Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“…When A Patient…Comes Into The Hospital With A Birth Plan, I just Prepare The Operating Room…”
“Oh, well, when a patient of mine comes into the hospital with a birth plan, I just prepare the operating room for a cesarean because that’s where she’s going to end up.” -OB to mother discussing birth plans.
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Another doctor confirming the fact that the system doesn’t value a woman’s autonomy or respect a woman’s right to informed consent and refusal. Another doctor confirming the God complex. If I hear one more person say something to this effect, I may just go crazy.
It’s not funny to make jokes about major abdominal surgery. It is despicable to treat someone’s preferences of how they want THEIR body, THEIR labor, and THEIR baby treated as a joke.
Can we just automatically fire anyone who makes such blatantly misogynist, classist statements?
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Lindsey Carr-Ruck Reply:
July 23rd, 2010 at 5:36 pm (Quote)
It’s totally fine to fire a doc for things like that. I had a clinet fire her OB at 6cm because the doc wanted to “break that water, get you an epidural, and have us a baby” and said that if she was his patient, she had to do what he said. The doc had previously been supportive (supposedly) of a natural labor/delivery.
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Kit Reply:
July 23rd, 2010 at 6:01 pm (Quote)
A friend of mine (at sixteen) was assured by her OB that she would be allowed to give birth “However she wanted” and then while she was in labor tried to tell her to get on the table and put her feet in the stirrups because “This is my hospital, and I’m the boss, so you need to be a good little girl.”
She told him that that was fine, but it was HER baby, HER body, and HER insurance agent was her uncle, so forget getting paid. Then she put on her boyfriend’s letterman jacket over her nightgown and left.
I think she actually had the kid at home and didn;t mention it to her sleeping parents until the next morning. (She didn’t want them with her during the delivery from the start, she said the fewer people seeing her “Pooping her little Pygmy” the better.)
That girl has always been a contrary, mean creature, but she gets what she wants. She’s also one of only two of my friends who is still with her highschool sweetie. (The poor football player whose jacket she put on to leave)
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Alyson Miers Reply:
July 23rd, 2010 at 6:05 pm (Quote)
That girl is one badass mama.
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Sarah Dorrance-Minch Reply:
July 24th, 2010 at 12:11 pm (Quote)
Yes. We definitely need more of them. We can learn so much from them. It’s dangerous to be sugar and spice and everything nice.
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Kit Reply:
July 24th, 2010 at 9:11 pm (Quote)
Yup, she’s pretty admirable. Not just because she called his luff either. (He followed her to the parking lot and yelled at her…) But also because she finished high school even though the administration tried to tell her should go to the “special school” (She refused. She was a straight A student before her baby came, and she remained one too.)
Everyone who knows her agrees she is a contrary creature, which she is. But she gets things done. She wants to be a midwife
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“Well, we only do c-sections here, because they’re more convenient. So why don’t we just schedule your birth now?” Thanks doc, but I think you need to schedule a removal of your foot from your mouth.
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Sarah Dorrance-Minch Reply:
July 24th, 2010 at 12:12 pm (Quote)
This foot looks good and stuck. Better get the mid-forceps.
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JoAnna had this to say,
Jul 23, 2010 @ 4:44 pm (Quote)
Hmmmm… I’ve gone into 3 different hospitals with birth plans and have had 3 vaginal drug-free births.
That OB can suck it.
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Cmat Reply:
July 23rd, 2010 at 5:58 pm (Quote)
Ditto except only one birth (so far, next due March 25th) and while I forgot the birth plan at home I did make the nurse go find the form for me and I filled it out when I was in early labor. My experience wasn’t totally drug free, but no epidural and no section.
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Sarah Dorrance-Minch had this to say,
Jul 23, 2010 @ 4:58 pm (Quote)
Naturally, I “dislike” this submission (detest, loathe, despise, malign, etc etc) but you know that’s what the vast majority of OBs quietly think to themselves. At least this one was caught being unusually honest about it.
LDRP nurses have been caught saying similar things too. Often. No, not all of them – just the ones that fit a certain description (burned out, routine-obsessed, no compassion left in them whatsoever, callous, tactless, and likely to wind up quoted on here for the peanut gallery to throw things at).
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Alyson Miers had this to say,
Jul 23, 2010 @ 5:18 pm (Quote)
Good to know you like punishing women for trying to be engaged in their own childbirths, Doctor Douchewaffle! We wouldn’t want them to think they’re the ones having the babies, now would we?
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I cannot figure out why doctors think women should enter into motherhood without any kind of voice whatsoever. This statement (I think it is more common than we’d like), just goes to show how doctors like to punish women for their opinions, and their babies too. It’s sick. They should be removed from practice.
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We need to educate more women that they don’t have to put up with this ****…tell them birth is normal, get a midwife,preferably a homebirth mw, and by using thier pocketbooks, put the sOBs out of business….
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Mama Wears Combat Boots Reply:
July 23rd, 2010 at 8:08 pm (Quote)
Yes, exactly Cathi!!! That’s just what I did for my third birth….a wonderful homebirth paid completely out of pocket. I am in contact with my congressman to raise attention to the fact that Tricare (the military’s insurance) wouldn’t cover my homebirth. I’m saving the taxpayers money yet it wasn’t covered. It’s really dispicable.
Oh, and “sOBs”…good one!
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Tracy Reply:
July 24th, 2010 at 2:11 pm (Quote)
Triare paid for 2 of my homebirths and is about to pay for another. The trick is, that it has to be a CNM or CPM and you have to get a referral from your PCM.
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ladydilee Reply:
July 24th, 2010 at 3:33 pm (Quote)
Of course, if there are no midwives who do homebirth in the Tricare system, you are SOL. Also, officially, they don’t support it. Everytime I called them asking about it, they nixxed the idea, and said that they didn’t cover homebirth. The only way I could find that they would cover it would be if you were completely out of a Tricare area and were approved to go out of system. Then they would have no say what-so-ever over who you picked. Please tell me if I missed something.
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Krista had this to say,
Jul 25, 2010 @ 9:45 am (Quote)
To play the devil’s advocate for a very brief second…I’m going to assume this was meant purely as an “I don’t want to jinx your wishes” comment. HOWEVER…I still find it disgusting because it undermines what Mama’s hoping for and it’s beyond rude to blow her off. Birth plans are supposed to be there to help guide the delivery by answering common questions instead of them having to be asked during labor – unless complications arise that make those decisions genuinely dangerous. Not like “if you don’t have an episiotomy you might tear a little” dangerous, but “your uterus has ruptured” dangerous. Unless there’s a true emergency, doc, the best way for you to get out of this birth with your n*ts still attached is to read and follow the birth plan!
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CCindy Reply:
July 26th, 2010 at 8:26 am (Quote)
The doctor could have a point if the Hospital is the first time he/she is seeing this birth plan and he/she is the regular OB rather than a back-up. These things really should be discussed along the way. Of course in rereading, the mom seems to be trying to discuss up front and the Doc seems to be avoiding the conversation.
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“Conveniently, my birth plan involves leaving your practice and finding a care provider who won’t try to sabotage me. Thank you so much for your time and honesty.”
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Jessica Reply:
July 23rd, 2010 at 4:32 pm Jessica(Quote)
My thoughts exactly!
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