t know her IRL so I don’t know how to contact her. Maybe she’s enjoying her babymoon?
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Jane Reply:
August 16th, 2010 at 5:05 am (Quote)
She said once that she’s on facebook and gave someone contact info for her. I googled her name and came up with a lot of hits, but nothing recent.
Frankly, given the tumult here in the past few days, I’m glad she’s kept away. In the first couple of weeks postpartum, a mom needs soothing, positive surroundings. But I do hope she returns soon.
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))))))))
Oh no, actually bullying does work a bit. The doctor with my son’s birth said “If she doesn’t push the baby out soon I’m going to have to cut.” I pushed like crazy until he came out, two pushes later. That was how badly I did not want to be cut. Of course as a result, I tore pretty badly.
Not saying its okay, just saying I’ve been there and it works. In my opinion its a cruel tactic to use.
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Heather Reply:
August 16th, 2010 at 5:00 pm (Quote)
Didn’t work for me, but I shouldn’t have been pushing yet, regardless of having been at a 10 for an hour and a half. They threatened, they insulted and in the end, I just collapsed and gave up. After all, according to them, I ‘[wasn't] really trying.’ (because pushing for an hour and a half in half a dozen different positions from squatting to standing to lying down isn’t ‘really trying’)
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Cmat Reply:
August 17th, 2010 at 9:22 am (Quote)
That sucks, Heather. You did try. I pushed for two hours and was dog tired. Just because we’re at 10 doesn’t mean the baby will just fall out.
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Heather Reply:
August 17th, 2010 at 9:54 am (Quote)
Yeah, I was exhausted. I’d only gotten 2 hours of sleep before I woke up in labor and it was a 23 1/2 hour labor–I managed like 2 15 minute naps through the day.
According to some stuff I read back in the 90s/early 00s (that never made it to the internet, I guess, because I can’t find it, except in passing comments by midwives) 10 isn’t the end of dilation (a woman can dilate to a 13, but since the vast majority are ready at 10, that’s the number that was picked as the magic pushing number). But knowing that and having a hospital respect it are two different things 
Plus, when you’re in transition, it’s hard to remember ANYTHING except that you want to be holding your baby RIGHT NOW 
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Cmat Reply:
August 17th, 2010 at 10:33 am (Quote)
I’ve never heard of dialating past ten either. I just don’t like the idea of someone telling me I should push if my body isn’t telling me I should. I lucked out a bit in the sense that they had not checked me in a while and I dictated when I was ready to push.. which was when I was starting to feel a lot of pressure.
Your labor sounds sooo much like mine!
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Heather Reply:
August 17th, 2010 at 11:41 am (Quote)
It was my first birth–I had no idea what a pushing urge felt like and my baby still had not descended into my pelvis at all. That hospital had an 18 hour clock on broken water with GBS+ women, though, and I was very close (my SROM was how I knew it was finally real labor–it was a pretty mild labor until the end, but I’d had prodromal labor for 4 weeks).
With my second, I was half-asleep when I suddenly had the overwhelming urge to push. I laughed deliriously, lol, and announced to anyone who’d listen that I felt it (as I pushed at its direction, not anyone else’s). She came out in 20 minutes that was a 23 1/2 hour labor, just furthering my belief that one more hour (of rest!) would have had my first DD out
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I’d like to know more of the context around this. My doctor said something similar to me, but that was because the baby’s heart rate was bottoming out. I pushed like crazy, had a nice dystocia that needed resolving (doctor was awesome) and gave birth to a baby with a 1 minute APGAR of 3.
Yeah, baby needed out. So, when she told me to push or have a c-section she was telling me that the baby needed out NOW, which he did.
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Or maybe it’s just the goddamn truth. If labor wasn’t progressing properly and the mother doesn’t seem to really be putting her all into pushing, it’s fucking tough love time. If you don’t like it, feel free to go birth in a tent in the middle of the woods surrounded by your hippie sisters – and when labor DOESN’T go the way you wanted, and that little spawn gets stuck and its heart rate is dropping, don’t come running back for help or a c-section.
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Susan Peterson had this to say,
Aug 29, 2010 @ 9:16 am (Quote)
Do you leave pigbot’s comments in just to show that there are people with worse attitudes than the original offenders? Or maybe that’s what his/her name means; he/she is a robot programmed to make piggish comments!
My OB did say to me “You know, we only give you two hours.”
But I was aware that he was under pressure himself. He had just lost privileges at the other hospital in that city for refusing to do continuous fetal monitoring on a whole series of patients, of whom I had been one. (He paid a midwife to sit with me and listen to the heart tones every 15 minutes, until he could come in and do the same thing. With a fetoscope, no portable doptones in those days. ) So when in this labor he said this to me, I knew he meant this was the protocol at that hospital and would I please try not to make it difficult for him. I got up into a squat and pushed really hard and soon the baby was crowning. He weighed 11 pounds which was why it was taking a while.
After that I had home births and didn’t have to deal with this kind of pressure.
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Ya know doc, having a baby is not like playing football or wrestling; bullying and scare tactics do NOT help a woman in labor. Perhaps a little tactful encouragement could go a long way. And btw, you’re fired!
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