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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“Oh, I’m Glad She’s Not *MY* Wife!”
“Oh, I’m glad she’s not MY wife!” – OB said after a mother yelled at her husband to grab her leg to help during a contraction.
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I bet this woman is glad that OB is not HER husband!!
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Sarah Dorrance-Minch Reply:
July 31st, 2010 at 1:44 pm (Quote)
I know *I’m* glad this dipstick isn’t my husband… or my care provider, for that matter.
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prochoice doula Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 2:23 pm (Quote)
*EXACTLY* what I was going to say! If it had been me, and I’d have been able to respond on the fly, I would have said that exact thing.
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The Deranged Housewife had this to say,
Jul 31, 2010 @ 7:54 am (Quote)
Not even sure WTH this means – is the OB “shocked* that a wife would dare yell at her husband during labor? (eyeroll) Just another random, stupid comment that just came out of his/her ass because he/she can’t think of anything else to say, I’m sure.
I’m guessing this was an unmedicated labor, where mom was acutely aware, in charge, focused and not flat on her back, drugged to the gills, happily smiling through each contraction because she couldn’t feel anything from the eyelids down?
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Sarah Dorrance-Minch Reply:
July 31st, 2010 at 1:45 pm (Quote)
If the husband in question was being recruited to act as a human stirrup, she was most likely on her back, or at least semi-recumbent.
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Alyson Miers had this to say,
Jul 31, 2010 @ 8:08 am (Quote)
Something tells me the daddy-to-be wasn’t really upset about his wife yelling at him while birthing their child. In fact, I’ll bet he soon recovered from any trauma his wife caused him.
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Kit Reply:
July 31st, 2010 at 11:21 am (Quote)
All my dude friends, while telling me of the births of their sacred and most perfect offspring, seem to have forgotten the yelling/abuses they were subject too. A real conversation:
Dude Friend: She was amazing! She had little Dude Jr. and she was dignified the WHOLE time.
Dudette: What about when I screamed at you and threatened to strangle you with the fetal montiter belt?
Dude Friend: I don’t remember that….
Dudette: And when I started crying and said you did this to me and I hated you?
Dude Friend: You were tired. Besides that was when Dude Jr. was crowning. he was so cute, even the top of his head was cute….
Dudette: And when the doctor told me I was whiney?
Dude Friend: I remember that part, I’d like to see him push out that big, cute head. We shouldn’t go back to him. unless you liked him….
Yeah. I don;t think husbands remember much beyond “OMG cute baby” and in this friend’s case, that he hated her doctor. (And oh did he hate that doctor…. Can father’s send submissions? I should send him thsi site.)
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Jane Reply:
July 31st, 2010 at 2:22 pm (Quote)
Yes, fathers can submit material. 
Have her send them.
BTW, I never screamed at my husband during five labors, so it’s not a universal.
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Sarah Dorrance-Minch Reply:
July 31st, 2010 at 3:15 pm (Quote)
Yeah. When I give birth, once the oxytocin rush floods in, I just scream – I don’t scream/yell/swear/carp/bitch at anybody in particular.
That’s what I do during pregnancy.
My poor, long-suffering husband. And to think, this is the fourth time he’s had to endure forty weeks or so of sheer hell. He gets couvade symptoms, too, on top of having to put up with me.
He posts here occasionally as D.W.M. Be nice to him.
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Robyn Reply:
July 31st, 2010 at 3:40 pm (Quote)
I never screamed at my husband. I *snapped* at him twice. I also lost focus during two contractions and screamed through them. The first time I snapped at him we had just gotten *back* to the hosptial (told me just over an hour before that my water hadn’t broken like I claimed, and that I was only in early labor and sent me home) and I got out of shower to clean off the vomit from hitting transition in the car. Got dressed in the hospital gown, felt like I had to go to the pee. Sat down on the toilet and a contraction hit and with that contraction came the urge to push. The first thing I started doing was the pant-like-a-dog breathing they teach you in Lamaze to keep from pushing on the toilet. My husband tells me I need to stop breathing so fast or I will hyperventilate. I stopped focusing on my contraction to tell him that I felt the urge to push. He procedes to tell me “Don’t push”. I snapped at him “That’s why I’m breathing this way!”
The second time I snapped at him was after I had gotten back on the bed. We were waiting on the doctor to show up and I was lying on my back, pushing with each contraction. After one of these contractions, he tells me I need to breathe. I snapped at him that I was pushing (I admittedly was holding my breath to push, but I’m one who can’t effectively push without holding my breath). He proceded to tell me that I was turning purple.
It was that point that my mom said that we weren’t waiting for the doctor anymore and took over. She told me that with the next contraction I was going to do that curl-up-around-your-belly-with-your-chin-to-your-chest-and-your-knees-by-your-ears pushing. My son was out in just a few pushes, sans dr.
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Jane Reply:
July 31st, 2010 at 3:44 pm (Quote)
My Patient Husband was asked by his office-mate and office-mate’s wife, “Have you ever experienced sympathetic pregnancy?”
My Patient Husband, bless him for thinking so fast, didn’t even turn around from his desk but replied with a deadpan, “No. I’ve discovered that the key to not experiencing sympathetic pregnancy is not to be sympathetic.”
He said the silence behind him was deafening as they tried to figure out whether he was joking. LOL!
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prochoice doula Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 2:25 pm (Quote)
Awe, aren’t some dads just wonderful? I think male partners especially are awed by their partners’ strength and ability to bring a baby into the world, whether or not they have pain meds. I have a very good male friend whose wife had a cesarean, and he was still all crazy in awe of how she brought their little girl into the world. <3
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mommymichael had this to say,
Jul 31, 2010 @ 12:55 pm (Quote)
I said about the same damn thing during labor, except to my mom.. “mom grab my leg, mom grab my leg, mom grab my leg!!!” and then I breathed babies head out!!!
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I remember being very vocal, just screaming in general but not really at anyone. No one cared. Its part of labor doc. Don’t like it? Get a new job.
By the way, feelings are mutual. I’m glad I’m not your wife too because I think you’re a prick!
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I’m pretty certain that 1) this doctor is a tool and 2) the husband is too wrapped up in the superhuman feat his wife just accomplished to have his wittle feewings huwrt over getting howwered at *saccharine baby voice*.
All mine said this past December, over and over, between giggles because I was bouncing on the ball yelling, “PEACE!!!!!” and “She’s coming down!” was “Oh…damn, honey..you’re amazing. Thank you. I love you. You can do this. *Sob sob sniffle*
(yes, he’s a softie.)
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Ahahah! Oh I would have loved to have this Ob in my labour room all 3 times. Im a screamer! I have to admit I get vocal as soon as I hit transition. Ive thrown a couple of kicks (broke one docs nose) for doc being a douche, and my hubby takes it all in his stride! My last one, the only comfortable place for my foot was straight up in the air pushing on his bicep. I was laying on my back at an angle birthing off the edge of the bed (I put myself that way… Not sure why but I felt it comfortable) and the nurse just kept cracking up that its a good thing hes so tall or it would have been face-foot instead *giggles*
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The OB that was part of my delivery told my husband to shut up. LOL. It seems my husband said “Push harder, I think she went back in a little” I don’t remember either comment. I had an epidural which led to pitocin, which led. . . you know the story, I managed to avoid the C/S though even though my daughter was face up
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