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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“You Gotta Push Through It!”
“You gotta push through it!” -Family Practice doctor to mother who said that she felt like she was going to tear as she was about to crown, but who listened to her doctor and ended up blasting out her entire baby in one push and a huge tear.
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It just boggles my mind that doctors don’t understand this. The “ring of fire” is the mother tearing. If she doesn’t push through it she won’t tear.
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Jane Reply:
May 9th, 2010 at 6:16 pm (Quote)
Actually, I had the “ring of fire” with my second birth but didn’t tear with her. The RoF is the “stretched to the max” sensation.
I did perineal massage starting in the 36th week with babies 3, 4 and 5 and experienced no RoF sensation at all because I’d gotten those tissues used to being stretched.
That doesn’t excuse docs and nurses who bellow in your face that you MUST push NOW or else the moon will fall from the sky and land on a bus full of nuns in Cleveland, of course. Very few women need to be reminded that they’re having a baby.
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Heather P Reply:
May 9th, 2010 at 8:06 pm (Quote)
Pardon me, I misspoke.
I didn’t mean that if a woman simply pushed through the ring of fire she would tear. I meant that if she PPPUUUSSSHHHed
1…
2…
3….
4…..
5…….
6………
7…. “Don’t breathe Damn it!”
8………….
9……………..
10 “Okay now, quick gasp and do it again without breathing”
She’d likely tear.
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Sheva Reply:
May 10th, 2010 at 5:40 am (Quote)
Purple Pushing!
I hate when you see the nurse counting, counting…..counting, and then at like 6 she takes a deeeep breath and counts some more. I’d like to shriek at her – if you need a breath at 6, how do you think the MOM is feeling right about then?!?@W#$
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Mama Mirage had this to say,
May 13, 2010 @ 7:35 pm (Quote)
Ugh. I hope my new midwife won’t be bossy about the pushing with this baby. This is one thing that annoys me so bad during labor is being told when and when not to push. For goodness’ sake I think I know when the contrax are and when my hooha needs a break better than they do.
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I was actually very explicit about all this in my BP. I didnt want to be told when or when NOT to push… I just wanted to push when I felt the need, for however long I felt to push for. It worked for number 2, and it worked for number 3.
Number 1 was an extremely traumatic birth for a 15yo, I sustained a 4* tear after a very badly done episiotomy, venthouse, forceps… all because one nurse thought it was a good idea to overdose me on pethidine (back labour). She was a bitch, and so was the resident that delivered my son. But my Obs was unavailable as she was delivering my neighbours baby via CS (she had a cervical stitch after losing 4 babies to early labour, so a vag birth was a no go 
) and missed it LOL.
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Serene Reply:
May 17th, 2010 at 12:28 am (Quote)
sorry I should clarify… I got that tear because I had no urge to push as I was all but unconscious. If I pushed when they told me to, I didnt know where I was pushing, and the only time anything happened, he moved barely enough to even crown. I pooped more than he crowned
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Yikes! Actually, I heard from a friend that if you count to 5 and don’t push just as you feel the “ring of fire”, you won’t tear. I tried it. I only tore a teeny tiny bit (like two almost unnecessary stitches worth). Tell me again why so many MEN go into the job of delivering babies, since there is 0% chance they’ll ever get to give birth…
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Jen Reply:
December 14th, 2011 at 3:35 pm (Quote)
Instead of letting my body do it’s job my OB had me push for almost two hours (I know now that she had me begin pushing way too early) and then threatened me with a C-section because things weren’t moving quickly enough (on her timeframe, I assume, since I had only been at the hospital for a little over 4 hours at that point). I was terrified of having one so I pushed as hard as I possibly could and I ended up with a 3rd degree tear and a labial tear. This OB was a *woman*.
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*sigh* It’s like trying to take a crap when you can’t, doc. Think of how your rectum feels when you’re straining. Same thing.
Poor mama.
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