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Posted by My OB said WHAT?!?.
“…Don’t You Think Your Husband Would Rather You Had A Cesarean?”
“This is the size of a normal vaginal opening (gesturing), and THIS is the size it is when a baby’s passing through. Don’t you think your husband would rather you had a Cesarean?” -OB to mother prenatally.
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The Deranged Housewife had this to say,
Apr 24, 2010 @ 5:00 am (Quote)
“Doctor, you’re a terrible salesman! I’m going with the vaginal!” This has to be one of the worst ploys to talk someone into a c-section that I’ve heard in like …. a week.
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Alana had this to say,
Apr 24, 2010 @ 6:13 am (Quote)
Yes because every couple that has a vaginal birth will not have anymore children…ever!
I know my husband would rather watch me be sliced open, struggle to take care of a newborn and recover from surgery, have a greater risk of complications and death than watch my body actually do something it was specifically designed to do….right…
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The Deranged Housewife Reply:
April 25th, 2010 at 5:34 pm (Quote)
My husband was present for my VBAC, and said how amazing it was to watch our daughter being born. On the other hand, he also walked into the OR just as they had me wide open and blood all over the floor, and didn’t quite get the same feeling. 
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beccaisadoula had this to say,
Apr 24, 2010 @ 6:15 am (Quote)
partlysbabe had this to say,
Apr 24, 2010 @ 7:13 am (Quote)
“uh”….. Just “uh”…. I mean WTF Doc?
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I don’t understand why its perfectly accepted that male genitalia can increase in size and return to normal but when female genitalia does the same thing its “stretched out” and for some reason won’t go back to its regular size. You think men are worried that they’ll get “stretched out” when they have an erection?
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I don’t understand why its perfectly accepted that male genitalia can increase in size and return to normal but when female genitalia does the same thing its “stretched out” and for some reason won’t go back to its regular size.You think men are worried that they’ll get “stretched out” when they have an erection?
Most men would probably love to stay that size 
I guess this OB is from the “old elastic” school, as in it’s just got one good stretch in it and then it snaps!
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Lets see, exactly what is the monetary difference between a C/S and uncomplicated vaginal delivery? How exactly is this justified to insurance companies for reimbursement? Almost sounds a little like insurance fraud. You think he’s getting a kick back of some sort? I’ve worked with an OBGYN that whenever a dad says ” put an extra stitch in there ” comes back with ” That doesn’t say much for you” meaning ” DUDE, are you saying you have a small penis?” That’s probably the only thing I like about him.
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StaudtCJ Reply:
April 24th, 2010 at 12:45 pm (Quote)
Yay for the OBGYN you worked with! Sounds like a good ‘un. People need to write letters on the internet and to hospitals and such about good OBs and Midwives. Maybe that would also make a difference. “You have only 2 good letters in your file out of 15 births? Wow. Combined with your 65% C-section rate, I’d be worried about your future here ate Childbirth Hospital, Dr.Bad.” Or even “You have a 65% section rate, but 85% of your patients send good letters about you. You must be a really high risk birth specialist!”
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As soon as husbands have a babies – they can have the c-sections.
In the meantime, I am glad that hubbie caught our last two at home with a midwife present. Even having needed some stitches, that was way better than being cut from stem-to-stern like I was the first time.
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And as soon as my husband is the one who hauls around this belly for 9 months (along with all the discomforts that come with the joys), he can have a preference. Until then, I think I’ll worry more about what’s in the best interests of myself and my baby.
Also, I want to point out that my husband was my biggest supporter when it came to having an unmedicated vaginal birth. I don’t know that I would have been able to do it without him. HE wanted what was best for me and the baby, not what sounded better to him. I think me having major surgery would have freaked him out more than watching me push out a baby and tear in 3 places.
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“So let me get this straight. Now the standard of care is to initiate a surgical procedure not for the mother’s health, and not for the baby’s health, and not at the mother’s request for convenience, but for the husband’s presumed sexual satisfaction? Would you care to put that in writing? And also, I was wondering if you could print me out some studies backing up this claim.”
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Think rubber band, genius. “When a baby is passing through” – - but then it goes back to the way it was!
Although, in my case, it’s better now than ever, and I have four vaginally-birthed kids. Don’t know exactly why or how, but I’m not complaining!
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Cmat Reply:
April 24th, 2010 at 10:44 pm (Quote)
I haven’t birthed four, but after one there certainly doesn’t seem to be any problems!
I don’t know why people don’t understand that our bodies are MADE for this. If baby was meant to come out of our stomach through our stomach our belly button would be a door knob and no cutting would be involved unless the door got stuck! Not knocking c-section mommas by any means, I know sometimes it is necessary and some women don’t mind it. It just annoys me that its become common practice.
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*IF* this were even remotely an appropriate conversation to be having at a prenatal, I would mention that my husband and I will be back in business much sooner with a vaginal birth than after major surgery. And that will make him happy, too.
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Actually NO. I just had a c-section 2 weeks ago. My son was breech and after 3 hours of pushing with no progress in 5 different positions we jointly decided to do a c-section. My husband was very sad about it and he has been great helping in my recovery. My son weighed in at 10lbs and 15ounces and his shoulders were bigger than his head so there’s a reason I wasn’t making progress.
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ummm…Because, you know, the vagina has no elasticity, and will STAY that big??!?!
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